Friday, December 12, 2014
"On Fire": Why Just Have 'Good' When You Can Have GREAT?
"But, on the contrary, as the Scripture says, What eye has not seen and ear has not heard and has not entered into the heart of man, [all that] God has prepared (made and keeps ready) for those who love Him [who hold Him in affectionate reverence, promptly obeying Him and gratefully recognizing the benefits He has bestowed].
Yet to us God has unveiled and revealed them by and through His Spirit, for the [Holy] Spirit searches diligently, exploring and examining everything, even sounding the profound and bottomless things of God [the divine counsels and things hidden and beyond man’s scrutiny]."---I Corinthians 2:9-10(AMP)
Over the past several weeks...
There have been some women who have reached out to tell me that the relationships that they are now in, they regret (been there, done that---threw out a ton of those "T-shirts"). And yet, here's the interesting thing that most of them have in common: These guys did not bamboozle them. Actually, they were were warned, *beforehand*, that the individual was not God's best for them.
There were red flags.
There were spiritual compromises.
There were serious character flaws.
And all of these things were totally ignored because the women so wanted to be in a relationship.
As I sat and gave that some thought this week, especially in relation to the "On Fire" women, it's the quote up top that I was led (Luke 12:12) to. You know, even in the Garden of Eden, while God was creating so many things, it wasn't until after he made the man and the woman that he declared that everything was very good (Genesis 1:31). During the process, some things were good. *Once the process was complete, things became very good*.
Not just good but extremely and exceedingly good.
Another way to say that is GREAT.
Great: unusual or considerable in degree, power, intensity, etc.; wonderful; first-rate; very good; notable; remarkable; exceptionally outstanding; important; highly significant or consequential
When God made marriage, in the state of perfection, he made it to be great. And even now, that's still his intention. Marriages are not to be "OK" or "so-so" or even just "alright" or "good". They are to be *great*. We know this, in part, because husbands are instructed to love their wives in the same way that Christ loved the Church (Ephesians 5:25-33). And whew! I'm reminded every day of how great that love is!
And so, since marriage was designed by God to be great, doesn't that mean that the man and the woman within the union should also be great? And *doesn't that* mean that we as women should strive to be *great* and that we also should not settle for less than *great* in the man we're in a relationship with as well?
An unusual man. (I Peter 2:9-10)
A wonderful (which means excellent) man. (Song of Solomon 5:15)
An exceptionally outstanding man. (Colossians 3:12-17)
And perhaps the most important definition for the particular blog post...
A man who is going to be highly significant and consequential. Especially to our spiritual growth.
If you're in a relationship right now, have you asked the Lord "Am I settling for 'good' because I don't believe that I will get 'great'?" Because something that a lot of us overlook is that promises like the one found in the lead Scripture, we oftentimes edited. Yes, it is hard for many of us to truly conceive what God has in store for us; yet in order to even catch a glimpse, we can't look to our fleshly appetite (James 1:14-15) or by "following our heart" (definitely not that-Jeremiah 17:9). We have to spiritually discern it: "But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; nor can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned." (I Corinthians 2:14-NKJV)
This means that in order to be clear on what is good for us---and who is good for us...
We need to spend a lot more time praying and a lot less time dating around.
And once God presents his standard to us, we also need to exercise enough faith (2 Corinthians 5:7)...
To walk away rather than stick around.
If indeed, we're not with what's great because we're settling for what's good.