Friday, October 31, 2014
"On Fire": (Quick Thought) Are You EASY TO LOVE?
Earlier this week...
I checked out an article entitled "The Mind Of A Married Man: What Makes A Woman Wife Material". Feel free to click on the link to read the entire piece. For now, the part that stood out most to me was this:
She's Easy to Love... She's not playing games, making him "prove his love" by doing ridiculous things or creating arguments based on her insecurities. A confident woman who knows her worth, understands her flaws and accepts love and support from others is a woman that any smart man will want to keep around. One thing women often fail to realize is the same barriers we put up to protect our hearts often keep out the men who can help heal them. A marriage-minded man will appreciate a fair chance and won't waste his time doing petty things to prove himself to you. One guy mentioned that he shouldn't have to, "Start at zero and earn points with you based on your insecurities." Instead, he should start with all of the points and lose them based only on his own actions instead of your experiences with others.
A WOMAN WHO IS EASY TO LOVE IS:
NOT PLAYING GAMES.
NOT TRYING TO MAKE A MAN PROVE HIMSELF.
NOT CREATING ARGUMENTS/STARTING DRAMA.
I wonder how many guys would say that a big part of the reason why they've ended a relationship---or didn't even let one get off of the starting mark---was because the woman in their life was doing *these very things*.
And then there's the definitions of easy:
Easy: not hard or difficult; requiring no great labor or effort; free from pain, discomfort, worry, or care; providing or conducive to ease or comfort; comfortable; fond of or given to ease; easygoing; not harsh or strict; lenient; not burdensome or oppressive; not difficult to influence or overcome; compliant
In the dating and courtship phases, it's a good idea...
To not be difficult...
To not make a man have to go through great lengths of labor..
To spare him unnecessary pain and worry...
To help him to feel comfortable and at ease in your space.
And is it transitions into engagement and marriage...
To not be harsh...
To not be burdensome...
To not be (catch it) difficult to influence (one way to look at submission)...
It's an epidemic, how many woman are...*uneasy to love*. Oftentimes it's because they don't know how to love themselves first. It's almost as if they are looking for someone to make the self-love journey not as challenging for them when honestly, *if you don't love you*, you're automatically going to make it harder for someone else to do it.
Welp. That's all I got for now. ;-)
If you're in the process of pondering-and-purging, it can't hurt to do some self-introspection.
*Have you been easy to love?*
There's no time like the present to start.