Thursday, June 26, 2014
An Ounce of Prevention: (VIDEO) 'Wait Until Marriage to Have Sex'
A spiritual brother of mine got married on Father's Day weekend and...
Being that we've known each other since college, we know a lot of each other's history. Including sexually. So, being that he was the first one to jump the broom, I asked him to share a couple of paragraphs on the difference (to him) between single sex and married sex. Here's what he said:
As a recently married newlywed, here are some thoughts on the difference betweensex before marriage and sex during marriage.
No matter the connection you THINK you feel before marriage with someone, the simple feeling of being relaxed and comfortable with the person you are married to is unmatched. When you know beyond the shadow of a doubt there is a commitment that is spiritual, legal and truly consensual (no ulterior motives, no games, no trying to figure out if one or the other is using sex for leverage, etc), sex becomes much more intimate.
Another thing about sex within marriage is that you learn your limitations, but you also find that you can explore together as frequently and as risqué as you like. Hebrews 13:4 (NKJV) reads “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled…” That’s real talk. He gave us sex within marriage to enjoy in a way we cannot enjoy outside of marriage. You can replicate the physical feeling. You can’t replicate the spiritual intimacy.
To add to that...
Here's a good video on why we all should wait until marriage for sex:
It's some good stuff. Watch it. Pass along. Especially to men who are not quite convinced that single sex is doing nothing for them in comparison to what married sex can and will.