Saturday, May 10, 2014
"On Fire": Know YOUR SOUL Before Finding a SOUL MATE.
"Now when he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. Saul took him that day, and would not let him go home to his father’s house anymore. Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul. And Jonathan took off the robe that was on him and gave it to David, with his armor, even to his sword and his bow and his belt."---I Samuel 18:1-4(NKJV)
While I was doing a bit of research, I read a quote by an author named Charles F. Glassman that simply said this: “Before you find your soul mate, you must first discover your soul.” It's a simple statement and yet a really profound one if you stop to think about it.
There are so many people out here looking for their "soul mate"; however, how many people are putting real prayer and time and effort and energy into understanding *what is within their own soul* so that they can know who truly complements it?
I believe I've said before on this blog that I am a firm believer that there are all kinds of soul mates. That's a part of the reason why I put I Samuel 18 up at the top. David and Jonathan were platonic friends yet there was something about Jonathan that loved David as his own soul. And if you follow through with the rest of David and Jonathan's journey, there does seem to be a security and focus that Jonathan had in dealing with all of the obstacles that came with being devoted to David. Seemingly, he must've really known who he was in order to love someone else with all that he had.
So, what does it mean to "know your own soul"? Interestingly enough, more than what I thought it did. Here is a straight copy and paste for Hebrew reference website that I read on the topic of what a soul truly is:
What is the soul? Webster's Dictionary gives the following definition. "The spiritual nature of humans, regarded as immortal, separable from the body at death, and susceptible to happiness or misery in a future state." In most cases people will understand the soul through this definition. But, as I have so often stated, our interpretation of Biblical words should be from a Hebraic perspective, not a modern western perspective such as English.
The Hebrew word translated as "soul" is the word nephesh (Strong's #5315). If we look at the various ways in which this word is translated in an English translation, such as the KJV, we will see a wide variation in its interpretation. Some of these translations include; soul, life, person, mind, heart, creature, body, dead, desire, man, appetite, lust, thing, self, beast, pleasure, ghost, breath and will. What exactly does this word mean?
I had always assumed that only humans had a soul but, it was during a study of the word "soul" that I discovered that translations often influence how we interpret Biblical concepts. In Genesis 2:7 we find that man is a "living soul" and in Genesis 1:21 we find that animals are "living creatures". When I first started using a concordance to look up the original Hebrew words I was amazed to find out that these two phrases were the identical Hebrew phrases - nephesh chayah. Why would the translators translate nephesh chayah as "living soul" in one place and "living creatures" in another? It was this discovery that prompted me to learn the Hebrew language.
In the Hebrew mind we are composed of three entities; body, breath and mind. In future issues we will examine each of these but for now let us simply make some general definitions for them. The body is the flesh, bones and blood, the vessel. The mind is ones thoughts and emotions. The breath is one's character, what makes a person who they are.
The soul is the whole of the person, the unity of the body, breath and mind. It is not some immaterial spiritual entity it is you, all of you, your whole being or self.
There is a Christian site that basically says the same thing. You can read all of it by clicking on the link, but for now, here's the gist:
The word “soul” is not the best translation of the original Hebrew and Greek terms. In the Bible the “soul” is not immortal and cannot exist independent of the physical body. From the point of view of biblical anthropology (the study of human nature), the term “soul” expresses two main ideas. First, humans are by nature creatures of desires and longings. Second, humans are living beings who eagerly seek to live but are unable to acquire or preserve life by themselves. “Soul” refers to the whole person in need of God, who is the only one who can preserve a human being or extinguish the self forever (Matt. 10:28). Therefore, nephesh/psuche refers to the totality of the person as a center of life, emotions, feelings, and longings that can be fully realized only in union with God.
OK, so according to both authors, *your soul is basically all of you*.
Yet what really stands out to me is what the Christian author said:
One, your soul is comprised of your desires and longings.
Two, your soul is compromised of an innate desire to live and a knowing that only God, the Spirit (John 4:24), can cause that to happen.
*Nice*. So, in the quest of a true (marital covenant) soul mate, it's not just about searching for someone who can meet/understand/satisfy your desires and longings. It's also about joining yourself to an individual who shares in your desire to live (and according to Christ, live abundantly-John 10:10)---someone who is aware that it can only happen (ONLY HAPPEN), by pining after God, seeking after God, praying to God, serving God and loving God...and looka there---loving him just as Christ instructed us to:
"Jesus answered him, 'The first of all the commandments is: ‘Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one. And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ This is the first commandment. And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.'"---Matthew 12:29-31(NKJV)
Sadly, there are far too many of us who are trying to find a partner before trying to love God with our all. Ah! So, no wonder so many marriages are...not ideal. A lot of people missed the formula for finding a true soul mate:
The more you come to love God, the more he reveals to you who you are truly meant to be and the more that happens, the more you can see what your truest and deepest desires and longings are. And the more that is the case, the more you find yourself wanting someone who is the same: someone who also loves God with their all.
The more you see that you need God in order to live, the more you find yourself searching for someone who is aware of that same reality. And as you love God with all of you, the more he reveals the kind of life he has planned for you *and* the kind of person who can help you to live that life more abundantly. (Yeah. Really nice.)
So honestly? Should we be looking for a soul mate?
It would appear that what we *really should be doing* is asking God to show us how to know our own soul (how to really and truly live our lives). And when that happens, a "spouse", a "counterpart", a "fellow worker" and "partner"...will come naturally. Spiritually. SOUL-FULLY.
Yep. Like the Woman in the Garden (Genesis 2:22), God will lead/bring/present us right to him.