Sunday, July 20, 2014
An Ounce of Prevention: 'Man Uses Spreadsheet to List All the Times Wife Turned Down Sex; Wife Posts It on Reddit'
And what is that? It's a spreadsheet that a husband recently created displaying the amount of times that he asked his wife for sex vs. the amount of times that she turned him down.
And why am I sharing it here? One of the biggest overlooked, let's call it "trappings" about single sex (eh hem, fornication) is the fact that it makes you pretty selfish sexually. Everything is on your terms. That is not what sex is about:
"Now as to the matters of which you wrote me. It is well [and by that I mean advantageous, expedient, profitable, and wholesome] for a man not to touch a woman [to cohabit with her] but to remain unmarried. But because of the temptation to impurity and to avoid immorality, let each [man] have his own wife and let each [woman] have her own husband.
The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights (goodwill, kindness, and what is due her as his wife), and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have [exclusive] authority and control over her own body, but the husband [has his rights]; likewise also the husband does not have [exclusive] authority and control over his body, but the wife [has her rights].
Do not refuse and deprive and defraud each other [of your due marital rights], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves unhindered to prayer. But afterwards resume marital relations, lest Satan tempt you [to sin] through your lack of restraint of sexual desire.
But I am saying this more as a matter of permission and concession, not as a command or regulation.
I wish that all men were like I myself am [in this matter of self-control]. But each has his own special gift from God, one of this kind and one of another. "---I Corinthians 7:1-7(AMP)
According to Scripture (2 Timothy 3:16-17), a husband and wife should give to one another what is due to them, they do not have exclusive authority or control over their own bodies and withholding sex (other than for mutual praying and fasting purposes) is not just refusing or depriving one's spouse but it's *defrauding* them as well. Plus, it gives Satan an "in" (a lot of couples seem to overlook that for some reason).
Bottom line, if you're not ready to look at yourself/your life/your marriage in this fashion...
You are not ready for marriage. OR SEX.