I'll be a month away from 40. And as those in my intimate world have been asking me what I desire to do to commemorate the occasion, one of the words that the Spirit has been bringing into my spiritual psyche is "special"; that I am special, what I have to offer is special and that I need to hold all of my being for someone who will deem me as being special.
SPECIAL. Although it's a word that a lot of use (or actually, probably *misuse*) in our regular vocabulary, as God has been talking to me about it more and more, I can't help but wonder how many of us *really know* (and embrace) what it means to be special; to be one of God's "special people" (I Peter 2:9-10):
Special: of a distinct or particular kind or character; pertaining or peculiar to a particular person, thing, instance, etc.; distinctive; unique; having a specific or particular function, purpose, etc.; distinguished or different from what is ordinary or usual
As a child of the Most High (Psalm 82:6), this is how each of us are to see ourselves. We are not to do common things. We are not to speak, dress or act ordinary. We are not to allow anyone to treat us as anything less than special either.
And yet, unfortunately, that is what a lot of us tend to do.
Our standards for a relationship are not *peculiar*.
The way that we expect a man to court us is not *specific*.
How we handle ourselves emotionally and/or sexually is not *different* from everyone else.
And yet, so many of us want God to bring us someone special when we are not acting like we are special.
In the context of this blog, the definition of special that really stood out to me was "having a specific or particular function, purpose, etc." If you believe that you are called to marriage, you are called to a *specific person* and your mind, body and spirit are made for a *particular purpose* within that union. You are not to be out here "trying guys on" like you do a random pair of shoes. *You are way too special for that*.
And here's the thing about special. It sounds a lot like the meaning of holy.
One author put it this way:
Ancient Hebrew Word Meanings
Holy - qadosh
Holy - qadosh
When we use the word holy, as in a holy person, we usually associate this with a righteous or pious person. If we use this concept when interpreting the word holy in the Hebrew Bible then we are misreading the text as this is not the meaning of the Hebrew word qadosh. Qadosh literally means "to be set apart for a special purpose". A related word, qedesh, is one who is also set apart for a special purpose but not in the same way we think of "holy" but is a male prostitute (Deut 23:17). Israel was qadosh because they were separated by the other nations as servants of God. The furnishings in the tabernacle were qadosh as they were not to be used for anything except for the work in the tabernacle. While we may not think of ourselves as "holy" we are in fact set apart from the world to be God's servants and representatives.
There are a few things that I like about this. One, we see that to be holy *is to be special*. We also see that being holy is about being set apart to be servants of God. Uh-huh, and what was it that God said in the Garden of Eden? That it was not good for man to be alone; that he would make a *helper* (Genesis 2:18) for him, right? God might as well have said "I will make a holy special vessel for him" (nice). And finally, what else I like about all of this is that it reminds of this verse in the Bible: "For I am the Lord who brings you up out of the land of Egypt, to be your God. You shall therefore be holy, for I am holy." (Leviticus 11:45-NKJV and I Peter 1:16). Again, God might as well have said "Be special, for I am special." And we know that God does things in excellence. We know that he is extraordinary. We also know that all that he does is purposeful too.
So, take out a moment and do a bit of pondering (Proverbs 4:26).
If you're not currently dating (preferably courting) someone, have you made a point to decide how you want to be treated (without compromise) so that you'll know that "he" knows that you are truly special?
And if you are seeing someone, what are your standards? Are you acting "common" or are you handling yourself in such a way where "he" sees you as being truly unique? Yes, special!
Genesis 1:26-28 tells us that we are made in the image of the Godhead to reflect their likeness. If you're out here acting anything less than special, then you are not acting like you were created to.
God has a special person for you so that the two of you can be joined to him in order to make a *truly special union*.
So before going on your first or next date, remember this message and remember that even now God is saying to you:
"Be special, for I am special!"
(And remember that is not a request, that is a command!)