THERE IS SAFETY IN *WISE* COUNSEL (Proverbs 24:6).
On the subject of learning from one's mistakes, I will listening to a part of an online radio show a little while ago. I found this part to be really pivotal. And cool:
"How many people do you allow you help you see? You only have two eyes. Two eyes often aren't enough when we've made a mistake. Because either we want to deny it, want to minimize it, wanna say, 'You know it's not really that big a deal.' OR WE EVEN JUST WANT TO SAY IT'S NOT A MISTAKE. Or, you're gonna spend your time in that really destructive backwards glance where you get a stiff neck 'cause you're spending so much time being consumed by the mistake you made. So the advantage of having someone else's eyes in the mix with you...you need someone to think about it with you....WHAT MIGHT THE LESSON BE?...So that you can look at your mistake in a more broader, more wholesome context."
If you want to check out the program, in its entirety, go here.
And with that said, if you're ready to stop *going back to your mistakes* (more and more, I am fascinated by people who *go back* to things), here are some cool excerpts from an article entitled, "How to Learn from Your Mistakes":
The four kinds of mistakes
One way to categorize mistakes is into these categories:
Stupid: Absurdly dumb things that just happen. Stubbing your toe, dropping your pizza on your neighbor’s fat cat or poking yourself in the eye with a banana.
Simple: Mistakes that are avoidable but your sequence of decisions made inevitable. Having the power go out in the middle of your party because you forgot to pay the rent, or running out of beer at said party because you didn’t anticipate the number of guests.
Involved: Mistakes that are understood but require effort to prevent. Regularly arriving late to work/friends, eating fast food for lunch every day, or going bankrupt at your start-up company because of your complete ignorance of basic accounting.
Complex: Mistakes that have complicated causes and no obvious way to avoid next time. Examples include making tough decisions that have bad results, relationships that fail, or other unpleasant or unsatisfying outcomes to important things.
The learning from mistakes checklist:
Accepting responsibility makes learning possible.
Don’t equate making mistakes with being a mistake.
You can’t change mistakes, but you can choose how to respond to them.
Growth starts when you can see room for improvement.
Work to understand why it happened and what the factors were.
What information could have avoided the mistake?
What small mistakes, in sequence, contributed to the bigger mistake?
Are there alternatives you should have considered but did not?
What kinds of changes are required to avoid making this mistake again?What kinds of change are difficult for you?
How do you think your behavior should/would change in you were in a similar situation again?
Work to understand the mistake until you can make fun of it (or not want to kill others that make fun).
Don’t over-compensate: the next situation won’t be the same as the last.
It's an "ouch!" word, but a Word nonetheless:
"You're not getting by with anything. Every refusal and avoidance of God adds fuel to the fire. The day is coming when it's going to blaze hot and high, God's fiery and righteous judgment. Make no mistake: In the end you get what's coming to you—Real Life for those who work on God's side, but to those who insist on getting their own way and take the path of least resistance, Fire!"---Romans 2:5-8(Message)
I'll be *the first* to attest to the fact that Adonai doesn't let us "skip a grade". We will remain, on some level, in the same space until we *really learn*. Look for the lessons of your past, apply those tools to your present, in preparation for blessed promotions in the future. IN.THAT.ORDER. (Psalm 37:23)