"Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him. And out of the ground the Lord God formed every [wild] beast and living creature of the field and every bird of the air and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them; and whatever Adam called every living creature, that was its name. And Adam gave names to all the livestock and to the birds of the air and to every [wild] beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and while he slept, He took one of his ribs or a part of his side and closed up the [place with] flesh. And the rib or part of his side which the Lord God had taken from the man He built up and made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. Then Adam said, This [creature] is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of a man."---Genesis 2:18-23(AMP)
Here's something that I want you to consider. Just for a moment.
In the Garden of Eden, in the state of perfection, Adam had an *intimate relationship* with his Creator. He also had a job, one that came with a purpose. And after those two things were in place (not before-I Corinthians 14:40), Adam saw that he did not have a helpmate.
1) Scripture does not tell us that Adam *asked* for the Woman. He just noticed that, in the midst of his work, something was missing.
2) Adam realized this *while he was working*. As he was fulfilling his purpose.
Something that I have stated several times on this blog is that I find it to be super unfortunate (and also highly delusional-Matthew 24:4) that far too many of us will wait on a fairy tale story (which is a childish fable-I Corinthians 13:11) to define what our courtship should look like rather than the actual Bible. And not just that, but we fail to revere the only time when a couple was in a perfect state, which was the Garden of Eden.
The reason why I'm bringing this up is because prayer has revealed that there are far too many woman who are still (STILL) *sitting around waiting for a man* rather than *living a full life as a single woman* (James 1:4). And the main reason why that is such a problem is because Adam didn't realize that he didn't have a helpmate while he was sitting around doing nothing. He realized it *while he was working...in his purpose*. The "Wow God!" moment (Psalm 18:28) that is birthed out of that is the fact that God took a rib from Adam once Adam had a relationship with him and once he also knew what he was to do on this earth. Then (catch it, please) *out of those two things*, he made his helpmate.
ADAM WAS READY FOR A WIFE ONCE HE HAD A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND WAS WORKING WITHIN HIS PURPOSE.
THE WOMAN WAS CREATED FOR ADAM ONCE HE HAD THOSE TWO THINGS...*AS A MAN*.
My mother used to tell me something often: "Do everything you can't compromise before you get married." It's actually a blog unto itself because I talk to women on a semi-regular basis who seem to live as if life will begin *once they get married* when the reality is that if you don't start discovering who you are now, you may find yourself getting with someone you may care about but who is not ultimate God's perfect fit for you (James 1:17). I have said it many times: the Word does not say "It's not good for man to be alone. I'll give him someone to love." The Word says "It's not good for man to be alone. I'll make someone suitable, adaptable and complementary for him." How can you possibly be that person if you are not focusing on becoming all that you need to be? In other words, a part of what God is using time for right now *is to create you* into the one who will be the right fit for your mate.
I just read a quote this morning by Shannon L. Adler that simply says this: "God doesn't put that much prep into something that is insignificant."
Some ladies need to change jobs because the next one will make them the kind of woman they need to be and as a result, *bring them closer to their husband*.
Some ladies need to move away from the city they live in because it will transition them into the kind of woman their husband needs and yes ultimately, *bring them closer to their husband*.
Some ladies need to focus more on their spiritual gifts than their talents because its by cultivating their *gifts first* that the Holy Spirit's power really manifests and in settling into that space, it will *bring them closer to their husband*.
Some ladies need to be more responsible with their time and their resources because the more balanced they are, the more attractive they will become, which can ultimately *bring them closer to their husband*. (How is a woman *helping a man* when she doesn't know how to manage her emotions or her finances?)
And yes, some ladies need to spend some time on an article that I "happened upon" (Proverbs 16:33-AMP) this morning: "10 Things You Probably Do That Block Your Creativity". Why? Because. For all you know, not being creative is hindering you from growing into the kind of woman God wants your future husband to have. Being close-minded. Remaining attached to the familiar. Using self-defeating talk. Putting your energy into patterns. Always finding an excuse to not step out. Look, does being made out of a rib sound "normal" to you? So why would some of the things that the Spirit is calling you to do have to sound "ordinary"? By doing something extraordinary, the Woman was made and she was *just right* for Adam and she knew it because he told her so:
"And Adam said: 'This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.'"---Genesis 2:23(NKJV)
How could Adam know this when he was asleep (not conscious) while the Woman was being made? He knew it because she was like him (that's what complementary means). And because they were similar, *he saw her*.
BY YOU DOING SOME THINGS IN AN EXTRAORDINARY WAY, THAT COULD VERY WELL BE HOW GOD IS "CREATING YOU" FOR YOUR HUSBAND...SO THAT HE CAN BE ABLE TO *SEE YOU TOO*.
So if this is resonating something within you, if you feel a spark igniting, then check out the article below. As the Lord told me, "Some men can't even see their wife because she's not letting me bring her to where she's supposed to be because she's so busy following her program rather than mine." And disobedience, especially when fear is the motivator (2 Timothy 1:7), brings not just consequences but ultimately lack too.
Yep, don't be mad about not being married if you're not properly preparing for marriage.
And with that, here's the article and the 10-point list:
If you’re wanting to live a creative life but feel something is holding you back, you’re probably right. And guess what? It’s most likely you. That’s right, for all the obstacles you feel are in your way and block your creativity, it’s often the things you say to yourself that have the biggest impact and keep you stuck.
Today I’d like to share with you 10 things you probably say to yourself that block your creativity.
1. I’m Not an Expert in My Creative Field, So I Don’t Feel Ready to Put Myself out There.
You don’t need to be an expert to put yourself out there. All you need is a unique point of view, and you already have that; we all do. Your creative work is special and ready to share with the world, so stop holding back. You’re already expert enough.
2. I Don’t Believe in Myself as a Creative Person.
The most powerful thing you can do for your creativity is to believe. When you don’t believe in what you’re doing it shows, and you sabotage your own work in the process. If you want others to believe in your creative work, you need to believe first.
3. I Feel Like It’s Not the Right Time Yet, But I’m Not Sure When it Will Be.
There’s never a perfect time, and if you wait for one you might be waiting your entire life. You can never know for sure when the best time will be, but the truth is the sooner you put yourself out there and start sharing your creativity, the quicker you’ll learn what you need to know to live your ideal creative life.
4. I’m Afraid Things Won’t Work Out.
You can never know if things will work out or not. But you need to trust yourself and believe that what you’re doing is worthwhile enough that whether you succeed or fail, it will be an experience well spent. Life is all about pursuing great experiences, and your creativity is something worth pursuing regardless of the eventual outcome.
5. I Think About My Past Failures and They Rule My Thoughts.
Constantly rehashing past failures is a sure way to get yourself down. If you’re stuck in the past, it can be very difficult to move forward. Let your past failures be in the past. They taught you valuable lessons that you’ve learnt from. But they don’t need to live in your now.
6. I Don’t Think I’m As Talented As Other People.
Comparing yourself is dangerous because when you compare you are not comparing like for like. You’re comparing someone else’s highlight reel (the very best presentation of their work) to your work in its entirety, warts and all! What looks average to you will often look amazing to others from the outside; it all depends on your perspective.
7. I Am Scared My Friends and Family Will Judge Me and My Work.
Our friends and family usually mean well, but sometimes their judgement can feel harsh. Whether it’s disapproval of your creative life choices, a perfectionist parent who picks at every imperfection, or a friend who thinks they know it all, comments from friends and family can really get you down. Often one bad comment can scar us for years, but it’s important to remember that most people will be encouraging and accepting of your creative work. As for the rest? Ignore them. They likely have their own issues at play.
8. I Feel Like I Will Make Mistakes If I Start Now.
We all make mistakes. And no matter how long you spend preparing yourself to start, mistakes will still be made. Mistakes are an inevitable part of the learning process. Go easy on yourself, and decide that it is OK to make a mistake.
9. I Feel Guilty When I Do Creative Work Because It’s Not Productive.
If your creativity isn’t making you money and something else is, it’s easy to feel guilt over doing your creative work because it isn’t productive enough. But you know what’s more important than productivity? Your happiness. Don’t let the pursuit of productivity rule your life. Start living and doing what you love because that’s what really matters.
10. I Need to Know All the Answers Now Before I Start.
You can never know all the answers before you start. No matter how much research and preparation you do, things will pop up that you never could have imagined. When you search for answers before you start, you are really just estimating what you need to know. To get most of the answers, you need to just dive in and start. There’s no other way to find them.
If you want a marriage made from heaven, let God *create you*.
Be open to being more *creative* so that your husband can see you as a great fit and the favor he needs when it comes to furthering his relationship with God and his purpose.
A great covenant couple does not just love each other.
They are suitable. They are complementary. THEY. FIT.