In having a bit of a counseling session with a male friend of mine re: a "slip up" in his relationship, this was his closing statement:
"Take a little advice from me...at this point, make sure to continue to wait. It's so not worth it. On top of all of that, it was not good...not because I didn't somewhat enjoy it, but as you well know, sex is a full body experience. Your heart, mind and soul really needs to be into it to make it the way it's supposed to be. If your heart is convicted that it's wrong, your heart isn't into it. Therefore, your mind wants to go along but doesn't completely go along, so it's there, but it's going through the motions, not giving it 100%. Your flesh is always willing, but it's not driven, so it's half-stepping at best. From what my friends have told me, even if you're a player, you're still totally wrapped up 'in the moment' until the moment is over. None of that was happening for me...or her, really. Don't do it...not only is it not following God's best for you, it's also a waste of time."