Friday, July 4, 2014
An Ounce of Prevention: 'Signs That He Is and Is Not Husband Material' ('Is Not' First)
It's hard to make a long-lasting dress with cheap material.
Same goes for a good marriage.
That said, here's a list of five signs that a man is not marriage material followed by 10 signs that he is (both S-C-A-P):
Marriages are made in heaven. Yes, that’s true but these days it’s hardly easy to get a guy with heavenly traits. All men we come across are devilish in some way or the other. So it’s not an easy task to find a man who is complete marriage material for you. In fact, you can be very comfortable with the guy you are dating, but it is not necessary that he would be your perfect life partner. Here are some signs showcasing what traits don’t suit a marriageable man which clearly say that he is not marriage material.
1. He is satisfied with his current position
You may find him Mr. Perfect, but if you see that he is not taking any initiative to improve his life in any way, it is a great sign of a relationship failure. When he is not concerned about his future life, how can you expect that you will be happy with him?
2. He is out of commitment
He is evasive when you talk about serious commitment. This is because he is not serious about the relationship and doesn’t want it to be long term. He is not devoting his time, he is least concerned about the problems and he is not in any mood of discussing about it. He has other important issues to solve excluding your problems.
3. He says "no" to a long term relationship
He thinks that it is a big deal that he has been in a six month relationship. He doesn’t want to prolong the relationship any further and is eager to move on. This is one of the signs regarding the guy you’re dating and where your relationship is heading. You can never be with a person who wants to be in a relationship for two or three months. So if you find your guy has the same views, back off before disaster hits.
4. He doesn’t take much interest in you
If you notice that your partner is not taking interest in your affairs and is least concerned about your priorities, he is not a match for you. If you see that he is too busy in solving his life problems and not paying attention to you, you should start thinking about it. He has canceled his date with you since he wants to hang out with his friends or he keeps you waiting for a long time before showing up to meet – all these are signs that he is not concerned about your feelings. He simply doesn’t respect your feelings and your wishes.
5. He is dominating
For a successful relationship, both partners should abide by each other’s priorities. If you find your partner dominating and suppressing you at every point, you would never be happy with him.
A stark contrast from the following list. I will this about the intro, however. A lot of women are quick to talk about there being a lack of good men, but they would have a complete and total fit if they heard a man say the same thing about them. Good men are in abundance. We have to learn how to look...differently. Is all:
In today's society, young, decent men are rare to find. This problem has become so serious that A.J. Kieling even wrote a book about it called Where Have All the Good Men Gone? in 2008.
When we think of young men today, we think of metrosexual, hipster, and unmanly guys who can't bait a hook, skin a buck, and dress like rugged men. It seems as though manly men are a symbol of the past and now are officially gone.
Ladies, yes, there are unfortunately fewer young men who qualify as marriage material today. However, decent men still exist. Keep these 10 qualities in mind when looking for Mr. Right, so you don't lose sight of him:
Strong moral code
A man who abides by a moral code is definitely a keeper. He is the type of man who knows the difference between right and wrong. He always grounds his decisions in life on an understanding of a high moral ground. A man who prides himself in morality and becomes your future husband will definitely instill moral values in your children.
Good relationship with his family
A man who has a close and loving relationship with his family is a man you want to be with. This type of man knows the importance of family and truly cherishes family time. He will most likely place great importance on family after he marries you and begins to raise a family with you. Also, a man who treats his mother with respect will most likely treat you with respect and is obviously worth having as a husband.
Understands the sanctity of marriage
A man who is marriage material truly understands the real purpose and importance of marriage. He will most likely uphold a life-long commitment of fidelity and love to you and the children that will potentially result from your marriage. Since cohabitation and the hookup culture have now become norms in our society, you don't want to miss out on being with a man who wants to pursue a life-long marriage with you.
Respects human life
Ladies, a man who values the sanctity of human life from womb to tomb is not only worth swooning over, but also makes for a great husband. A man who knows that human life is precious will be more open to welcoming children into the world after you get married. He will also do his best to ensure that the elderly in your family are cared for, protected, and live their life to the fullest.
Hard work ethic
A man who has a hard work ethic is marriage material. He will never give up when working towards his ambitions. He will always work hard to provide your future family financial support, no matter what circumstances come his way. He will also instill this same value in your future children. A man stricken with a case of the "entitlement mentality" is not a great catch for your future anyways.
Shared life goals
A man who shares similar life goals with you will make for a great husband. Sharing that similarity with you, he will most likely support your efforts in life. He will always be there to comfort you when you hit your lows and rejoice with you when you achieve your goals. Walking along the same trajectory in life, you both will most likely maintain a strong marriage, despite any setbacks you may face.
Honors your femininity
A man who recognizes your beauty, inside and out, and honors your femininity is worth keeping. He will respect you as a woman and have a better understanding of your purpose in your marriage. He will value you completely, not only for your physical appearance or features. A man who cherishes this quality in a woman will also teach his daughters to maintain their femininity and self-worth as they get older.
A man who puts others before himself and gives a helping hand to those in need is a man you should not overlook. A man who values selflessness will most likely be a loving, supportive husband and father. When he becomes your husband, he will also encourage your children to be charitable towards others in your community. A man who has a heart for humanity is a man you want to be with for the rest of your life.
A man who is faithful not only to you, but also to God, will make for a great husband. This type of man will value and uphold the vows he made to you on your wedding day. He will also value your importance in his life as his wife and the mother to his children. His faithfulness to you will also underlie the steps he takes to keep your marriage stable for your children. In addition, a God-fearing man will let God unify and strengthen your relationship, will highly prioritize your marriage, and will make sure morals form the foundation of your family.
Knows his purpose in life
A man who knows his purpose in life is a man worth marrying. He will remain confident while pursuing his life's goals and what drives his soul. Because he knows his purpose, he will probably be more career-driven, despite any shortcomings he may face. Since he has this quality, he will continue to be an inspirational force in your life after you two are married.
Yes, good men are becoming more scarce in America, but know in your heart that there is a man out there in our generation who would love to make you his wife one day. Likewise, he has a similar plight--finding a young lady to marry who cherishes her femininity, does not conform to our morally decayed culture, and is not swayed by the false promises of third-wave feminism.
A decent man that you want to share a beautiful marriage with is out there. Although he may not be easy to spot, he will come and sweep you off your feet when you least expect it. Just make sure that he has these 10 qualities, so you know you two are meant to be.
In dating relationships, please use these lists and check 'em twice.
It's a lot easier to get into a marriage than it is to get out of one. (Matthew 19:1-12, I Corinthians 7:10-11)