Thursday, May 2, 2013

An Ounce of Prevention: "7 Signs That You're Compatible with Your Partner"


"Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul."---I Samuel 18:3(NKJV)


In keeping in the theme of the post (down below) regarding a caution to those who are considering going into an interfaith marriage, I "happened upon" (Proverbs 16:33-AMP) another article that we also should keep in mind entitled "7 Signs That You're Compatible with Your Partner". 

Now let me just say this: It's *extremely dangerous* to decide that you'll marry someone and then if they are not compatible with you, you'll simply end it. There are *way too many warnings about vow breaking* (Ecclesiastes 5:1-7) to be that...spiritually hazardous (Malachi 2:15). That is why it's imperative (IMPERATIVE) to take these kinds of things into account during the dating/courtship period:

1. Psychological compatibility: Do you understand each other or you are often irritated by his personality?

2. Communication compatibility: Pay attention to your conversations. Decide if they flow from themselves and if they are pleasant for you.

3. Friends and family compatibility: Are you getting well with you partner's family and friends or they are a source of stress in your relationship?

4. Lifestyle compatibility: Take into account your habits related to health and physical condition- are they similar or not?

5. Financial Compatibility: Are you generous or skimpy when it comes about money? How does your partner manage his finances? Money are one of the reasons why many couples have argues. If you have similar ways to manage your finances, it can be a positive fact in your relationship.

6. Educational Compatibility: People feel more comfortable in the presence of other people who have similar life experiences, training opportunities, and ways to perceive the world.

7. Privacy compatibility: Ideas of romance, intimacy and proximity are very important. Let's take as an example the public manifestation of affection; maybe you like to hold his hands and kiss him in public while your boyfriend thinks that these kind of things shouldn't be done in public places. Different styles to love and to show your love can have long term effects on your relationship.

If you analyzed your relationship through all the perspectives listed, then you already have an idea about your changes for the future as a couple. Maybe your partner is not the right one for you. What to do now? You have three choices:

1. Accept things as they are.

2. Try to improve your relationship by making small, but significant changes.

3. Leave the relationship.

That's some good stuff right there!

Remember that yes, we are here to love others (Mark 12:30-31, John 13:34-35, Romans 12:9-13 & 13:10, Galatians 5:13) HOWEVER we are also on this earth to *fulfill our purpose* (Psalm 20:4). When it comes to this life, it is not God's will for you to forsake your purpose just to be in a relationship with someone. And as Mr. Walsh so eloquently penned, relationships that have your destiny in mind will complement where you are headed---not as it relates to what you want but where God has called (Romans 11:29).

So yes, in your prayer time, it bears asking for wisdom (James 1:5) on those two questions up top:

Where AM I going?

Who IS going with me?

And then choose the people in your life, especially as it relates to your "Matthew 19:6 partner" accordingly...



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