Thursday, October 31, 2013
An Ounce of Prevention: 'Characteristics to AVOID. Characteristics to EMBRACE.'
That's a good quote right there. I would personally add these items to the list:
1) Avoid women who don't forgive or are bitter. (Matthew 6:14-15, Ephesians 7:26)
2) Avoid women who don't know how to listen. (Proverbs 28:9-Message)
3) Avoid women who jump from relationship to relationship. (Proverbs 4:23)
4) Avoid women whose top ambition in life is to get a man. (Psalm 20:4)
5) Avoid women who have issues with submission. (Colossians 3:18)
6) Avoid women who are fearful and not of a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7)
7) Avoid women who lack common sense. (Psalm 119:65-72, Proverbs 2:6-8 & 3:21-26)
8) Avoid women who are double-minded. (They're unstable-James 1:2-8)
9) Avoid women who are spiritually-dwarfed. (2 Timothy 3:1-7-AMP)
10) Avoid women women who lead with their sexuality over their spirituality.
11) Avoid women who are selfish. (Philippians 2:3)
12) Avoid women who are liars. (Especially to themselves-John 8:44)
13) Avoid women who believe in fairy tales. (Ecclesiastes 7:18-Message)
14) Avoid women who are more lip-service than action. (I John 3:18)
15) Avoid women who covet other women. (It is a commandment, after all-Exodus 20:17)
16) Avoid women who stir up drama and/or are childish.
(Proverbs 10:12, I Corinthians 13:11)
17) Avoid women who don't put forth the effort to love their enemies and make amends with those they've hurt/harmed. (Matthew 5:43-47, Matthew 23-24)
18) Avoid women who do not walk in faith. (2 Corinthians 5:7)
19) Avoid women who are modern-day Pharisees. (Matthew 5:20)
20) Avoid women who don't put God first. (Mark 12:30-31)
Yeah. Send that out to the single men that you know (LOL). And is it a tall order? Indeed. Yet it's all scriptural and a big part of the reason why James 1:4(NKJV) tells us this:
"But let patience [which would be love, which would be God-I Corinthians 13:4, I John 4:8&16] have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing."
God is not interested in a man being our savior, our father, our "Prince Charming" (Proverbs 31:30), our spoiler, our stumbling block, our "Jon" (so many people want to get married just to have sex-not good). God wants *the right man* to become our covenant partner. Period.
Praise the Lord that he gives us time to become the kind of women who, for our own husband, we will be a suitable fit! (Acts 1:7-Message, Ecclesiastes 3:11, Genesis 2:18-AMP)
So now knowing all of the things that we need to work on *not* being, here's a cool list that I found on the website Good Girl Gone Wise about what we should be striving to become:
As women of God, we are to reflect Christ to the world in the way he chose us to – through our redeemed femininity. And that can be lived out in lives of married and single women alike. Take Proverbs 31 for example.
A woman of God, wholly feminine and fully redeemed:
She is trustworthy - “The heart of her husband trusts in her” (v. 11)
She builds others up - “She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life” (v. 12)
She is a hard worker - “She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar.” (v. 13-14)
She maintains the right priorities - “She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” (v. 27)
She is kind, compassionate and self-giving – “She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy.” (v. 20)
She nurtures those in her sphere of influence - “She rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household, and portions for her maidens.” (v. 15)
She makes wise decisions - “She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard… She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night.” (v. 16, 18)
She has a positive attitude - ”she smiles at the future.” (v. 25)
She exhibits godly character -“strength and dignity are her clothing (v. 25)
She shares God’s wisdom and ways with others - “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” (v. 26)
She values God’s design for women and the institution of marriage – and it shows in all her actions - “Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” (v.28-29)
She follows hard after God - “a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” (v. 30)
Pride (Proverbs 16:18) and ignorance (Hosea 4:6) are tricky (if we let them be). They can have us out here thinking that God is withholding something good from us (Psalm 84:11) when actually what he is doing is *preparing us*. Marriage is serious and he takes it seriously. It requires more than just *wanting it*. We need to be *ready for it*.
So take some time to ponder (Proverbs 4:26) what you could stand to "avoid" more and what you should "embrace"---better. Your husband will thank you for it!