Well, it seems like the complacency issue, rather the *breaking out of a state of complacency* issue, will be a theme of focus for a bit longer. I actually just have a summary of a book that I recommend you print off and marinate on (Proverbs 4:26) and a book that I suggest you purchasing.
We'll do the latter first:
I have been a *big fan* of authors, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend for quite some time now. If you're not familiar with them, they are, what I call, the Boundary Kings. They have been gifted (Romans 11:29) with a *wealth* of knowledge on how to set, keep and honor other people's boundaries. Anyway, a book that Dr. Cloud penned some years back, I think may help some of you who have written me requesting prayer. It's entitled, "Changes That Heal" and one excerpt of the first chapter states that:
"Each section of this book begins with the story of a Christian struggling with bonding, setting boundaries, sorting out issues of good and bad, or becoming an adult...
First, we all struggle with all four issues. There are no clear-cut lines between the issues. Because of the Fall, we will be able to see all four issues in our lives. Our sanctification has a lot to do with resolving these issues in God's way.
Second, there is no such thing as either an emotional problem or a spiritual problem. We all have broken relationships with God, others and ourselves. Because of this brokenness, we develop symptoms that develop on an emotional level and are lived out in our spiritual lives. For that reason, we need a spiritual solution that involves our emotions, and any spiritual solution must be one of love. Relationship reconciliation is at the base of all healing.
In the final analysis, therefore, this is a book about relationship, and the barriers that must be broken down for us to have a real relationship with God, others and ourselves. Any solution short of a relational one is a solution short of love.
Third, our symptoms are not the problem. For years Christians have focused on the symptoms and not the issues. As a result, healing has been superficial. We must learn to use our symptoms as signs that lead us to issues. Issues can be resolved; symptoms cannot. If we resolve the issues, the symptoms will no longer have reason to be.
Fourth, meaning, purpose, satisfaction, and fulfillment are fruits of these issues. Meaning comes from love, which flows out of bonding. Purpose comes from direction and truth, which form boundaries. Satisfaction comes from having the less than perfect 'be good enough' in the light of God's ideal, and fulfillment comes from the adult ability to exercise talents.
And last, 'the greatest of these is love' (I Corinthians 13:13). What I have written about is a model that can help us become functioning human beings. But if that is the final goal, we have sold ourselves short. We were made to love, and the fully functioning person is one who takes his bonded, separate, forgiving, adult self into a world and denies that self for the sake of others...
Work on your ability to attach to others so that you can have your empty heart filled. Work on setting boundaries so that you can own your own life. Work on confessing and receiving forgiveness so you can develop your real personhood. Work on assuming adulthood so that you can be an authority. Then go out and give it to others. Remember, 'Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.' (John 15:13) God bless you."
And to build upon it, there is a book that I was introduced to, some years back, entitled, "The Four Agreements" (Don Miguel Ruiz). It would be classified as New Age and so I decided to just include its four points, in the form of a summary, below. If you really make it a point to apply them, *consistently*, with responsible intent, complacency will begin to dissolve. In very radical ways. *I guarantee it!*
Be Impeccable with Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Impeccable means “without sin” and a sin is something you do or believe that goes against yourself. It means not speaking against yourself, to yourself or to others. It means not rejecting yourself. To be impeccable means to take responsibility for yourself, to not participate in “the blame game.”
Regarding the word, the rules of “action-reaction” apply. What you put out energetically will return to you. Proper use of the word creates proper use of energy, putting out love and gratitude perpetuates the same in the universe. The converse is also true.
Impeccability starts at home. Be impeccable with yourself and that will reflect in your life and your relationships with others. This agreement can help change thousands of other agreements, especially ones that create fear instead of love.
Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.We take things personally when we agree with what others have said. If we didn't agree, the things that others say would not affect us emotionally. If we did not care about what others think about us, their words or behavior could not affect us.
Even if someone yells at you, gossips about you, harms you or yours, it still is not about you! Their actions and words are based on what they believe in their personal dream.
Our personal “Book of Law” and belief system makes us feel safe. When people have beliefs that are different from our own, we get scared, defend ourselves, and impose our point of view on others. If someone gets angry with us it is because our belief system is challenging their belief system and they get scared. They need to defend their point of view. Why become angry, create conflict, and expend energy arguing when you are aware of this?
Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.When we make assumptions it is because we believe we know what others are thinking and feeling. We believe we know their point of view, their dream. We forget that our beliefs are just our point of view based on our belief system and personal experiences and have nothing to do with what others think and feel.
We make the assumption that everybody judges us, abuses us, victimizes us, and blames us the way we do ourselves. As a result we reject ourselves before others have the chance to reject us. When we think this way, it becomes difficult to be ourselves in the world.
Take action and be clear to others about what you want or do not want; do not gossip and make assumptions about things others tell you. Respect other points of view and avoid arguing just to be right. Respect yourself and be honest with yourself. Stop expecting the people around you to know what is in your head.
Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
Doing your best means enjoying the action without expecting a reward. The pleasure comes from doing what you like in life and having fun, not from how much you get paid. Enjoy the path traveled and the destination will take care of itself.
Living in the moment and releasing the past helps us to do the best we can in the moment. It allows us to be fully alive right now, enjoying what is present, not worrying about the past or the future.
Have patience with yourself. Take action. Practice forgiveness. If you do your best always, transformation will happen as a matter of course.
Aight, Ladies. Lots on the docket today and so I'm off for now.
Still prayin' for your (further) transformations.
Love to you,