Monday, November 7, 2011
BOOK RECOMMENDATION: "More Than Me: The 4 Essentials of Relational Wholeness" (Jim Petersen, Glenn McMahan, David A. Russ)
"On our wedding day, in all our youthful naivete, my wife and I (Glenn) did at least one thing right: We made a decision that our togetherness would never be called into question, no matter what hardships we might face.
Since then we've experienced the same difficulties in life that most people face---financial uncertainty, the exhausting but rewarding job of raising children, emotional ups and downs, the death of close relatives, times of loneliness, and the ever-present demands of work.
After more than twenty-one years, our marriage is still beautiful and strong. There is not an ounce of doubt about the permanence of our relationship. We're not the most exciting and vivacious people in the world, but we make a good team. We have a very peaceful relationship. There is no power struggle between us, and therefore almost no conflict. Our values and beliefs are the same. We accept one another when we fail.
But the marriage is not perfect. The struggle in recent years has been to find time to enjoy life together the way we did when we were younger. The pressures of work and raising children can steal the spark and spontaneity from life. As a husband, I love my wife and kids so much that, for fear of making a painful mistake, I often fail to be decisive in big decisions. That can leave my wife feeling like she's in limbo. And there are days when a sullen mood can get the best of me, which saps life from her.
Nevertheless, our marriage has always been a refuge for our souls. If the world around us fell apart, we know that we would be standing together, arm-in-arm among the ruins. Musician Bruce Cockburn wrote lyrics that describe well what I feel about Michelle:
If this were the last night of the world what would I do?
What would I do that was different unless it what champagne with you?
Our unity hinges on our mutual belief in God. We love because he loved us first. We forgive one another because he has forgiven us. As we each fix our eyes upon Christ and follow him, he draws us together. His presence in our daily lives strengthens us and counsels us.
When we first married, we decided that we would make Jesus and his Word the foundation and the North Star for our lives..."---"Epilogue", pg.211-212
You can cop it (for you or someone else) here.