"And the Lord God said, 'It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.'"---Genesis 2:18(NKJV)
This weekend, I did my part to support 42 (for a lot of reasons) and I was not disappointed. It was so nice to see a story about black culture done with *so much dignity*. Anyway, as I was sitting through the trailers and in the film, there seemed to be a recurring theme: helpmates.
In the trailer for the upcoming Ron Howard (directed) biopic Rush, the race car driver Niki Lauda was in a car accident that caused him to be pretty badly burned. When he found himself doubting if he could race again, I really dug what the woman by his side said: "You drive don't drive with your face, you drive with your foot." (Stellar!)
And as far as Rachel, Jackie Robinson's wife in 42, that woman was a rock....in the most graceful and feminine kind of way. In both instances, I found myself thinking "Yeah, those women are made to be their husband's wife." I mean, I know women personally who would have been contemplating divorce in both circumstances and yet, these ladies were offering what a helpmate is supposed to give in the most challenging of circumstances: *good help*. (Although interestingly enough, the main character in Rush married someone else later in life.)
That's a big part of the reason why Genesis 2:18 speaks of God creating someone *comparable* to Adam; not just someone that he could *love* but someone who was "a good match", someone he was "in class with" and someone who was "on par" with him. Indeed, a lot of women in dating situations don't spend *nearly as much time as they should* asking the Spirit (John 4:24) if they are truly *comparable* to the guy they are interested in. If they did, it would either provide them with the faith (Hebrews 11) to be patient (I Corinthians 13:4, James 1:4) as God continues to prepare them both for marital covenant or the *courage* (Deuteronomy 31:6) to let him go if God reveals that they are *not* his suitable partner...for better *and* for worse.
That said, something that I've recently been thinking about is that in the wedding vow line of "for better or for worse" or "in plenty or in want" is that Woman/Eve fit the bill on *both sides of the coin*. She was Adam's life partner in the Garden of Eden AND when they were put outside of it (Genesis 2&3). She helped him...period. Good help provides good help. Period.
And yet, how can a woman be a good helper after jumping the broom if she's not getting good practice doing so as a single woman? So, as we enter into a new week, and a new day for that matter (Psalm 118:24), I want to pose one simple question:
WHO HAVE YOU BEEN HELPING LATELY?
WHO HAVE YOU BEEN HELPING LATELY?
Help: to give or provide what is necessary to accomplish a task or satisfy a need; contribute strength or means to; render assistance to; cooperate effectively with; aid; assist
And when I say "help", I don't mean some cryptic form of manipulation where you are doing things so that you can get something in return. After all, it was a wise man by the name of Johann Wolfgang von Goethe who once said "You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him." There are a lot of selfish wives out here now because they spent their time as single women only focusing on what someone can do for them when the truth is that if you're going to be an Ezer Kenegdo, a lifesaver, it could do you and your future marriage *a whole lot of good* to get some practice being a good helper to others.
So, this week....
1) Make a concerted effort to give what someone else requires in order to accomplish a task.
2) Provide what is necessary to satisfy someone else's needs.
3) Contribute to someone else's strength (especially in the area of one of their weaknesses).
4) Offer up your assistance to something that you will in no way benefit from (or get credit for).
5) Focus on cooperating with your family members, friends and co-workers *effectively*.
Bottom line, give aid to someone in your space. I promise you that when the Word, which is Adonai (John 1:1), speaks of the harvest being plentiful but the laborers being few (Matthew 9:37), a big part of that is because so many people are too self-consumed (Philippians 2:3), lazy (Proverbs 13:4) and/or greedy (Proverbs 1:9) to do something for someone else unless they themselves can get something out of it.
And that kind of mentality isn't *helping* anyone.