Saturday, April 27, 2013

"On Fire": Is "He" Your Best Friend? (Are You Absolutely Sure?)

Celebrity relationships, to me, tend to be...well...celebrity relationships. 

However, in the midst of looking for something else last evening (Proverbs 16:33-AMP), I peeped something that Justin Timberlake said about his wife Jessica Biel that I really liked simply because it just sounded... super healthy:

“'Every once in a while I can catch a glimpse of her when she doesn’t see me looking, and I have this moment where I’m like, "If you never make a good decision … if you only make bad decisions for the rest of your life, you made one really good decision,"' he said, adding, "It’s nice to marry your best friend. It suits me.'"

*So many people* marry any and everyone *but* their best friend. And here's the thing: When you're a believer and/or disciple (John 17), your "friend standard" is to look like the following:

"The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray."---Proverbs 12:26(NKJV)

"A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity."---Proverbs 17:17(NKJV)

"Make no friendship with an angry man and with a furious man do not go. Lest you learn his ways and set a snare for your soul."---Proverbs 22:24-25(NKJV)

"As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend."---Proverbs 27:17(NKJV)

"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up."---Ecclesiastes 4:9-10(NKJV)

As a Christian, you are to choose your friends *carefully* and once you do, you are to love them *at all times* (there is no I'm-their-friend-this-year-but-not-the-next foolishness). You are not to create a relationship with an angry person. You are to be open to sharpening your friend's countenance *and allow them to do the same for you* (if you can "dish it", be mature enough to *take it*-Proverbs 27:6) and you are to lift one another up. This is the *foundation* of a real and true friendship.

And when it gets to the point and place that someone is your *best* friend (and for the record, you can't have "five best friends"; hence the word BEST), it should look like this:

"Now when he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. Saul took him that day, and would not let him go home to his father’s house anymore. Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul. And Jonathan took off the robe that was on him and gave it to David, with his armor, even to his sword and his bow and his belt."---I Samuel 18:1-4(NKJV)

A *best friend* loves another person as their own soul. Not only that, but they are willing to establish a covenant (Amos 3:3) with them. And if you're really and truly loving another soul as your own, then you DAILY declare this kind of blessing upon their lives both in your words and in your actions (I John 3:18):

"Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers."---3 John 1:2(NKJV)

That's what makes Deepak's quote so relevant. Being that God is love (I John 4:6&18), you are not in a *real love relationship* unless it helps to heal you (and you help to heal them-Psalm 147:3). You are not in a *real love relationship* unless it helps to renew you (and vice versa-Romans 12:2). You are not in a *real love relationship* unless it brings you closer to God (and they do the same-Ephesians 5).

And how do you know...*how do you really know* that has happened? It is when your soul is prospering. It's when "the spiritual part of humans regarded in its moral aspect" is growing. So many people I talk to, whatever it is that they are in, it's not a love relationship with their best friend because the spiritual part of them is not going from "glory-to-glory" (2 Corinthians 3:18). It's actually worse off than before they got involved in (or is it entangled with?) the person and that's simply not how a love relationship, especially one that is meant to become a marital covenant, is supposed to be.

So was Justin saying all-a-dat? Um, you'll have to ask him (LOL). But as you're processing the kind of relationship you want or you're in, make sure that "he's" youre *absolute best friend* and the Word, which is God (John 1:1), makes it *crystal clear* what that is supposed to look like.



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