"'Choose wise, understanding, and knowledgeable men from among your tribes, and I will make them heads over you.’"---Deuteronomy 1:13(NKJV)
"And in life, it is all about choices we make. And how the direction of our lives comes down to the choices we choose."---Catherine Pulsifer
Earlier today, I heard someone say, "No, she 'happened to be there'. You 'chose to be'." I'm sure enough of y'all know how I am (in this vein) by now to know that a sistah thinks hard (LOL). I really did ponder (Proverbs 4:26) over that. And in the context of this blog, how many men "happen to be" somewhere and how many women *choose to be in their space*. As a direct result.
How many women get themselves into emotional/spiritual/sexual/relational/financial trouble all because they *choose* to be where someone *happens* to be.
And then I thought about some reading (2 Timothy 2:15-AMP) that I've been doing about the Promised Land. How Moses, *with Adonai's cosign*, instructed the people of Israel to *choose* wise, understanding and knowledgeable men to be heads over them.
And how, as I'm still praying for the women who made specific requests re: the *individual features* (Psalm 33:15) of their future covenant partners, I *then* thought about how that verse of instruction applies to women who desire marriage even today. How it's not good enough to just or simply want a husband, or to even settle for the ones who *happen to be* in our (physical or heart) space. That how, as the upcoming priests, kings and lords of our future homes, we are to *choose* men (I could do a whole blog alone on just choosing a *man*-I Corinthians 13:11) that are WISE, UNDERSTANDING and KNOWLEDGEABLE to be heads over us (Ephesians 5:23). How we should *wait* until the Lord comes to us and says something similar as he did of Bezael the son of Uri, the son of Hur, of the tribe of Judah:
"And I have filled him with the Spirit of God, in wisdom, in understanding, in knowledge, and in all manner of workmanship..."---Exodus 31:3(NKJV)
What kind of peace of mind one must have when they know that the Lord has filled someone with his Spirit (John 4:24). Indeed, women need to wait for the Lord to *choose* their *choice*.
You know, I recently heard a (character) minister say, "God would never destroy a relationship that he created." Now *that's* something to think about. You know, I'm in a counseling session in this season with a woman who basically can't stand her husband (anymore) but maintains that the Lord told her that he was her husband. Now, there's a lot to be said for timing. There's also a lot to be said for *telling God* who is your man vs. *asking him* because when you ask, he promises to give you wisdom (James 1:5, Proverbs 2) and to tell you things that you probably wouldn't know otherwise (Jeremiah 33:3). Yet, being that she maintains that as a fact (Ecclesiastes 7:18-Message), although she's about sick of me right now (LOL), I continue to hold her to her truth. If God said it, he's *especially* not going to condone the covenant ending (Malachi 2:16). Indeed, God is faithful. *Even when we are not* (2 Timothy 2:13). He will not deny himself nor the standards and principles that he puts into place. I'm praying that truth will free (John 8:32) her from her bitterness. Sooner than later. Bitterness is a troublemaker (Hebrews 12:15).
Yet as for us, the "On Fire" gals, I hope discerning her situation can be your teacher rather than allowing experience to be. If you believe that what you are in, relationship-wise, is of God, there is no "falling in or out". Don't make a mockery (Galatians 6:7) out of God by speaking your emotions rather than his directives. Even, and especially, in matters of the heart. And if you're not sure, take some steps back and think again what about what it takes for a man to be the head of a home. Not just any home. *Your home*. Cute is a not a synonym of wisdom. Potential is not a synonym of understanding. Charismatic is not a synonym of knowledgeable.
Ecclesiastes 8:5 tells us that a *wise man* discerns both time and judgment. A wise woman does the same.
Some of us are getting closer. Therefore more and more options are presenting themselves. *To distract us*.
You can only have one husband. Don't just happen upon one. *Choose him*. WISELY.