AND INDEED YOU DO. CHECK IT:
"Peace is an indicator. When our intended comes, our heart and mind may flip which way, while underneath is a peace totally unfamiliar to us. Outside we may be turned every which way but to peace, while inside there is no storm at all. Something has settled. When we are trying to discover, especially concerning one who doesn't yet know the Lord, our logical mind may do convolutions about itself. We may run in endless circles, opposing every thought with its opposite, getting nowhere in a hurry. And yet at the same time there may be a gentle inner knowing. Again, time is the friend of God and man; haste is the enemy. Such inner knowing and resultant calm will stand the test of time; passion and lust will not.
Sometimes lasting friendship is difficult to divide from spouse love, especially since love sometimes enters first by the door of friendship. We often confuse burden-bearing love with romance, or transference with love. All too often prayer ministers think they have 'fallen in love' with a person to whom they are ministering. Such relationships might, but seldom do, develop into marital love. Relationships based on need are always unstable and can seldom stand transition into two free equals freely choosing each other. Possessiveness frequently masks itself as love. All the above confusions are best sifted by time. The Holy Spirit is the giver of discernment, but as in the healing of the inner man, ripeness is the key capacity to hear Him. We must be careful not to pluck fruit before it ripens. Perhaps this is another meaning of the warning 'I adjure you...that you not arouse or awaken my love, until she pleases' (Song of Sol. 2:7, 3:5, 8:4---three times the Word uses very similar words!)."---"Becoming One Means Really Leaving Father and Mother"---pg.83
We've all heard the phrase, "Let go and let God." Some of us don't realize just how real that really is. An "On Fire" sistah (thanks Jennifer D.!) introduced me to these words in Jude, oh, about a couple of years ago:
"Relax, everything's going to be all right; rest, everything's coming together; open your hearts, love is on the way!"---Jude 1:2(Message)
Adonai's words do not return to him void (Isaiah 55:11). You don't have to "make love happen". You simply need to *let God happen* in your love relationships. And yes, sometimes, that requires loosening your grip so that you can gain a clearer perspective. On you, God and the other individual.
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In the wise words of Ms. Whitley Gilbert ("A Different World"), it's OK to "Relax, Relate and Release" when you're releasing it all over to the Master, the Creator...the Giver of Love.
Still prayin'. For your progress and your peace of mind.