Wednesday, June 11, 2014
An Ounce of Prevention: 'Called To The Ministry of Marriage – Part 1'
There are a lot of women...
Who write in to me wondering how they can know if they are called to marriage. I believe I'll be penning a piece on that sooner than later. For now, here is an article that I thought was fitting for the topic. One thing that I really liked was this line: "Marriage had evolved from an idea to a revelation!" (S-C-A-P):
Yes! There really is such a thing! Some of you ladies may remember when you used to play “house” as children. You played and imagined that you were wives and mommies. Although some of you men may not admit it, you were out there playing right along with them, being the husbands and the daddies.
As time moved on, ladies, many of you went from the pretending to be mommies to the dreaming and knowing that you were going to be wives—very special wives. Many of you sensed and knew, with all of your hearts, that you were destined to be the wives of preachers or ministers. Others of you dreamed that you were going to be the wives of very special, very rich, very famous, or very important men.
Still, others of you were just simply looking forward to just enjoying simple lives of fulfillment and comfort in marriage. That which began as childhood fun, later turned into a young adult dream, and then became a full-blown passion. Marriage had evolved from an idea to a revelation!
Here’s another great revelation, “Marriage, in the eyes of God, is a ministry”. Marriage was, and still is, originally God’s idea. Marriage did not originate with man or religion; but with God. Too many people and cultures treat marriage only as a right and freedom, granted to us according to the laws of the land, and standards of our religions. With some people, the last time that they allowed God in their marriage was at the ceremony! This may very well account for why so many spouses inevitably to experience that feeling of “something is missing” from their marriage.
So then, what does ministry have to do with marriage? That depends on how you define the word, “ministry”. For the most part, we have religiously and traditionally defined and confined the term “ministry” as referring only to persons of the pulpit that are specifically, especially, and divinely called, chosen and ordained by God. We’ve also restricted ministries to divers departments in the church, such as the ministry of music, the ministry of helps, the ministry of defense, the children’s ministry, etc.
Not all ministries are exclusive to preachers, preserved for the pulpit, or confined within the walls of the church building. Simply put, to minister means, “to serve”. Ministry, as defined and used in so many places in the bible, comes from the Greek word “diakonia”, which basically means, “service” (Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance of the Bible, 1248).
Since ministry is defined as “service”, then whatever you do from your heart as a service unto God could very well be considered by God to be a ministry, or an act of ministry. However, whether or not what you do as ministry unto God is His “calling” for your life; is a matter to be resolved between you and God! As for the subject of ministry pertaining to marriage, let’s look at Genesis 2:18.
“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18).
The very first “help” that God made for man was called a “help meet”. The man, Adam, received this “help meet” by taking her as his wife.
“And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed” (Genesis 2:23-24).
By God’s design, the very first “ministry of helps” to man is the office of a wife to her husband, through marriage. What was she to help him to do?
“And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth” (Genesis 1:28).
In the Garden of Eden (represented today as “the Kingdom of Heaven”) the man and his wife were both blessed of God with “The Blessing” for Kingdom Living and Kingdom Business. When a woman marries a man to be a life-long help and blessing to the ministry and call of God on her husband (or husband to be), she not only has a marriage, she has a ministry.
Her role as a wife exceeds responsibility and excels into ministry. Her ministry to her husband is also her service to God. In her service to God is the anointing to serve. That anointing to serve is what makes her a “good thing” in the eyes of God, to her husband, and to the Kingdom of God and Heaven.
“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD” (Proverbs 18:22).
Good stuff. That's actually a part of the reason why this blog has the Scripture that it does at the top of the page (on the left side). I too believe that marriage is a ministry and a big part of helping is ministering.
Like I said, I'll be back to touch on the "called to marriage" issue.
In the meantime, prayerfully, this provides some seeds to ponder and you know what the Word says: "Ponder the path of your feet and let all your ways be established." (Proverbs 4:26-NKJV)