Thursday, December 25, 2014
"On Fire": (VIDEO) No ORDINARY Love
Slight side note edit: Never *be in love* with someone who treats you like you're ordinary. We're called to love our enemies (Matthew 5:43-48) and sometimes they treat us worse than ordinary.
Back in my not-so-wise days...
One of my favorite songs was "No Ordinary Love" by Sade. On some levels, it still is.
Except on this side of wisdom and not "returning to my own vomit" (Proverbs 26:11), I'm looking at it more from the perspective of desiring a mutual kind of extraordinary love rather than feeling like I'm the only person in the relationship offering it.
Do you feel me? Yeah, I figure you would. ;-)
I mean, how can we proclaim that we are daughters of the Most High (Psalm 82:6), that we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), that we are of a royal priesthood (I Peter 2:9-10) and then when it comes to something as godly and special and precious and purposeful and amazing as marital covenant...settle for the ordinary?
Ordinary: of no special quality or interest; commonplace; unexceptional; plain or undistinguished; somewhat inferior or below average; mediocre; customary; usual; normal
Synonyms: traditional, typical, humdrum, routine, run-of-the-mill, common
Now for the record, I'm not cosigning on "living for the fairy tale". If you've been following this blog long enough, then you know that fairy tale is not my most favorite term on the planet. It literally means "an incredible or misleading statement, account, or belief", "a story about fairies or other mythical or magical beings, esp one of traditional origin told to children" and "a highly improbable account". Hmph. There's no telling how many marriages are jacked up, right at this very moment, and it's due to the fact that the wife was "living for the fairytale". The Word speaks of there being a time when *childish things* need to be put aside (I Corinthians 13:11) and the Message Version of Ecclesiastes 7:18 tells us that when we fear God, *when we reverence him*, we put forth the time, effort and energy to focus on reality.
It's kind of like how I'm also not thrilled with the whole "I'm waiting on my Prince Charming" resolve. *Why would you want to do that* when the Word says "Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised" (Proverbs 31:30-NKJV)? Again, there's no telling how many wives are going to roll over in their beds tonight, look at their husband and mumble under their breath "Who *are* you?" because they got caught up in *charm* rather than *character* (Colossians 3:12-17).
To me, waiting for a love that is out of the ordinary means not settling for the Average Joe (as you strive to be more than the Average Jane). It means not missing out on an opportunity simply because it's "abnormal" or breaks tradition (as long as you're staying within godly guidelines, it's OK to veer away from tradition. Christ did it *a ton* while on this earth). It's about being open to trying things that are not hum-drum or common. It's about truly letting God write your love story and not expecting love, or your proposal or your wedding or your marriage to be...typical. The Word does tells us “Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him” (I Corinthians 2:9-NKJV), after all.
I thought about all of this when I checked out a video tonight. A married couple lost some of their wedding day reception footage and so the husband decided to recreate the event as a one-year anniversary present:
I continue to be amazed by and appreciative of the love stories that beckon us to not become (or remain) jaded...or discouraged...or fearful...or worse than all of them *desperate* to the point that we will get into a relationship (or remain in a non-marital relationship) just because we don't believe that we can have an extraordinary one:
Extraordinary: beyond what is usual, ordinary, regular, or established; exceptional in character, amount, extent, degree, etc.; noteworthy; remarkable; very unusual, remarkable, or surprising
Synonyms: amazing, fantastic, exceptional, incredible, marvelous, odd, rare, remarkable, special, surprising, unheard-of (you're unique; your marriage should be too), unique, unprecedented, boss, fab, peculiar, stupendous
Speaking of extraordinary couples/marriages, don't even get me started on these two:
Per an article I just read:
The Briggs have been married for 38 years, but together for 43 after meeting at a Christian camp as teenagers.
The deeply religious pair adopted their first child 29 years ago — and have no plans to stop.
Many of the children — aged between four and 35 and from countries such as Mexico, Russia, Ukraine and Ghana — have severe medical or learning disabilities including polio, cancer and autism. Most struggled to find families in their homelands.
With 24 of their children still living at home, the Briggs have the organizational skills of a drill sergeant and the patience of a saint.
God does some pretty miraculous things and he is the inventor of marriage.
You've waited this long.
Don't settle for the ordinary.
Let him bring you (Genesis 2:22) to something and someone who is truly...extraordinary.
And in the meantime, allow him to make you the kind of woman who will be ready to receive it.