Tuesday, January 13, 2015
"On Fire": Chill Out. Gear Up. GOD IS PREPARING YOU TO BE THE BEST POSSIBLE HELPMATE.
"Now the Lord God said, 'It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.'"---Genesis 2:18(AMP)
You know what?
No matter how much time I spend reading Genesis 1-2, I am always able to see something from a broader perspective.
As I watched pieces and then recaps of the Golden Globes this past weekend, I must admit that George Clooney and his bride/beloved/wife Amal Alamuddin (Clooney?) caught my attention. Not because I was looking for or expecting them to. They just did. For three reasons.
1) As I'm pretty sure most of us know, George Clooney is more like in the "beginning stages of fall" of his life rather than the middle of spring. I by no means profess to know the inner workings of his new marriage and I will forever be a champion of people making *their first marriage* work if at all possible (yes, he's been married before---Malachi 2:16, I Corinthians 7:10-11). Yet even with this being his second go at it, amidst all of the rumors of him being a "distinguished playboy" and throughout all of the time that has passed, kudos to him for not rushing before he felt he was ready. Age should not be a factor in marriage. God, spiritual maturity (Matthew 19:11-12-Message), purpose, love and integrity are what's most important. Whether you're 25 or 65.
2) If you didn't catch the opening of the show, by far one of my favorite "jokes" was one that Tiny Fey said: "Amal Alamuddin is a human rights lawyer who worked on the Enron case, was an advisor to Kofi Annan regarding Syria, and was selected to a three-person U.N. commission investigating war violations in the Gaza strip. So tonight her husband is getting a lifetime achievement award." Every time that I look at Amal, for some reason, I think of Anne Hathaway. That's not a bad thing either. Both Anne and Amal are attractive women. Yet that's not all that they are. They're not just good photo opp options. Anne is an accomplished actress and Amal?!? Whew! And that's kinda my point. George, clearly, had literally hundreds of women to choose from, but it appears that he selected someone who has an awareness of her purpose, who is full of substance and clearly and obviously has a life of her own. Before she entered into his.
3) I didn't see George's Lifetime Achievement Award acceptance speech live. I did catch clips of it, though and I adored this part: "It's a humbling thing when you find someone to love." As I shared in one of the devotionals that I recently penned, the Hebrew word for love is "ahavah". The Hebrew word for humility is "anavah". Just one letter separates the two. You can't truly love without being humble. This would include humbling yourself enough before the God who knows who is best for you---and when.
It also includes humbling ourselves enough to look at Genesis 2:18 just one more time.
God said, GOD SAID that it's not good for man to be alone.
Adam didn't say it.
The Woman didn't say it either.
God was who determined that those two needed to come together and when it needed to transpire.
And you know what? God still desires for things to be that way with us even now.
The more time that we spend asking God "Where is my husband?" or complaining (Philippians 2:14) "How long do you expect me to wait?" (and yes, some of us really do sound like this when we're talking to God), the more we find ourselves losing sight of three main things:
1) God does not owe us a husband. Marriage is a gift. And a huge responsibility.
2) God is the only One who should determine when two people should be brought together.
3) The Woman was brought to Adam *after* she was formed. Not while she was a "work in progress".
Yes, we live in a sin-filled world now and so unfortunately, the Garden of Eden kind of life is harder to obtain. Yet, with humility and obedience, the formula can still be applied.
1) By accepting that marriage is a gift from God that serves a purpose beyond our desires for companionship, sex, children or anything else on our list, we are able to *calm ourselves down* (Proverbs 17:27) and embrace that marriage comes when God knows it is best, not when we think we should have it.
2) By accepting that Adam was asleep and the Woman was brought to him (Genesis 2:18-25), we realize that a godly man sees the woman who is meant to be his own when God wants him to. In the meantime, a woman does not approach a man on her own; she allows God to bring her, to present her, as a blessing to the man. Thanks to God and his timing (Acts 1:7-Message), this happens at a time when the man is spiritually conscious enough to see her---as his wife.
3) A good helper is the kind who uses her time as a single woman to prepare to be the kind of help that her future husband needs. And you know what? Being the *only God* know who our husband is, then only God can provide us the directives that we need to become the best help possible. We're not in a state of perfection now. Therefore, we'll always be a work in progress to some degree. However, this is the season where we can heal from past mistakes, receive information that is needed to be a good companion and seek the Father on how to love him and our future beloved fully. And forever.
So many women want a man to marry them and "fix them". What kind of help is that?!? Good help means doing hard work. It's about what the lead quote says: nourishing, sustaining and strengthening. Spiritually, physically, emotionally, mentally and on some levels, even professionally. The time that you are spending now is not just about "waiting". It's also about *preparing*. Each day is preparing you to be the kind of wife who will be a good helper; not just to any man but *the man God has for you and you alone*.
With a resume like the one Amal has, Clooney indeed did get a lifetime achievement award by being joined to her.
Our husbands should be so blessed as to be able to say the same thing about us.
Someday. One day.
In God's perfect and blessed time.