"Relax, everything’s going to be all right; rest, everything’s coming together; open your hearts, love is on the way!"---Jude 1:2(Message)
As I was doing some praying today...
I smiled when I saw that picture quote. Especially the part that says that God is *perfectly able* to bring *the right person* into our lives (of course, he is!-Deuteronomy 32:4). The key, the key that far too many people miss, is the fact that in order to get to God's absolute best person for you, you must let him do things in his own time and in his own way.
Rinse and repeat: IN GOD'S TIME. IN GOD'S WAY.
And more times than not, that is going to be a way that is not our own (Isaiah 55:8-11).
In fact, one huge mistake a lot of women make is thinking that since they were created to be a helper for a man (Genesis 2:18) then that "training" should begin by helping God in getting to their husband when the reality (Ecclesiastes 7:18-Message) is that God doesn't really need our *help*. What he actually needs is our *obedience*.
And when it comes to obeying the Lord, the first thing that we need to do is what the Jude 1:2 says: RELAX. And by relax, more specifically, "to release or bring relief from the effects of tension, anxiety, etc.". When you're tense, you're "stretched or stressed tightly; taut or rigid" and "producing mental or emotional strain". When you're anxious, you're "full of mental distress or uneasiness because of fear of danger or misfortune; greatly worried; solicitous". To be solicitous is to be eager and to be eager is to be "impatiently longing".
Yeah, there are a lot of issues with all of that...
For one thing, I Corinthians 13:4 tells us that "Love IS patient."
How can we possibly be ready to love anyone if we can't even love God enough to wait on him?
The Word is quite clear on how to handle anxiety too...
"Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."---Philippians 4:6-7(AMP)
Did you peep how it said to be anxious...*for nothing*? A husband is not excluded from that list and honestly, something that I had to accept when it comes to my own journey (James 5:16), something that I had to check myself on and accept is the fact that if/when I find myself getting anxious about my marital future, being that the Word (John 1:1) says that prayer is the remedy, then my issue is not really so much about wondering what is going on with my future (or the man who is in it), but rather it's about not spending enough time in prayer. In other words...
OUR ANXIETY LEVELS REVEAL HOW MUCH PRAYING WE HAVE DONE. NEED TO DO. OR HAVEN'T DONE. WE KNOW THIS BECAUSE THE WORD TELLS US THAT PRAYER AND HAVING A HEART OF GRATITUDE PROVIDES US PEACE WHICH WILL GUARD OUR HEARTS AND MINDS.
And when our hearts are guarded (Proverbs 4:23), we can really rest in God and relax in him knowing that he he really knows what's best and that he really and truly is working out everything for our good. (Romans 8:28) Again, in his way and in his time. Not our own. That's a big part of what having faith in God (and pleasing him with it-Hebrews 11) is all about.
Besides, how much good can you be on your quest to get to your beloved if your mental and emotional state is all stressed out? No one is at their pique condition when they are that way and if you poll most of the men you know, being an anxious woman is not even close to appealing. God doesn't find it attractive so why should someone who is made in his image (Genesis 1:26-28)? Shoot, even Ruth was told that there was a time when she needed to *chill out*; that there were simply some things that she couldn't do: "Naomi said, 'Sit back and relax, my dear daughter, until we find out how things turn out; that man isn’t going to fool around. Mark my words, he’s going to get everything wrapped up today.'" (Ruth 3:18-Message)
So, are you created/designed/called to be a divine helper for your husband? If you are called to be married, indeed you are. But nowhere in the Word are we told to "help God out" with the process.
So, if that's what you've been doing...*please stop*.
And then watch what being in that kind of spiritual space does for you...
Before, during and after being brought (Genesis 2:22)...to "him".