"You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men."---I Corinthians 7:23(NKJV)
I went to see a documentary entitled Girl Rising. As I sat in there, one of the things that I thought about is just how much I wish I had brought one of my "love nieces" along. The amount of things that we take for granted in America, including education, continues to baffle me. Yet, pride comes before destruction and the United States is *quite prideful* (why do you think churches tells us to pray for it so much?-Proverbs 16:18).
Yet, as I was listening to different girls' stories and I was processing the statistics of what a lack of an education will leave a female child vulnerable to, there was a particular phrase that caught my attention. It's the reason why this message has the title that it does.
There was one young girl in Ethiopia whose mother was a widow. In that culture, many girls marry early so that they will have a home that at least has basic provisions for them. Well, when a grown man came to offer money for her, there was a line in the narrative that stayed with me: "If she marries him, she may become a 'split girl'." Even the narrator asked "What is a split girl?" Basically, it's a girl who may find herself having to share her body with more than one man. (Or it's the foolery that you see when you put the phrase in Google and notice the images that immediately come up...geeze.)
As I thought about the fact that a lack of education makes girls susceptible to marrying before they are ready, having unwanted pregnancies (or dying in childbirth because of their age or birthing conditions), going into sex trafficking, being a house slave, contracting a sexually transmitted disease, becoming a victim of sexual assault, being killed for speaking her mind/personal beliefs, it was *pretty big* what the Spirit (John 4:24) relayed to me in response:
"Shellie, what's really sad is that in the spirit realm, because a lot of my daughters are ignorant about their own purpose, the kind of relationship that they are to have with me, what and who their body is truly for, why I created women in the first place and the kind of character traits that they are to have as young ladies, they are not much different than the little ones with no education in the world. Many of my daughters, spiritually, are 'split girls'. Going from job to job, man to man, spiritual resolve to spiritual resolve. Broken. Confused. Lost. When Hosea 4:6 says 'My people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge', that's not what's in a textbook in a classroom. That comes from not studying the Word to show yourself approved." (Psalm 82:6, I Peter 2:9-10, I Corinthians 6:16-20-Message, Colossians 3:12-17, I Peter 3:1-7, 2 Timothy 2:15-AMP)
And the tripped out thing about Hosea 4:6 is that while a lot of people know the first line, they tend to not read/quote the second one: "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. Because you have rejected knowledge..."
For many people, there will be mercy (Psalm 86:15) for the decisions that they made based on the little that they did know at the time that they made them. OH BUT FOR SO MANY OTHERS, there will be grave consequences (Galatians 6:7-8) because *they chose to remain ignorant*. A lot of the knowledge that I have come upon as it relates to marital covenant and the purpose of yahasey min (Hebrew phrase for sexual relationships between a husband and wife) vs. simply "sex" is not because I just "happen to know it". One, I am called (Romans 11:29) to that particular purpose and two, I devote *a lot of time* to studying the issue. I have no desire to be divorced, to abort another child, to abuse yahasey min, to not be joined to the man who is God's best for me or to be a "split girl"---teetering between light and darkness (Revelation 3:16)...I have no desire to be ignorant or worse, to reject knowledge. I've lived like that before. It's a very degrading kind of existence.
And so, as we come to the end of another week and are on the cusp of a new month being that May is the fifth month of the year and "5" biblically symbolizes grace (Hebrews 4:16), I want to encourage you to take out some time to really think about and ponder on (Proverbs 4:26) if you are spiritually knowledgeable about who you are, in God, *as a woman*.
Do you *know* your purpose?
Do you understand marital covenant and why sex , of any kind, is*only* for it?
Have you found yourself being a "slave among men" due to your lack of spiritual insights on relationships?
Are you clear about what you are to be doing in this season of your life?
Is there some kind of voice within you telling you that what you're doing with your life is by no means enough?
There is a girlfriend of mine who is participating in the spiritual breakthrough fast that starts today and the person she is fasting for...let's just say that he is so emotionally unstable (in this season) that when she shares with me some of the things that he says and ways that he acts, all that I find myself saying to her is "He's bored with his life." Is it that simple? To a large degree, "yes". I know that from personal experience because the clearer I become on why I am here, the less time I have to settle. *Literally*. There's just not enough hours in the day to...waver between being in my lane and coveting what others are doing (Exodus 20:17), settling for a boyfriend rather than preparing for my beloved (Proverbs 31) or pleasing men over pleasing God (I Corinthians 2:4-6).
I have been appreciative of the purpose of Myles Monroe for some time now because it's *big* when someone devotes their life to helping other people figure out what they are supposed to be doing with their own. If you feel like you are living as a "split girl"---divided between your poor decisions and your true destiny, serving a guy rather than honoring the Father, working a job instead of fulfilling your life's purpose (Psalm 20:4), a good book to help put things into better perspective (Psalm 18:28) is one by Dr. Monroe:
You can get it here.
Also, as the Spirit would have it, I also "happened upon" (Proverbs 16:33-AMP) a pretty cool article entitled "Life on Purpose: 15 Questions to Discover Your Personal Mission". I like how the author phrased "purpose" to be one's *life mission*. After doing some soul searching, the author came to these conclusions:
Here are some of my values and goals:
What matters most is my connection with myself, being present and feeling blissful.
What I value most is having meaningful relationships with people. Being able to connect with people on deep levels.
I plan to be financially independent, and have control of my time and location. I plan to work only on projects and causes that I connect with. I plan to acquire my finances without violating my values, goals and personal mission.
I plan to travel and live in different parts of the world. Experiencing different cultures, documenting them in photographs and sharing them with others.
I will buy my mom a house in Vancouver with a ravine in the backyard. That’s a dream of hers and I’d like to fulfill it.
Having a family is important to me. I desire a deep, loving relationship with my spouse.
To live everyday fully as if it was my last.
Now those are *her goals* but you might want to check out the steps that she took towards getting to them in her article because whether you're 20 or 40 reading this, ain't none of us getting any younger and going day to day, doing nothing new and not renewing oneself is simply a waste of time---time that is not promised to any of us (James 4:13-14).
Hosea 4:6 is a sobering Scripture. It doesn't say that people are "inconvenienced" for a lack of knowledge. No, it tells us that they are *destroyed* and what is it that Satan *only comes* to us to do? "Steal, kill and destroy", right? (John 10:10)
Children of the Most High deserve to live an abundant life, whole and complete (James 1:4).
You deserve to be a lot more than a "split girl".