Wednesday, February 11, 2015

An Ounce of Prevention: 'Don't Wait Until Marriage to LIVE YOUR LIFE'

"Seize life! Eat bread with gusto, drink wine with a robust heart. Oh yes---God takes pleasure in your pleasure! Dress festively every morning. Don’t skimp on colors and scarves."---Ecclesiastes 9:7-8(Message)

Just now...

I read something that was quite tragic:

A young U.K. woman about to turn 30 years old committed suicide because she didn’t want to be unmarried and without children by the age of 30.

According to reports, 29-year-old Rachel Gow became concerned as she approached her 30th birthday that others in her family were “doing better than her.” After beginning to fear that her boyfriend, 30-year-old Anton Tsvarev, would leave her, Gow sent him a text that wished him “all the best for the future,” and then took her own life. Tsvarev discovered Gow at her home and attempted to revive her several times to no avail.  

You know what? While it might be tempting to think "she was extreme" and "something must've really been wrong with her", isn't it just as sad if someone is not *living a full life* because they are waiting until they are married (or in a relationship) to do it?

There's a couple I know right now who has been married close to 30 years and yet the husband wants to end it. And what's his main reason? Because he feels that his wife has no ambition. That her only real goal was to "get a husband". As a direct result, she is needy and manipulative and boring. She has no real goals, no friends of her own and no plans for the future. When life piques at getting married...that's pretty tragic. It's not suicide, but in many ways, it can be perceived as a slow death. In its own very sad way.

So, in the effort to make sure that we take King Solomon up on his words of wisdom, I found a couple of articles that include lists of things that we all should do while we are single. I'll just share the points but feel free to click on the links to read all of the copy:

10 Things You Must Do When You’re Single:

Stay single for three months. (If you just got out of a relationship.)
Take a trip with your best friend.
Spend a weekend with a married couple.
Travel. Visit a foreign country by yourself.
Be picky. Don’t fall too fast.
Find yourself.
Reconnect with old friends.
Get in shape.
Actively meet new people.
Enjoy it.

8 Things You Should Do While You're Single To Make Your Next Relationship Healthier:

Date Yourself
Think About What “Baggage” You Bring Into Relationships
And Actually Try To Spend Some Time Downsizing It (As Much As Possible Anyway)
Establish Your Own Routines
Ask Yourself What You’re Looking For
Take Note Of Your Successfully Dating Friends
Recognize Your Faults
But Also Your Strengths

My mother has some great advice for singles:


If a lot of us were honest with ourselves, there are at least a few things to still check off on that list!

No woman should take her life because she's single.
No woman should not live her life because she's single either.

Amen? Amen.



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