"Before I realized it, my desire for you made me feel like a prince in a chariot."---Song of Solomon 6:12(NCV)
I really dig the Song of Solomon for a lot of reasons and so every now and then, I will revisit it. I'm pretty sure that a big part of what draws me to it is because I got my start as a writer as a poet and it's some of the best romantic poetry that I've ever read---*hands down*.
Anyway, when I "happened upon" (Proverbs 16:33-AMP) the particular line above in Song of Solomon 6:12 late last week, I found myself at a pause. Did this man actually say that his desire for the Shulamite woman was so strong that it made him feel like a prince on a chariot?!? OK, not *having her* but simply *desiring her* made him feel this way? His wish for her...his longing for her...*his craving for her*...made him feel like royalty. That within itself is pretty powerful! But let's keep going.
If you've been reading these long enough, then you know I tend to look at things well beyond the surface and so, in pondering this particular verse, it translated to me that his desire didn't just make him feel royal but *progressively royal* because, indeed, who just gets up in a chariot for no reason? Back in biblical times, a chariot was a mode of transportation, was it not? More specifically, it was a two-horse drawn carriage that men of prestige rode in during warfare, racing and hunting. So, you could almost translate this to mean that just the mere craving of the Shulamite woman made this man feel like a royal person who could handle just about anything! And yes, that says a mouthful too!
Now here's the thing: For a man to crave you, for a man to greatly and eagerly desire you, for a man to yearn for you, this means that there are certain things that will be apparent in the way that he acts towards you. How do I know? Because the very definition of yearn is "to have an earnest or strong desire; long" and "to feel tenderness; be moved or attracted". A man who yearns for you will be tender, he will be attracted...*he will be moved*. HE WILL MAKE A MOVE.
And then there's this commentary that I read on some of the synonyms of the word on Dictionary.com:
Yearn, long, hanker, pine all mean to feel a powerful desire for something. Yearn stresses the depth and passionateness of a desire: to yearn to get away and begin a new life; to yearn desperately for recognition. Long implies a wholehearted desire for something that is or seems unattainable: to long to relive one's childhood; to long for the warmth of summer. Hanker suggests a restless or incessant craving to fulfill some urge or desire: to hanker for a promotion; to hanker after fame and fortune. Pine adds the notion of physical or emotional suffering as a result of the real or apparent hopelessness of one's desire: to pine for one's native land; to pine for a lost love.
A yearning is a powerful desire. A yearning is a passionate desire. A longing is a *wholehearted* desire. A hankering is an *incessant craving to fulfill an urge*. A pining is a physical or emotional suffering that comes at the mere thought of not being able to have what is desired.
Hmph. Is it just me or does this sound a lot like one of my favorite parables in the Bible:
"Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant seeking beautiful pearls, who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had and bought it."---Matthew 13:45-46(NKJV)
We are to *yearn* for the kingdom of heaven just like that merchant *yearned* for that one pearl of great price. He wanted it so much so, in fact, that he sold *all that he had*...he was willing to give up all that he had in order to have it.
TO HAVE ACCESS TO THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN, WE MUST BE WILLING TO GIVE UP *ALL* THAT WE HAVE IN ORDER TO OBTAIN IT. (MATTHEW 19:16-22, LUKE 9:23-27) WE HAVE TO WANT IT *WHOLEHEARTEDLY*.
It's kind of sad how low a lot of our standards, as women, have dropped. We spend (or is it waste?) more time trying to decipher a man's feelings or even compensate for what's lacking rather than accepting the fact that men in the the Bible, when they wanted a woman to be their bride/wife, they made their intentions *clear*. Jacob did it. King Xerses did it. Boaz did it. Rachel, Esther and Ruth didn't put themselves through any "I wonder if he likes me. Let me look in a relationship magazine for 10 signs of how to know or call eight of my girlfriends to get their vote so that I can feel secure." Back then, a man's intentions was not like a ridiculous game of "Where's Waldo?" in the romantic form of asking him "What are we doing? Where are we going? What are your intentions with me?" Jacob, King Xerses and Boaz (to name a few) let the women lives know what their intentions were. They desired them, they yearned, longed, hankered and pined for them and took the steps to have them as a direct result.
Yet, there is another part to this. The reason why I chose the quote that I did up top is because it speaks to *the kind of woman who is deserving of being craved for*. It's not a chick with a cute shape. It's not a chick that simply wants a man. It's a woman who is proud of herself. It's a woman who is hopeful. It's a woman who has a dash of inspiration and a dabble of endurance. *It's a woman who knows God*.
A GODLY MAN CRAVES A WOMAN WHO KNOWS GOD BECAUSE WHAT HE IS REALLY DESIRING IS THE SUPERNATURAL ABILITY THAT SHE HAS BEEN GIVEN BY GOD TO HELP (GENESIS 2:18) HIM TO BECOME AN EVEN GREATER GODLY MAN.
And that's what I pray that the "On Fire" women really grasp. When a man is ready for his helpmate (and God determines that; *not they guy or you*), you won't have to wonder. I have stated many times over that I'm *so thankful* that the Spirit (John 4:24) made it evident to me years ago that the Garden of Eden shows us how courtship is *supposed to go* in Genesis 2:18-25. A man has a relationship with God. A man has a job/purpose *and is operating in both*. God *then* decides that its time for him to get some divine covenant female help. He puts the man in a state of unconsciousness as he prepares his helpmate for him. And then the Lord presents the woman to the man and the man acknowledges her as being a part of him...as being *the one for him*.
THE WOMAN DOESN'T HAVE TO DO ANYTHING OTHER THAN FOLLOW THE LEADING OF HER HEAVENLY FATHER AS HE FORMS HER TO BE THE WOMAN THAT HE PROUDLY AND CONFIDENTLY BRINGS AND PRESENTS TO THE MAN, HER MAN, AS A SACRED AND SPECIAL GIFT.
I love it! A man yearns for the helpmate that will fulfill his craving to be more like God and for that to transpire, a man has to already have some godliness in him, a relationship with God that exists, first. We help to develop the relationship that a man has with God; not to create it. Creating it is God's responsibility, but once that happens, then we as women come in to help to further cultivate the spiritual growth by providing support. As I was telling someone just recently, "Women are not an afterthought, they are a solution."
YOU ARE NOT A CARNAL MAN'S AFTERTHOUGHT. YOU ARE A GODLY MAN'S SOLUTION.
A GODLY MAN IS A SOLUTIONS-ORIENTED INDIVIDUAL!
The man who God has for you will desire you because you will cause him to feel like a member of the royal priesthood (I Peter 2:9). You will remind him of his place in God. You will inspire him to want to be more and do greater things. A godly man's wife comes when he is ready to become greater in the Lord and God desires that she is just the *solution* to help him to do that. (Hence the *bangin'* quote that is under this post!)
So, the man that you're desiring, does he yearn for you? How can you know?
Have you ever craved some ice cream or cake before? If so, think about the (oftentimes great) lengths that you went through to have that craving satisfied...
Meeting adjourned. ;-)