Tuesday, November 26, 2013
"On Fire": Are You Getting Excited About NOTHING in Your Relationship?
"When Jesus realized what was going on, he intervened. 'Why are you giving this woman a hard time? She has just done something wonderfully significant for me. You will have the poor with you every day for the rest of your lives, but not me. When she poured this perfume on my body, what she really did was anoint me for burial. You can be sure that wherever in the whole world the Message is preached, what she has just done is going to be remembered and admired.'"---Matthew 26:10-13(Message)
I've actually been meaning to pen something on that quote up top for a hot minute but it just didn't seem like the right time. I'm not 100 percent clear on what today is the day but here we are.
Several weeks ago, I wrote a devotional that referenced the story of the woman who poured perfume on Christ's feet. Although oftentimes when I hear the account told, it speaks of her utter humility (and humility is *so* important-Proverbs 22:4), when I read the Message Version translation, what really stayed with me was the sentence that's underlined: "She has just done something wonderfully significant for me."
Wonderfully significant. *Nice*.
Can you imagine how much bigger each of our worlds would become if the focus was to do something, for someone else, that was significant each and every day of our lives?
Significant: important; of consequence; important, notable, or momentous
Honestly, I discern this is a big part of what the Word is reminding us of when we read verses like "Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life. And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith" (Galatians 6:7-10-NJKV) and "But this I say: He who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound toward you, that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may have an abundance for every good work." (2 Corinthians 9:6-8-NKJV) These verses reveal to us the fact that what we do, good or not-so-good, is going to bring forth consequences.
And with that being that case, wouldn't it be better if we focused on saying and doing things that are deemed to be truly important? Things that will manifest good consequences? Things that will prove to be notable?
So what does that have to do with the Cher quote? It's pretty simple, actually.
Cher said that there are a lot of women who have the tendency (or is it pattern?) of getting all excited about nothing. And then they marry him.
OK, I'll say this. I'm not really into calling a man "nothing" for the same reason why I don't call men "dogs". We're made in the image of the Godhead (Genesis 1:26-28) and so while some choose to take that more literally than others, a guy is certainly not *nothing*.
After looking at the definitions of nothing a while back, I did have a bit of an "ah-ha moment":
Nothing: no thing; not anything; naught; something that is non-existent; something or someone of no importance or significance
"The trouble with some women is that they get all excited about nothing---and then they marry him."
Uh-huh. Let's look at this another way.
"The trouble with some women is that they get all excited about a relationship that is virtually non-existent but think they are going to marry the person anyway."
Let's try it from one more angle.
"The trouble with some women is that they get all excited about someone who is really of no importance or significance to the outcome of their lives and they still want to marry him."
I have said many times before and was actually just discussing with someone last night that I discern it was by God's perfect will and design that he did not say "It is not good that man should be alone. I will make a woman for him to love." No, what the Scriptures *actually say* is "It is not good that man should be alone. I will make him a helper comparable [COMPARABLE] to him." (Genesis 2:18-NKJV)
Another way to look at this is: "It is not good that man should be alone. I will make a helper in the form of a woman who will be important and significant in his life, especially as it relates to his spirituality and his purpose." God made someone who would help Adam to be important and significant on this earth. And no one can deny that Adam was indeed that. And that in many ways, he still is.
And so, being that significance and importance were relevant with the first covenant couple and even with Christ's interaction with the woman who washed his feet, why should we settle for any less than a significant union with our future husband? In other words, why is it good enough to be with a guy just because he's cute or single or likes some of the same things that we do or gives us some attention or has 80 percent of what's on our "wish list"? (Yeah, make sure to consult God on some wisdom re: that list, by the way-James 1:5) Why wouldn't we aim higher and want to be with the kind of person who will prove to be *truly* or, as the lead Scripture says, *wonderfully significant*?
Someone who is going to help us do *important* things in this world.
Someone who is going to make sure that our marriage to them is going to be *notable*.
Someone who lives to make significant and momentous choices in the lives of others.
Now how many marriages do you know that you can define that way?
Unfortunately, a lot (A LOT) of people got excited about "nothing" and got married. Anyway.
Life, and marriage, is to be so much more than that!
Don't you be a statistic. Of the "nothing epidemic".