Sunday, August 9, 2015
"On Fire": (VIDEO) What Are You 'DROPPING' for a Man?
As I was doing a bit of 'net surfing last week, I checked out a brief article with this title:
"Woman With Weird Priorities Drops Kid While Going for Wedding Bouquet"
Being that the featured video currently has well over 2,000,000 views (even though it was *just published* late last month), I'm pretty sure that some of y'all have already seen it. If not, here ya go:
A couple of questions here:
1) The "woman" holding the child looks like a little girl herself, so I'm kinda wondering why she's even participating at all (a message unto itself!).
2) Why didn't someone, including the videographer, especially since she was in the front row, notice that she was holding a child to begin with?
Either way, I was thankful for the visual because I've been both little girls to tell you the truth. I've been "dropped" for the sake of a relationship and I've "dropped" my own priorities just to "catch" a man.
And that's actually what drew me to the title of the article...
Yes, her priorities were, weird, to say the least...
And yet, how many of us can admit that we've done something similar?
When you have a husband, a man, under God, *then* becomes your top priority (I Corinthians 7:33-34). OK, but before then? Uh-huh. YOU, under God, are your top priority.
So let's do a bit of a mental exercise...
You're the "bigger little girl" and what's currently on your plate is the child.
The bouquet? That's the *prospect* of a guy potentially heading your way.
Your purpose. (Psalm 20:4)
Your calling. (Romans 11:29)
Your plans. (Proverbs 16:9)
Are you willing to just *drop everything* for what *might be*?
Gee, I certainly hope not.
Here's what I mean by that...
The title of the devotional that I penned today was "7 Huge Mistakes About 'Single Sex'" (it's pretty long so if you want a copy of it, shoot an email over to firstname.lastname@example.org). One of the things that I realize is a huge problem with fornication (Hebrews 13:4) is it jacks up your priorities. It either wastes time that you could be putting into being more productive *or* it causes you to make someone be a lot more important in your life than they actually should; you start treating a man like a "hubby" when really what they are is a *violator* (ouch!).
Yet beyond sex, when we don't ask the Lord to help us to guard our hearts (Proverbs 4:23), when we don't seek divine wisdom (James 1:5) and wise counsel (Proverbs 12:15) about who the right man is and what the right timing is (Acts 1:7-Message), in the spirit realm, we look just about as crazy and desperate as that girl dropping a child in order to catch a bouquet did! Suddenly what was once so important is now neglected and oftentimes, we end up like the bigger little girl in another sense: all of that effort and still...nothing.
Case in point. I know two women who moved to Nashville for a man. Neither of them are with said man or still in Nashville for that matter. And you know what? It's pretty sad because although neither of them know one another, something that they both have in common is that the man they moved here for told them that there were no promises or assurances on the table; that they couldn't guarantee a commitment. Hmph. I don't know about you but that sounds like a really cryptic...*no*. Meanwhile they both spent years waiting on one man when they could have been *living out their lives*.
How do you get you get your priorities in order? The Word breaks that down: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths." (Proverbs 3:5-6-NKJV)
Also, as I was reading an article on priorities, the author brought up a couple of really good points:
Most Christians proclaim that God is number one or that he has top priority in their lives, but how they schedule their lives often contradicts their claims. I believe we are in the last days and believers must take authority over their flesh and make God and increasing His kingdom the top priority in their lives in order to see their dreams fulfilled.
God intends for all to prosper, although he will not make us walk in the light of the word. He's provided all the tools needed to be the success he destined, but it is YOU and I who control whether or not that Divine Destiny is fulfilled. Our willingness to set priorities will make or break us, we must put God first. In Proverbs 24:27 it clearly speaks to us about what comes first: "Prepare thy work without, and make it fit for thyself in the field; and afterwards build thine house."
...When our priorities are not in order it's easy to allow circumstance and other people to set our priorities.
If we allow our flesh to control us, spiritual things can never take their rightful place as priority in our life. Being tired should have nothing to do with your getting up in the morning to pray. God is before all things and holds everything in your life and this world together (Colossians 1:16-17, AMP). We can't say God is first in our life when we continue to yield to our flesh. Walking in the Spirit and doing God's Word must be the highest priority in our life. The day we make the Word second place in our life will be the day we find ourselves in the flesh, wondering why the Spirit isn't working for us.
A friend of mine once said "We're to tithe 10 percent of our income, right? Shouldn't we also tithe 10 percent of our time? That's 2.4 hours a day." Yep. One movie's worth. And could you imagine how much bigger and clearer our lives would be if we did that? How much we won't be like "a woman dropping a baby" because our priorities would be straight? How confident we would be that a man would come along when nothing had to be "dropped" or "neglected". How we could rest in knowing that he would arrive at a time when he would fit in...nicely and drama-less-ly---because when things, including timing, are fully surrendered over to the Father (Acts 1:7-Message), everything is made beautiful...in *its* time (Ecclesiastes 3:11)?
*breathe in, breathe out*
A priority is defined as being "the right to precede others in order, rank, privilege, etc.; precedence".
Think about what is precious to you...what truly takes precedence...
Then purpose in your mind not to "drop it". No matter what.
Because when the right man comes along...
You won't feel as if you have to "drop everything"...
But that you'll be free to fully embrace him.
Because he'll come at just the right time...
When *God decides* he is to take top priority, under him, in your life.