Well...at least know when to put more contingencies on those who make withdrawals. ;-)
Indeed, a lot of people don't know how to have good boundaries in marriage because they didn't establish good boundaries with other family members before that time. That's why I dug a lot that the article "Girl Talk: On Cutting Ties & Letting Go Of Toxic Relationships" had to say:
"In the age of social media, of constant connection, and especially if you put yourself out there in a public way, people believe they are entitled to your time, to your space, to your energy. And there is something to be said for having a dialogue with people with whom you disagree, taking down your defensive walls, and engaging. That can be fruitful and worthwhile. But boundaries are essential. We must take care of ourselves, and that includes cutting ties with people who have become toxic to us and our own well-being. As the inimitable Audre Lorde said, 'Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.' When we prioritize ourselves and our own needs, especially as women, we are committing a distinctly feminist act. We are bucking the restrictive gendered norms that force us to appease others to keep the peace rather than take care of ourselves to keep our sanity. We are declaring ourselves worthy of love and respect, and in a society like our own that devalues and debases women, that is nothing short of revolutionary."
Just something to think about...long and hard.