Friday, June 29, 2012

"On Fire": A Call to a Fast: Do You Have LEAH SYNDROME?

Hey Y'all...

So, as I was preparing to pen the message for today, while *I* was planning to go one direction (to discuss, what I call, "emotional eating disorders"), the Spirit had something else in mind. I'm going to preface this by saying that this is going to be a call to prayer and also a bit of a "Leah spirit exorcism", if you will. In other words, this will also be a call to a fast due to the fact that when it comes to casting certain spirits out, as we all know, some things *only come* by prayer and fasting (Matthew 17:14-21).

A few years ago, I had an idea. It was actually more like an epiphany. After working with *so many* broken girls and women, after working *so hard* to no longer be one myself, I decided to start a movement called "L.E.A.H". It was to be based on the biblical character, however the acronym would stand for "Let Every Area Heal". From all of the stories that I heard as it related to women, relationships, sex and compromise, if there was one thing that all of the situations seemed to have in common, it was that the women stopped (if they ever did in the first place) seeing their value (Matthew 7:7-6); they "forgot" (or didn't know or ignored the fact) that they were created *to help* (Genesis 2:18)---that women are to be *solutions to problems not the creators of them*...that they don't need to be pining away, chasing after, settling in or putting their own worth on the back burner (or a bed's backboard) just to be in a relationship.

And when I asked the Spirit to show me who in the Bible these women most reflected, it was Leah, *Jacob's first wife*, who came to mind. We all know the story. Jacob loved Rachel. *Jacob wanted somebody else*. Yet due to the reaping of sowing manipulation (Galatians 6:7-9) to his own brother (Esau-Genesis 25) and Father (Isaac-Genesis 27), he found himself tricked by Laban, his uncle (Genesis 29). Rather than being given the woman that *he worked for and desired*, he was handed her sister (first), instead:

"Then Jacob said to Laban, 'Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled, that I may go in to her.' And Laban gathered together all the men of the place and made a feast. Now it came to pass in the evening, that he took Leah his daughter and brought her to Jacob; and he went in to her. And Laban gave his maid Zilpah to his daughter Leah as a maid. So it came to pass in the morning, that behold, it was Leah. And he said to Laban, 'What is this you have done to me? Was it not for Rachel that I served you? Why then have you deceived me?'"---Genesis 29:21-25(NKJV)

I am *quite familiar* with this story, but honestly, this is the first time when I *really paid attention* to Jacob's response to Laban's scheme. "What have you done to me? I worked to have Rachel. Why did you deceive me?" And to all of this, it tripped me right on out when I heard the Spirit say, "You'd be amazed how many women have the 'spirit of Laban' in them. They have one agenda while the guy that they want has another set of desires. And so, they manipulate him, they engage in sexual sins with him, they try and distract him---*they do anything that they have to do to get him to be who they want him to be*. Sometimes it works for a season, but with spiritual insight comes enlightenment (Psalm 18:28). If you had to do the wrong thing to get who you think is your 'Mr. Right', you had better believe that one day, *someday*, maybe while you're dating, maybe in your marriage to him, he's going to 'wake up' thinking along the same lines that Jacob did: What have you done to me? I actually wanted someone else. Why did you deceive me?"

Whew! Yeah, I know. A lot of women don't want to take *ownership* for their *cunning abilities and deceptive strategies*. Therefore, I'm sure some of you *immediately thought*, "I can't make a man do anything that he doesn't want to do." *That's true*, but deceit is meant to mislead people and Ecclesiastes 7:26 warns men of women who are biblically-defined as being "more bitter than death". And who are these ladies? They are the ones whose heart is like "snares and traps", she's the one who "traps" sinners. Some translations actually call her a "dangerous woman". Yep...


And here's the thing about it. In marrying Leah, Jacob conceded (don't you want more from your husband than feeling like he has to *concede*?!?), but the Word says that he *still* loved Rachel more. *That's because it was Rachel that he really wanted to begin with*. 


That is a heart issue that he has to deal with all on his own and if you're meant to be his, *only God* can do a heart transplant. Even then, a man has to want it to happen.

And so, since Jacob wanted Rachel, Leah found herself *breaking her neck* to try and hold Jacob's attention. At the birth of her son Reuben, she said, "Now therefore, my husband will love me." (Genesis 29:32). At the birth of her son Levi, she said, "Now this time my husband will become attached to me." (Genesis 29:34). At the birth of her son Zebulun, she said, " my husband will dwell with me." (Genesis 30:20). How sad. *How sad*.

As I was revisiting all of this *brokenness*, something else crossed my mind. If you remember, during most of Leah's pregnancies, Rachel was barren. Especially within that time and culture, that was one of the most embarrassing and disrespected things to be. A woman was supposed to produce offspring and especially male heirs for her husband. And yet, Rachel couldn't. Meanwhile, Leah could. And look at Leah. Throughout all of these "prized possessions", she *still* couldn't get Jacob to love her, she still couldn't get Jacob to become attached to her...*she still couldn't get Jacob to dwell with her*.

You know, there's another story of a barren woman who was favored by her husband. Her name was Hannah. If you recall, her husband Elkanah also had another wife (Penninah) who gave him children. However, Elkanah loved Hannah *so much* that it was *her* that he gave a double portion to (I Samuel 1).



As I pondered (Proverbs 4:26) over all of this, the Lord said to me, "A lot of the women on the 'On Fire' Fast Movement need to *go on the fast* to purge that Leah spirit out of them. They can't get to my best because they're so busy trying to be treated better by a man who doesn't really want them. Remember that in the Garden, *in my perfect will for a courtship*, when I brought the Woman to Adam, upon receiving her, *he praised her as being a part of him*. THE WOMAN DIDN'T HAVE TO DO OR SAY ANYTHING TO MAKE HIM SEE WHO SHE WAS TO BE IN HIS LIFE. He already knew. Far too many women date with the spirit of Leah rather than *simply exist* in the spirit of the Woman." (Genesis 2:18-25)

WHEW-WEE! So in the spirit of getting back to the "Woman state", this is a call to a prayer and fast to exorcise the spirit of Leah; this is a divine opportunity to supernaturally "Let Every Area Heal". If this message resonates with you, if you're ready to be "Adam's Woman" rather than "Jacob's deception", then shoot me an email to As you may have noticed, when it comes to *special assignments*, I don't post the details to the masses anymore. People who are willing to make *special efforts* deserve *special treatment*. 

This will bring some *miraculous transformations*. Just in time for "Independence Day" (LOL).

Here's to a *divine connection* for real!


Monday, June 25, 2012




An Ounce of Prevention: "Do You Settle for Bread Crumbs?"

Hey Y'all...

Yeah, I know it's been awhile (for me). There's *a lot* going on over here, but I've got you.

In the meantime, I did "happen upon" a blog that I thought was *stellar*. I'll be back with some copy later within the week. For now, check this out:

"You can't give the world to someone who is only ready for a city." Yeah. *That* will preach!



Thursday, June 7, 2012

"On Fire": What We Wish We Knew About Married Sex (as Singles)


I asked this married couple to do a video blog for me for X3Church. However, considering the subject matter, I thought it would be beneficial to cross reference on here as well. Some *great* food for thought.



What We Wish We Knew from J and Tiff on Vimeo.

Friday, June 1, 2012

"On Fire": When What You Want Is in Your Way


So I've mentioned that I am becoming a fan of The Conversation (Lifetime), right? Well, this past week, Arianna Huffington was one of the guests and I (especially) dug this part of what she said in her interview:

"If you look back at the things that were considered failures in your life, the most devastating things, they often are the doors. I mean, for me, it meant that I came to New York. My books, the Huffington Post, all of these things would not have happened if Bernard Levin had married me. And the Levin Post would have not sounded as good as the Huffington Post."


And here's the thing about Ms. Huffington. She's an author. She's a syndicated columnist. And, she's also the founder of what is considered to be one of the more liberal online publications, the Huffington Post. Oh, and I guess it can't hurt to also mention that her net worth is estimated to be somewhere around $35 million.

Several years ago, I was led to pen a devotional entitled, "The Blessin' in Rejection". It basically talked  about what you would think it did; that some things that we want for ourselves *now* are not meant to work out because they're not what's best for our lives *later*. The "later" that absolutely no one sees by the Most High (the One who sees above everyone and everything!).

I revisited this concept when I saw another episode of Love Addiction (TV One) in which the therapist told the woman who was settling that she had what was known as "attraction to deprivation"---that rather than seeking someone who would help to fill the voids within her, she was in a continual cycle of attracting people who would not meet her needs. So much so, that she spent most of her time trying to get men to give her what either they can't or don't want to. She wasn't attracting the "need meeters" but the "need depriver". Over and over again. Subconsciously convincing herself that if she did more, she would get more.

So, when I heard what Ms. Huffington said, to me, it was the final piece of this puzzle. She spoke of once being so in love with Mr. Levin and so devastated when it did not work out. But life had something better in mind for her. Marrying him would have held her back.


I'm not sure what chapter you are on in your own journey as it relates to "On Fire" and its mission, but I encourage you to give what Ms. Huffington said some thought. I Timothy 4:14-16(AMP) has a line within it that says, "Look well to yourself [to your own personality] and to [your] teaching; persevere in these things [hold to them], for by so doing you will save both yourself and those who hear you." And without question, her testimony can save some lives and spare some pain...if'd we only listen.

I've said it a billion times on here and it continues to ring true. My mother has stated on several occasions, "God doesn't give you someone for where you are, but where you are going and no one knows that but God."

And to piggyback off of that wisdom, by Baba (my mother's husband) has a winner as well:

"Satan is not in the business of breaking marriages apart. He's in the business of putting the wrong two people together in the first way."

It was Chaka Khan who once said, "Get out of your own way." Let this little post remind us all to get what we want out of our way too. So that we can *then see* what *God does* in *God's way* in *God's time* as a direct result.