Friday, March 30, 2012

"On Fire": Swap Out David's Name for Yours...

Hey Ladies...

OK, a sistah girl is BEAT today and being that God rested from Friday sunset to Saturday sunset (Genesis 2:1-3), then that's definitely my cue to get off of this thing for a while. However, there has been a prayer that I read, oh, about 10 days ago that has been on my heart to share. In the New Century Version, it's simply entitled, "David Prays to God" and while history shows that David certainly had his moments of being *a plum trip*, I wouldn't doubt one bit if he had the spiritual gift of intercession. That man knows he could say a prayer!

And as I was reading this particular one, it really touched me when he referenced his *future family*. And so now, I just want to encourage you all, no matter what your current relational condition or status may be, to perhaps adapt some of this prayer to your own life by journaling it or even reciting it, especially in your moments of fear or doubt. After all, the Word, which is God (John 1:1), tells us that when we feel anxious, we should state our requests *with thanksgiving* (Philippians 4:6-7). A lot of times we may *pray* but not *with thanksgiving* and this is something that David did in this prayer below:

"Then King David went in and sat in front of the Lord. David said, 'Lord God, who am I? What is my family? Why did you bring me to this point? But even this is not enough for you, Lord God. You have also made promises about my future family. This is extraordinary, Lord God.

'What more can I say to you, Lord God, since you know me, your servant, so well! You have done this great thing because you said you would and because you wanted to, and you have let me know about it. This is why you are great, Lord God! There is no one like you. There is no God except you. We have heard all this ourselves! There is no nation like your people Israel. They are the only people on earth that God chose to be his own. You made your name well known. You did great and wonderful miracles for them. You went ahead of them and forced other nations and their gods out of the land. You freed your people from slavery in Egypt. You made the people of Israel your very own people forever, and, Lord, you are their God.

Now, Lord God, keep the promise forever that you made about my family and me, your servant. Do what you have said. Then you will be honored always, and people will say, 'The Lord All-Powerful is God over Israel!' And the family of your servant David will continue before you.

'Lord All-Powerful, the God of Israel, you have said to me, 'I will make your family great.' So I, your servant, am brave enough to pray to you. Lord God, you are God, and your words are true. And you have promised these good things to me, your servant. Please, bless my family. Let it continue before you always. Lord God, you have said so. With your blessing let my family always be blessed.'"---2 Samuel 7:18-29(NCV)

Remember what the Word says about Adonai as it relates to his promises: "

"For all the promises of God in Him are Yes, and in Him Amen, to the glory of God through us."---2 Corinthians 1:20(NKJV)




An Ounce of Prevention: "What RPS Wishes She Knew as a Single Woman Before Marriage"

1) Discuss, I mean REALLY discuss religion before you walk down the aisle:  If your beliefs are important to you and something you want to share with a future family, know what your partner's beliefs are and make sure they run parallel to yours. What seems like not a big deal can DEFINITELY turn into one, especially when children enter the picture.

2) Before getting married, live on your own if you can afford it. I am so thankful that I lived on my own for almost seven years before I got married because I learned a lot about who I was, how to run a household (paying bills, budgeting, etc.), got to practice cooking (LOL), learned how to create boundaries, and can appreciate having a partner.

3) Know that his family is your family once you get married, so choose accordingly:  Had I known the extent of my new family's, um, interaction, I definitely would have discussed boundaries and waited out our trip down the aisle until significant changes were made rather than trying to deal with them while also navigating our first year of marriage. Although I believe that we are stronger today because of all that we've been through, I don't wish those trials on anyone.

4) What's mine is yours and what yours is mine, FOR REAL:  This is where "For richer or for poorer" comes into play.  If you are in debt when you get married, you both are in debt.  If he has financial obligations, you both have financial obligations.  After almost two years of marriage, I am a big advocate for getting your house in order before getting married if you are able. One less stress to worry about...

5) Know when to hold back and when to let go:  I am still in the process of perfecting this one.  Not every argument is worth getting into. Sometimes it's best to just let it go, especially if it;s not a big issue. Nagging and passive aggressive comments build up and turn into blow ups, so choose your battles as well as choose your tone. I've had to learn to save some of my reactions for a minute or two so that I can harness my initial anger and think and respond reasonably.  Let's be honest, when you're together 24/7, things will make you mad, that's just how it is. You can keep things civil by thinking before you act, admitting and apologizing when you're wrong, and not holding a grudge. ---RPS (30)

An Ounce of Prevention: "What DW Wishes She Knew as a Single Woman Before Marriage"

"If I could do marriage over again, I would have prepared for marriage more during my engagement. I don't think that newlyweds understand how hard it is to let go of their single-minded living ways. It really has been a process for me to learn that I don't have to do everything my way or that I should expect my husband to want to do dishes.

Also, I wish I had learned to balance my work and personal life better. Since I got married, I have been more focused on getting our finances more secure so that we can build a financially stable environment for our family.

Oh, and just because you are married doesn't mean you should stop trying to impress/ court your spouse. It is so easy to lose sight of the romantic needs of your spouse when you get caught in the daily grind of making a living. Romance should still be a priority in a marriage."---DW (35)

An Ounce of Prevention: "What CRYSTAL Wishes She Knew as a Single Woman Before Marriage"

"I honestly can't say that I did not know anything when I got married.. OK, not that I knew it all, but most of what happened: the surprises of "gas" in the middle of my sleep...that men are different when it comes to sex because some want it constantly, some periodically, some rarely...and that those kinds just love to cuddle.

What I wish I had heard more of was that even though men seem to be relatively the same, each one has his own good points or quirks and that you should NEVER put them in a "men are all alike box" BUT recognize the similarities as not "bad" but different from most women.  They are human too. LOL!

I would have loved to hear more that 80% of married life is the mundane day-to-day responsibilities that may not seem so "romantic", so don't ASSUME that Prince Charming never stinks, says jacked up stuff out of nowhere, always there for you, etc.  Stay out of the "Harlequin Romance" psycho state.  HE IS HUMAN!! And so are you.

Some days you may not even like the person you married.  And that is okay.  Some days you don't even like yourself...but you don't meditate on either one. You should recognize that it is just a part of being human and NOT a reason to commit suicide or divorce your spouse.

Focus on the good stuff.  There is enough of the not-so-good to turn off anyone who doesn't understand the meaning of covenant."---Crystal (46)

An Ounce of Prevention: "What MELODY Wishes She Knew as a Single Woman Before Marriage"

"OK, so my answer to your question is in the word BOUNDARIES. I wasn't too bad with maintaining a level of them before being married, but I was in no way prepared for what we were to face and thus enforce regarding Matt's family after being married....and I think I've shared a little of that with you before. 
Praise God we lived 2,000 miles away the first two years because it could've been much worse. It took us having our first baby and then over a year of struggling pretty severely with them before things reached their breaking point forcing us to find a way to create and maintain those boundary lines whether or not they were crossed. 
It still isn't perfect, but we've got a system down between Matt and I, and it has alleviated so much heartache for everyone. Knowing what is and isn't OK with us, and then not allowing other people, be it family or friends, to make us bend from pressure or manipulation is worth its weight in gold. 
Of course, Matt learning how to create and maintain those boundaries where his family is concerned was the real catalyst that changed things for the better, but even that wouldn't have worked if we weren't on the same team about it all. It all seems to get a little readjusted with each new season that takes place in our lives, but we get better at it every time. I'm hoping we can teach our kiddos how incredible healthy boundaries are with people, even your own family when the time comes as well as modeling how to respect those boundaries. We're working on it, determined to be successful at it."---Melody (30)

Monday, March 26, 2012

"On Fire": Have You Ever Been *Properly* In Love?

“The bottom line is that we never fall for the person we're supposed to.”---Jodi Picoult

Hey Ladies...

So, as I was on a layover last night, I caught a bit of Piers Morgan's interview with lawyer, Gloria Allred and fellow attorney and television personality, Lisa Bloom. Now I was in an airport, multi-tasking, and so I'm not really sure what caused Piers to bring up the topic, but I did hear him ask Gloria something that caused my ears to perk up. After two painful marriages and divorces, he casually inquired, "Have you ever been properly in love?" Honestly? I didn't even wait for her answer. The question was blaring enough that I was like, "OK, I'll have to ponder that for myself and pen it for the ladies when I get back home."

You know, there's a lot to be said about "falling in love". Personally, the phrase ranks up there with, "I want the fairytale" or "I'm waiting for my Prince Charming" to me. Fairytales aren't real and the Bible tells us that we are to deal with reality (Ecclesiastes 7:18-Message). Prince Charmings? Well, unfortunately, those do somewhat exist. Here's what the Word, which is Adonai, has to say about that: "Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised." (Psalm 31:30-NKJV) And so when you hear about someone "falling in love" and then read quotes like what Jackie Collins had said about such an experience...maybe it's just me, but it sounds more like being e-motion sick than being in a healthy frame of mind...and heart...and soul:

“Falling in love is like getting hit by a truck and yet not being mortally wounded. just sick to your stomach, high one minute, low the next. Starving hungry but unable to eat. Hot, cold, forever horny, full of hope and enthusiasm, with momentary depressions that wipe you out.

It is also not being able to remove the smile from your face, loving life with a mad passionate intensity, and feeling ten years younger.

Love does not appear with any warning signs. You fall into it as if pushed from a high diving board. No time to think about what's happening. It's inevitable. An event you can't control. A crazy, heart-stopping, roller-coaster ride that just has to take its course.”(Jackie Collins)

Starving. Horny (*forever horny*?!? Hmph.). Sick. Momentarily depressed. Uncontrollable and crazy.

This is what we're to expect with a love relationship? *Is. It. Really?*

On this side of healthy, I reply with an emphatic "No!" And while I'm still working on being able to fully articulate how being in love *should be* (other than godly and *mutual*), God works in mysterious ways. Piers provided a big piece to the love puzzle.


Proper: adapted or appropriate to the purpose or circumstances; fit; suitable; conforming to established standards of behavior or manners; correct or decorous; fitting; right; strictly belonging or applicable; belonging or pertaining exclusively or distinctly to a person, thing, or group

I've been in the Garden of Eden for awhile now. I love how Joel 2:3(NKJV) says that, "The land is like the Garden of Eden before them, and behind them a desolate wilderness." It was Genesis 2:18(AMP) where God said, "It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him." Yeah, I'll have to let some of my male friends know that it's *not sufficient* for a lot of them to be alone; that without the help of their helpmate, their lives are not (love this!) "adequate for the purpose", what they're settling for is not "enough". So many men are falling for the thief's (John 10:10) deception that they can get *more* accomplished *without* a wife, when the truth is that they can get *exceeding above* (Ephesians 3:20) what they thought they could if they would just open their hearts to receive such a blessing. After all, women did not come up with the wife concept, God did and every good and perfect gift comes from him (James 1:17). 


Anyway, back to the part that's truly relevant to us, when the Lord said that he would make a helpmate, did you catch what one of her defining characteristics was to be? She was to be *suitable*. Suitable is one definition for proper. When you're suitable, you're "appropriate", you're "fitting", you're "becoming". 

*When you're appropriate, you're "fitting to a particular purpose, person, occasion, etc." (not *some* people, but *a  particular person*). 

*When you're fitting, you're (LOVE THIS!) "qualified or competent, as for an office or function"; you're "prepared or ready"; you're (catch it!) "in good physical condition; in good health". 

*When you're becoming, you're "that [which] suits or gives a pleasing effect or attractive appearance, as to a person or thing" (I sooooooo love that God wants us to be *mutually attracted* with our mates!)

And when you're in a love relationship, all of this is supposed to be evident; ALL OF THIS is to apply.

I don't know if Piers Morgan meant to, but that question preached a Sunday evening sermon (LOL)! When you think about the fact that the Most High does things *decently* first and *orderly* second (I Corinthians 14:40),  perhaps this will let a couple of you off the hook when it comes to hanging on to past brokenhearted wounds (Psalm 147:3). If there's someone in your past or current life that you are holding a torch for, it's darn near burning you alive and yet you keep telling yourself, "But I fell in love with him" or "We were so in love", look back over those definitions and ask yourself this question: "But we were in love...*properly*?"

There have been many dresses and many a pair of shoes that I "fell in love with" when it came to how they looked. They stayed on the racks and shelves, though. Why? *Because they didn't fit properly*. And you know what? You tend to get over things *much quicker* (and easier) when you accept that what doesn't fit, doesn't really work.

You deserve to be in loved, ladies. Mutually. Wholeheartedly. And PROPERLY.



Wednesday, March 21, 2012

An Ounce of Prevention: "What SHARON Wishes She Knew as a Single Woman Before Marriage"

"I wish I would've been honest about my sexual history and I was a 'virgin' when I got married. A masturbating, porn-watching, virtue-lying virgin who had a lot of sexually active friends and so I ended up using my 'virginity' as a weapon rather than a gift. A good woman and a virtuous wife is not just giving her husband her body on her wedding night. She is allowing him into her soul and if it's filled with lust and deception, she selfishly ones him to that and it can create all kinds of problems. Purity is really vital in a marriage and a pure heart is an honest one both in and out of the bedroom."---Sharon (29)

An Ounce of Prevention: "What CHRISTINE Wishes She Knew as a Single Woman Before Marriage"

"If I could do my marriage all over again, I wouldn't have gotten married to the person I'm with now. When you're single, you tend to be single-minded, which can often give you tunnel vision and you end up ignoring all kinds of warning signs and flags. A selfish boyfriend will end up being a selfish husband. If he wasn't generous and loyal before, a wedding ceremony is not going to magically change him into that kind of person. God has to do that and if women were wise, they would allow him to work on the man's heart before they actually married him. You're not the miracle worker. The love of God is."---Christine (39)

An Ounce of Prevention: "What DANA Wishes She Knew as a Single Woman Before Marriage"

"I wish I would have accepted the fact that once you're of the legal age of accountability and certainly after you've gotten your education and moved out of the house, what you want takes precedence over what other people think you should want for your life. Marriage was honestly never on my 'to do' list. I wanted to travel. I wanted to do missions work. I saw a really full life for myself as a single woman. But my parents thought that I should be married and so in a total misunderstanding of what it means to 'Honor thy mother and father', I got married. More than once. And even now, I'm still reeling from a lot of the pain that putting myself last caused and I'm trying to forgive them for pressuring me and myself for giving in. I'm learning to love my husband, this husband, but he would have gotten such a better version of me had I lived a full life as a single woman first."---Dana (61)

An Ounce of Prevention: "What NOELLE Wishes She Knew as a Single Woman Before Marriage"

"I wish I knew how vital it was going to be to depend on God and submit to him in changing character defects that now impacted someone else very directly. (My tendency to isolate when I'm hurting or angry.)

I also wish I knew how much my sexuality and drive would be impacted by my past, by the media, and by my changing body and hormones.  I wish someone had told me that I would need to work hard to continue to make [sex] a priority.  I felt so guilty when I realized I didn't naturally ache to be with my husband physically in the ways that I did while we were dating.  I wish someone had told me that it would be, at times, incredibly frustrating but that God would answer my prayers to understand sexuality in the way He intended it.  For a time I felt hopeless and terrified."---Noelle (37)

Sunday, March 18, 2012

"On Fire": Are You a "Love" Addict?

Last week...

I was reading an article about a certain celebrity and a quote that a friend of hers made re: her relationship cycle: “The thing that I always sort of wished is that she would give herself time to just naturally meet someone, instead of having obsessive guys pursue her…The ease which that obsession becomes a relationship I think sometimes works against her ability to have a real meaningful relationship.”

Proverbs 27:6(NKJV) tells us, "Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful." I can only imagine how many women would be spared a lot of...unnecessary-ness, if they had someone in their life to say (*or they actually listened to them when they said*), "Why are you always going from crush to crush or man to man?", "How is it that *every* guy you meet that gives you even a little bit of attention is 'the one'?", "Have you ever taken the time out to realize that all of your relationships basically (start and) end the same way?"

And so, as I processed all of this, I went to look up signs and symptoms of what is known as LOVE ADDICTION. Some of the questions are quite telling:

*You are very needy when it comes to relationships.

*You fall in love very easily and too quickly.
*When you fall in love, you can’t stop fantasizing—even to do important things. You can’t help yourself.
*Sometimes, when you are lonely and looking for companionship, you lower your standards and settle for less than you want or deserve.
*When you are in a relationship, you tend to smother your partner.
*More than once, you have gotten involved with someone who is unable to commit—hoping he or she will change.
*Once you have bonded with someone, you can’t let go.
*When you are attracted to someone, you will ignore all the warning signs that this person is not good for you.
*Initial attraction is more important to you than anything else when it comes to falling in love and choosing a partner. Falling in love over time does not appeal to you and is not an option.
*When you are in love, you trust people who are not trustworthy. The rest of the time you have a hard time trusting people.

And that was just the first 10 of 40 points (you can check out the rest of them here)! Then I read an article from a woman who considered herself to have once been a love addict: I really respected how she processed this part of her cycle:

"Though sex was certainly part of my addiction, my primary addiction was love. While I wasn't sleeping my way through as many men as possible, as some sex addicts do, I was completely infatuated with the men who came into my life. I was like a naive teenager in a woman's body, obsessing about men and my own desire to be the perfect girlfriend, believing that this would make men love me. I was addicted to the initial high you get in those first few weeks and months of a relationship. That was my drug, my euphoria."

She was like a naive teenager in a woman's body. I'll be penning a piece on spiritual pedophilia pretty soon, but isn't it amazing how offended we are when grown women sleep with young boys and yet, spiritually, so many women do it on an emotional level by becoming intimate with the immature? Some gravitate towards, others full-on pursue and then there are those that are completely obsessed with guys in the state of spiritual arrested development. What does a 30-year-old woman want with a 15-year-old boy? Good question. At the same time, "What does a spiritually mature woman need with a spiritually dwarfed man? What is *that* the guy that she goes after or is flattered by when he comes after her?" Looks can be deceiving. Oftentimes people only *appear* to be at a certain level of maturity.

And the thing about an addict is that denial tends to be their coping mechanism. They have an explanation, defense, justification for every single guy and every single choice; sadly, the "love high" is so over-the-top that they are willing to risk...whatever (time, energy, body, emotions...did I say *TIME*) to deal with any potential lows (and the lows are usually *pretty low*).

I'm still unpacking all of this, but in the spirit of *springing forward*, if you do see yourself in any of this PSA, there is a book that the Spirit led me to this morning that you might want to check out (after going through those 40 items) entitled, "Love Addicted: One Woman's Spiritual Journey Through Emotional Dependency" by Deborah M. Ricks.

God did not create us to be *dependent* on anyone but him. In healthy relationships, *interdependence*, with the top priority of becoming more like Elohim, is what should be the result.

Besides,  if it's *really love*, what will happen is that you will find yourself *elevating* into more of your purpose, your passion, your best self.  "To habituate or abandon (oneself) to something compulsively or obsessively" is something that won't even be an issue.

God is speaking,


Friday, March 16, 2012


"I've started to realize that waiting is an art, that waiting achieves things. Waiting can be very, very powerful. Time is a valuable thing. If you can wait two years, you can sometimes achieve something that you could not achieve today, however hard you worked, however much money you threw up in the air, however many times you banged your head against the wall."--"The Courage to Change" by Dennis Wholey

The people who are most successful at living and loving are those who can learn to wait successfully. Not many people enjoy waiting or learning patience. Yet, waiting can be a powerful tool that will help us accomplish much good.

We cannot always have what we want when we want it. For different reasons, what we want to do, have, be, or accomplish is not available to us now. But there are things we could not do or have today, no matter what, that we can have in the future. Today, we would make ourselves crazy trying to accomplish what will come naturally and with ease later.

We can trust that all is on schedule. Waiting time is not wasted time. Something is being worked out - in us, in someone else, in the Universe.

We don't have to put our life on hold while we wait. We can direct our attention elsewhere; we can practice acceptance and gratitude in the interim; we can trust that we do have a life to live while we are waiting - then we go about living it.

Deal with your frustration and impatience, but learn how to wait. The old saying, "You can't always get what you want" isn't entirely true. Often, in life, we can get what we want - especially the desires of our heart - if we can learn to wait.

Today, I am willing to learn the art of patience. If I am feeling powerless because I am waiting for something to happen and I am not in control of timing, I will focus on the power available to me by learning to wait.

An Ounce of Prevention: "What MARCELLA Wishes She Knew as a Single Woman Before Marriage"

1. Self-control in sex is just as vital in marriage. You will need the attributes developed by abstinence. Just because you're married doesn't mean you can have sex whenever, however, or wherever you want. Your desires and passions must be tempered in love, respect, and self-control.

2. I cannot do everything and I won't always have the physical stamina to try to do everything! I wish I knew how important it was to have balance and not attempt to be SUPERWOMAN. It's okay if some chores don't get done and some emails or phone calls go unanswered. I joined myself to this man and it is most important to make sure he knows how much he is loved, appreciated, and wanted in his home. The world is rough, disrespectful, cruel, and heartless. My husband needs NONE of that in his home; this is his place to find shelter, peace, acceptance, and love. I must have the strength to provide those things first and not to waste it on the menial tasks of life; they'll always be there, my husband may not.

3. How important it is to be filled with the Holy Spirit so I can be the helpmate that my husband needs and God called me to be, not the one I think I need to be.---Marcella (39)

Thursday, March 15, 2012

An Ounce of Prevention: "What JEANETTE Wishes She Knew as a Single Woman Before Marriage"

"If I could do marriage all over again, one thing that I wish I knew as a single woman is that I should have waited to have sex until I was married. I gave up my virginity when I was 16-years-old and later vowed to not have sex until my wedding night. On my wedding night, I understood in that moment why God intended sex to be with one person in the confines of marriage. There is freedom, no shame, no feeling of 'this doesn't seem right', no fear. Just God's perfect wedding gift.

If someone were to directly ask me for some advice before they got married, I would say-CHOOSE RIGHT! I have so many friends who jumped into marriage knowing that the person wasn't exactly what they wanted and they are divorced now or having serious problems. All I see is heartache for these friends and when I ask them about when they were dating, it is always the same answer: 'Oh, I saw red flags, but I just pushed them away because I loved him. Or, my friends and family warned me, but I just pushed them away telling myself that it was my relationship, not theirs and they didn't understand.'"---Jeanette (37)

An Ounce of Prevention: "What MAYA JOURNEY Wishes She Knew as a Single Woman Before Marriage"

"I wish I didn’t have 'marriage' on my 'things to do' list and allowed society and my age to dictate my 'urgent' desire to say, 'I do'.

I wish I enjoyed and appreciate my singleness more and really submitted to my husband at that time (the Lord).  I thought I was content being single; however, looking back I can truly say I cheated on God with so many thoughts of wanting to be married in the natural. Single women need to understand that you have the best man during singleness. Anyone that comes after the Lord, will be of flesh and flawed just like you. 

The Bible says ask and you shall receive. Can you deal with what He has given you based on your request?"---Maya (37)

Sunday, March 11, 2012



So I got a special deal on something symbolic re: the request that I made at the bottom of the "Spring Forward" message. I'll always take prayer requests, but as it relates to mailing addresses, I only have seven more "special items" and so I will only be taking "orders" thru Wednesday at 5pm.

Have a good week,


Saturday, March 10, 2012


"Then your light shall break forth like the morning, your healing shall SPRING forth speedily, and your righteousness shall go before you; the glory of the Lord shall be your rear guard."---Isaiah 58:8(NKJV)

"No matter how long the winter, SPRING is sure to follow."---Proverb

I don't know why I didn't catch the correlation. Yesterday, I chose to wind down by watching "Young Adult" (Charlize Theron) on On Demand. I *hate* it when people give away movies that I want to see, so just in case you are thinking about getting around to checking it out, I won't go real deep into the message/moral of it all. I will say this though: Charlize's character is 37, single, a writer from home an emotional rut. I'm the first three of those things as well. The last one? Let' just say that I spent a lot of 2011 getting free from *that* stronghold. Oh, but there's nothing like seeing yourself outside of yourself to know that it's either good that you changed or that it's time to make a major transition (it really is a good movie on a lot of levels).

And then I thought about the fact that time changes on tomorrow. Indeed, just in time for spring, it's time to *spring forward*. And suddenly, I found myself getting excited! TIME IS CHANGING TOMORROW. In preparation for a season shift.

I thought about it... 

How spring is a time for planning and planting.

How spring is a time when people *graduate* and *celebrate* the *completion* of things.

How spring is a time when what was once dormant begins to grow and bloom.

*And* how the Spirit (John 4:24) let me know that none of these thoughts are limited to nature. How it's time for many of the women in the "On Fire" movement to spring forward as well. 

It's time for some of you to make some NEW plans and plant into some NEW "gardens".

It's time for some of you to *bring some things to completion*.

It's time for some of you to *fully release your past* so that you can grow and bloom.

How do I know?

Because one of my favorite Bible verses (as many of you all well know) is Acts 1:7(Message): "Timing is the Father's business. What you'll get is the Holy Spirit" and the Holy Spirit on this beautiful Sabbath day led me to this quote:

“Life is all about timing... the unreachable becomes reachable, the unavailable become available, the unattainable... attainable. Have the patience, wait it out. It's all about timing.”---Stacey Charter

When you complement this quote with the lead verse of Scripture for this little pep rally for our souls (LOL), how can you *not* get excited about what's to come?!?  Healing is going to come forth *speedily*. And once that happens, the unreachable will be reachable, the unavailable will be available and the unattainable will become attainable. 


Now, I will say this. While I'm not being led to call a fast, we do know what the Word says about the benefits of going on one: 

"Jesus said to him, 'If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.'

Immediately the father of the child cried out and said with tears, 'Lord, I believe; help my unbelief!'

When Jesus saw that the people came running together, He rebuked the unclean spirit, saying to it: 'Deaf and dumb spirit, I command you, come out of him and enter him no more!' Then the spirit cried out, convulsed him greatly, and came out of him. And he became as one dead, so that many said, 'He is dead.' But Jesus took him by the hand and lifted him up, and he arose.

And when He had come into the house, His disciples asked Him privately, 'Why could we not cast it out?'

So He said to them, 'This kind can come out by nothing but prayer and fasting.'"---Mark 9:23-29(NKJV)

If you are struggling with unbelief or some kind of an unclean spirit, then a fast may be *exactly* what you the Spirit is prescribing. 'Cause here's the other thing about the lead verse. In the New King James Version, guess what it's entitled? "Fasting That Pleases God". And I so adore this part of that chapter:

"The Lord will guide you continually, and satisfy your soul in drought, and strengthen your bones; you shall be like a watered garden, and like a SPRING of water, whose waters do not fail."---Isaiah 58:11(NKJV)

Love it! SPRING time all over the place!

And in commemoration of that, if you are a woman who believes that you are *graduating* to a new chapter, shoot me an email ( with a couple of your new goals, a prayer request and your mailing address. We'll talk about why in private. ;-) To everyone else, I pray that you will *embrace...fully* this new season. After all...




An Ounce of Prevention: "What ORIANA Wishes She Knew as a Single Woman Before Marriage"

"If I could do marriage all over again, one thing that I wish I knew as a single woman is that the man designed to be my soul mate is resting at the center of God's will, so in seeking a closer relationship with God, I will be led to him. When I was single, I was 'looking' for my man, and thought that if I found what 'eye' thought was a good 'God- fearing' man, he would naturally lead in a righteous and holy manner, to which I would easily submit. What I understand now is that in order to properly serve, help and submit to my husband, I must first know the Most High intimately and personally, and then willingly submit to the Creator's will for my life.---Oriana (37)

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

An Ounce of Prevention: "What I Wish I Knew as a Single Woman Before Marriage"

"My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge."---Hosea 4:6(NKJV)

“The greatest ignorance is to reject something you know nothing about.”---Unknown


So in the midst of ALL that is going on (the amount of words that I churn out a day has quadrupled in the past month or so due to some professional transitioning), I was praying about how to plant into this ministry/movement in time for spring. I laughed at the word that the Spirit (John 4:24) spoke to me: IGNORANCE.

Ignorance: the state or fact of being ignorant;  lack of knowledge, learning, information, etc.

Only, it's kind of "ignorance in reverse". If this blog were to cease from being updated today, thanks to a couple of years and several blogs on the roll, I think we all can agree that there is a wealth of information on here. No, what the Lord meant was for me to ask some married/divorced women about what they were ignorant about *before* they got married.

I did and already I have gotten some profound responses.

And so, in the between whatever else is gets posted on here, you will see preventive tips that will be posted like quotes of the day. Matter of fact, I think that I'll share this one now:

"I wish I had trusted God and waited on the Lord to deal with unresolved sin in both my life and the life of my spouse before we entered in instead of manipulating Scripture to my advantage like: 'two are better than one'.  I wish I had known the consequences of entering in sexually broken and sexually sinful.  I wish I had known that what I believed in my mind of how it was going to be was something I created and was not substantiated by the Word of God. Dreams and visions are great but only dreams and visions that can be measured by Scripture will stand and bear fruit."---Michelle (45)

We *really are blessed* to have "On Fire", y'all.

Have a good one,