"Then Naomi, Ruth’s mother-in-law, said to her, 'My daughter, I must find a suitable home for you, one that will be good for you. Now Boaz, whose young women you worked with, is our close relative. Tonight he will be working at the threshing floor. Wash yourself, put on perfume, change your clothes, and go down to the threshing floor. But don’t let him know you’re there until he has finished his dinner. Watch him so you will know where he lies down to sleep. When he lies down, go and lift the cover off his feet and lie down. He will tell you what you should do.'"---Ruth 3:1-4(NCV)
"Before a girl could take her turn with King Xerxes, she had to complete twelve months of beauty treatments that were ordered for the women. For six months she was treated with oil and myrrh and for six months with perfumes and cosmetics. Then she was ready to go to the king."---Esther 2:12-13(NCV)
"The smell of my perfume spreads out to the king on his couch."---Song of Solomon 1:12(NCV)
"The princess is very beautiful. Her gown is woven with gold. In her beautiful clothes she is brought to the king."---Psalm 45:13-14(NCV)
If you read all of those verses, what is the one thing that appears to be a constant thread? To me, it's the fact that before a woman went to the man that she loved, she pampered herself. She treated and gratified herself "with extreme or excessive indulgence, kindness, or care".
She indulged herself.
She was kind to herself.
She cared for herself.
As I was praying for the "On Fire" women this week, this was a heads up that I was given: that there are some of you who don't make it a point and priority to pamper yourselves...some to the extreme of never doing it. "It" could be scheduling a massage or a facial or getting a mani/pedi (at the same time) or wearing an extravagant perfume or sleeping in feminine fabrics (yeah...when's the last time you actually bought some nice pajamas?).
And here's the thing that I also noticed. Look at how the Message Version translates Ephesians 5:29-33:
"No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become 'one flesh.' This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband."---Ephesians 5:29-33(Message)
Yep. Even *after* marriage, a wife is to be fed and pampered (not babied or treated like a spoil brat or enabled but pampered).
Don't let Satan lie to you.
It's OK to take care of yourself. Even your physical self. OK? OK.