"Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul."---I Samuel 18:3(NKJV)
There used to be a time when I wondered why, when it basically came to the one clear reference to a soul mate in the Bible, it was two men rather than a man and a woman.
I actually like it now though, because it's a blaring reminder that soul mates come in different packages. Some are married couples. Some are friends. Some are people who are called to create/develop/build things together.
Yet, at least biblically, it would appear that one thing soul mates have in common is that there is *a covenant* in place:
Covenant: an agreement, usually formal, between two or more persons to do or not do something specified
So first up, this means that folks don't need to be walking around declaring that someone is their soul mate when the other individual is not in on it (LOL); if they have not *agreed* to do something specific with you. In other words:
SOUL MATES ARE COVENANT MAKERS AND COVENANT KEEPERS.
There's more though...
There is a quote I read years ago that I like a lot: "You don't have a soul. You are a Soul. You have a body." When I think of it in the context of verses like "Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers" (3 John 1:2-NKJV), it reminds me that souls are important to God. *Very*.
We know this because of verses like these:
"The Lord shall preserve you from all evil; He shall preserve your soul."---Psalm 121:7(NKJV)
"Keep sound wisdom and discretion; so they will be life to your soul and grace to your neck."---Proverbs 3:21-22(NKJV)
"Why do you spend money for what is not bread, and your wages for what does not satisfy? Listen carefully to Me, and eat what is good, and let your soul delight itself in abundance. Incline your ear, and come to Me. Hear, and your soul shall live; and I will make an everlasting covenant with you— The sure mercies of David."---Isaiah 55:2-3(NKJV)
"If you extend your soul to the hungry and satisfy the afflicted soul, then your light shall dawn in the darkness, and your darkness shall be as the noonday. The Lord will guide you continually, and satisfy your soul in drought, and strengthen your bones; you shall be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail."---Isaiah 55:8-11(NKJV)
"Jesus answered him, 'The first of all the commandments is: ‘Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one. And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ This is the first commandment. And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.'"---Mark 12:30-31(NKJV)
In fact, after checking out verses like those, I personally discern that "soul" is not a word that is explored enough! So just what is a soul exactly?
Soul: the spirit or immaterial part of man, the seat of human personality, intellect, will, and emotions, regarded as an entity that survives the body after death; the spiritual part of a person, capable of redemption from the power of sin through divine grace; the essential part or fundamental nature of anything; a person's feelings or moral nature as distinct from other faculties; nobility of spirit or temperament; an inspiring spirit or leading figure, as of a cause or movement
In the Hebrew language, the word for soul is nephesh and I like how one author said this about that word: "nephesh comes from the verb nâphash (Strong's #5314) which only occurs 3 times and is usually translated by 'refreshed'. A good example is in Exodus 31:17 '...in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, and on the seventh day He rested and was refreshed', literally and anthropomorphically 'God took a breather'!" (If God honors the Seventh-Day Sabbath, *all of us should!*-Genesis 2:1-3)
So when you "take in" all of the words that encompass the soul---spirit, intellect, will, spiritual, essential, fundamental, feelings, moral, nobility, inspiring a cause or movement...refreshed---I personally don't discern that soul mate is something that should not be used lightly or without a deeply spiritual *and moral* connotation. In other words, if you are actually someone's soul mate and they are yours, you're not causing one another to become *less* spiritual or moral or noble. You two have agreed (AGREED) to make a covenant to make each other even more that way.
And if you are a bible believer and/or disciple (John 17), this means that you need to be soul mates with someone who seeks to honor and uphold and obey the word just as much as you do; in fact, you both should be constantly challenging one another to grow more in your relationship with God, your purpose and your faith. Your soul comes before your flesh at all times.
A soul mate doesn't lessen your quality of spiritual life.
A soul mate is committed to doing all that they can in order to preserve it.
That's what I like so much about Jonathan's love for David. He put his own life on the line in order to protect David's. Why? One reason is because he made a covenant and two because he knew David had a purpose to fulfill and he respected it enough to assist in preventing anything or anyone from preserving it. Yes, another thing that comes with being a soul mate is being willing to "stand in the gap" as a lifesaver.
That's really hot too being that:
When God said it was not good for man to be alone; that he would make him a helper, it has been discussed many times on here that Ezer Kenedgo is the Hebrew word for "lifesaver" (Genesis 2:18).
And then, most of us are pretty familiar what the Word tells husbands to do:
"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church."---Ephesians 5:25-29(NKJV)
In a marital covenant, husbands and wives who are *true soul mates* are willing to take great lengths to help save the quality of one another's lives. They are not going to do what will harm the other person or place them into spiritual compromise. They are going to do just the opposite.
So, as we are dating or courting someone (and yes, there is a difference between the two), then we should be striving to seek the one we can say the same thing about.
A man who uncovers you sexually, how is he your *soul mate*?
A man who does not rally you to go deeper in your relationship with God, how is he your *soul mate*?
A man who doesn't seek his purpose and doesn't encourage you to do the same, how is he your *soul mate*?
When it comes to soul mates, it's not that the word is a problem. It's the fact that, per usual, the world has jacked it up by putting a lust and pride (and selfishness) spin to it.
So, is it wrong to want to marry a true soul mate? Hmph. *You'd better*.
Just make sure:
That he is spiritual...
That he is moral...
That he is intellectual...
That God told you (GOD TOLD YOU) that he is essential to your life...
That he will be noble...
That he will help you to fulfill your purpose...
That he will refresh you...
And more than anything, that he rallies for you to love God with all of your soul---in your words and in your actions.
When *that guy* arrives, yes "On Fire" women, you can consider him to be a true soul mate.