Monday, February 9, 2015
An Ounce of Prevention: (VIDEO): 'Single and Want to Be Married...Self-Check!'
While I was looking for something in the wee hours of this morning, the video below "came out of nowhere" (Proverbs 16:33-AMP) into my YouTube feed. I've never heard of this pastor before but I dig his delivery style and his message.
It's roughly 41 minutes long but it won't seem that long once you start watching and getting into what he's saying. For those who would prefer the cliff notes or a teaser, these are the points that I jotted down:
1) How God-centered is your relationship?
2) When choosing a mate, purpose should come over preference.
3) When dating/courting ask "Can we help each other accomplish our divine purpose?"
4) Every godly relationship should have Psalm 34:3(NKJV) stamped on it: "Oh, magnify the Lord with me, and let us exalt His name together." You both should ask "Can we exalt his name better together than we can apart? If not, we need to cut this off."
5) God is looking to get glory out of your relationship. So, be clear about three things.
A) Who is your Master?
B) What is your mission?
C) *And then* who is your mate?
6) Weddings set us up for unfulfilled expectations.
7) Expect nothing in your marriage. When you expect nothing, you're grateful for everything you get. You become a contributor and not a consumer.
8) You can make requests but they have the right to say "no". They have free will. You cannot control them. It's children who throw temper tantrums when they can't have their own way. Request, do not demand. There is a difference.
9) You can choose to die (to self) and let your marriage live or live and let your marriage die. You can't do both. (AMEN!)
10) Marriage is a full-length mirror known as your spouse to show you who you really are.
11) If you're happy all of the time, you cannot grow.
12) Adam was formed from the ground. That's why he's earthy. Woman was made from man. That's why she's relational. She was made for relationships.
13) Married couples are to leave, cleave and weave. And then have total transparency.
14) Transparency's formula is truth-seen-accepted-love.
15) Love in light of what you know; not in spite of what you know.
It's great for singles. It's also really good for married folks, so pass along to both.
Again, 40 minutes (lunch break or a television sitcom) well spent. It really is!