I know, right?
For whatever the reason, this is a heavy content week. Guess the Lord is trying to spare some of us some---(more) unnecessary-ness. Take it from me: I've learned that "everything happens for a reason" justification is sometimes just a way to make ourselves feel better for our fearful or lust-filled or straight-up disobedient behavior. As a believer and/or disciple (John 17), things shouldn't just "happen for a reason". We need to do things that are directly connected to our purpose.
I thought about that as I read an excerpt from an article featuring Vivica A. Fox. At 50, here's something that she said in Sister 2 Sister magazine:
If she has a biggest regret in life, Vivica A. Fox said it’s that she never had a child.
“Of course, if that’s the biggest regret of my life that I have was that I didn’t have a child, but I’m a good godmother,” Vivica told Oprah Winfrey in a preview for “Where Are They Now.”
Vivica said Halle Berry gushed about the joys of motherhood to her while the two were at a red carpet event, not long after Halle gave birth to her daughter.
Halle told Vivica, “If I knew then what I know now, I would have had five of them.”
Vivica, who was described as the “’90’s ‘it’ girl,” also wishes she hadn’t spent so much time with the wrong guys, seeking a real relationship.
“I would jump into the shallow end of the pool head first. Now, I’m a little bit more cautious,” said Vivica who wants to be with a man now. “I had to learn to stop dating little boys. I had to learn to stop falling in love with a six pack and smile.”
Dating little boys (see article below this one).
Falling in love with a six pack and smile.
Although I know some people who say "I don't believe in regrets", honestly, I tend to keep my distance from those kinds of individuals. It's a *very prideful* (Proverbs 16:18) way to look at things and a follower of Christ *should* be *humble enough* (Luke 14:11) to have regrets. Regret means "to feel sorrow or remorse for (an act, fault, disappointment, etc.)" and remorse means "
But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves." (James 1:22-NKJV)
TO THINK YOU'RE HEARING FROM GOD IF YOU'RE NOT FOLLOWING THE WORD...
THAT IS IS A FORM OF SELF-DECEPTION.
When you deceive yourself, you mislead yourself---usually onto a path that isn't God's best for you. A path that takes away time...*precious time*. And then, like the picture quote, you find yourself giving the "full-time position" of a husband to "part-time" boyfriends or friends with benefits (which even science says is a complete joke and a huge mistake, by the way) or casual sex partners (I Corinthians 6:16-20-Message).
*What a waste of your time*.
Yeah, some of you are probably thinking "So what am I supposed to do? Sit here and wait?"
Um...yeah. That's exactly what's suppose to happen if what you're tempted to do is be impatient or settle or compromise God's standards for you. Because here's the other thing: Waiting is a form of obedience (Romans 8:22-26-Message); that makes *God responsible for your time* and as Ecclesiastes 3:11 tells us "He has made everything beautiful in its time." When you're out on your own...well...that's exactly what you are---*out on your own*.
That's a good motto to have when it comes to dating.
If it's not godly...
If it's not purposeful...
If you and the guy are not seeking the Father about what's next.
It's a romantic relationship that's really a waste of your time.
And just like you, your time is precious. *Very*.
Just as Vivica A. Fox. And me too.