Wednesday, May 18, 2016
"On Fire": (VIDEO) Your Body Is a PRIVILEGE Your Husband's VOWS Earn
"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not embarrassed or ashamed in each other’s presence."---Genesis 2:24-25(AMPC)
Not too long ago...
I wrote a devo stating that one of the things Satan likes to bring upon us is shame (he is "the accuser of the brethren", after all---Revelation 12:10). And that's one of the reasons why he likes to tempt us so much with sexual sin (I Corinthians 10:13). He knows how beautiful it is with God and how straight-up evil it is outside of his will. *Only in the confines of marriage* did God declare that a man and woman---only as husband and wife---can be naked and not ashamed.
Whenever I do interviews and people ask me if I would marry someone I've already had sex with, my answer is "no". It's not that I don't think a relationship infected by sexual brokenness can't be restored (Joel 2:23-25). HOWEVER, it takes a lot of work, there is still reaping from the choices that must be endured (Galatians 6:7-8) and...I just don't want a rerun on my wedding night. I want to be (pleasantly) surprised...and I want my future beloved to feel the same way. I want him to know that I loved God *and then* him enough to wait. That he was not my idol (Exodus 20:3); that I honored him enough to wait until God gave him permission to be the priest of my heart and home.
I like that picture quote.
My husband having me...
Your husband having you...
IT IS A PRIVILEGE.
PRIVILEGES MUST BE EARNED.
That's why I like the article "No Sex Zone: Why One Couple Is Practicing Celibacy". It's a Q&A. I wanted to share the last question since Satan likes to pull the ridiculous "test drive before you buy", umm, rationale (?!):
Do you worry about not being sexually compatible? Should that be a deal breaker in a relationship?
Brianna: I’m definitely not worried about being sexually compatible. I think communication solves everything. You have to tell someone what you like. I know that Paul is a giver and wants to please me in other areas, so this will definitely not be any issue for him. I also know that if God wants me to wait, it will definitely be worth the wait. He doesn’t make any junk and he wants me to have the best in every area, including my sex life. I don’t think it should be a deal breaker, because I believe intimacy and fulfillment can be attained through communication.
Paul: No, I already know we’re sexually compatible. I can see it in her eyes! It shouldn’t be a deal breaker. Communication is key.
Good for them! If you believe what the Word says, then you can rest in the fact that God withholds NO good thing (Psalm 84:11), he makes EVERYTHING beautiful in its time (Ecclesiastes 3:11) and he can do exceedingly abundantly above ALL you could ask or think (Ephesians 3:20-21)! Sex is not excluded from these assurances. Not by a long shot!
Meanwhile, What does sin do? This:
"But every person is tempted when he is drawn away, enticed and baited by his own evil desire (lust, passions). Then the evil desire, when it has conceived, gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is fully matured, brings forth death."---James 1:14-15(AMPC)
So, whether you're a virgin and tired of waiting...
You're abstinent and wondering how long you'll have to wait...
Or you're having sex and you need to be further encouraged TO STOP...
Spend some time reading about what a privilege your body is by pondering (Proverbs 4:26) the definitions of the word:
Privilege: a right, immunity, or benefit enjoyed only by a person beyond the advantages of most; an advantage or source of pleasure granted to a person
Your husband's wedding vows are what give him the right...
To have you as a source of his pleasure (I Corinthians 7:1-5, Proverbs 5:15-20)...
DON'T COMPROMISE THAT!
Then check out this video from a married couple. The husband was not a virgin when he got married. His wife was. They both abstained from one another until they jumped the broom and did a video to share why it was worth the wait---in a very real way.
God *never* intended for us to associate sex with shame. EVER.
Satan wants all sorts of shame connected to our sex lives.
Give God what he wants...
And what you deserve.
To be naked and *not* ashamed!
Each day of obedience...brings you one step closer to bliss.
By waiting until marriage.
Until your husband has earned the privilege!