Sunday, August 21, 2016
An Ounce of Prevention: 'Waiting to Awaken Love'
"[He said] I charge you, O you daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles or by the hinds of the field [which are free to follow their own instincts] that you not try to stir up or awaken [my] love until it pleases."---Song of Solomon 2:7(AMPC)
That Scripture right there...
That's one of the most RESPONSIBLE THINGS any woman has said in Scripture concerning romantic love. An article that expounds on it speaks volumes all on its own. I'll share an excerpt. Please make the time to check it out in its entirety:
The way in which the Song persuades us to wait for marriage to have sex is striking, however. Often Christians focus on the various rules that the Bible gives us about our sexuality — the “Thou shalt not’s.” There is certainly biblical wisdom behind those rules. Yet what the Song adds to the rules are reasons. Rules are like walls and fences: They can mark out where proper boundaries exist. Yet walls and fences are of only limited help in keeping people in their proper place: They can easily be tunneled under, climbed over, or broken down. It is much more likely that we will stay on the proper side of the wall until marriage if we have a reason rather than simply a rule.
Intriguingly, the Song compares waiting for marriage to guarding a vineyard. In the springtime of the year, when flowers are in bloom and all nature is telling you to go forth, be fruitful and multiply, the woman warns us of the little foxes that can damage the fragile blossoms of the vineyard, with serious long-term consequences for its fruitfulness (2:15). She reminds us that the farmer who invests his energy in protecting the integrity of the vineyard will not regret it later, even though the benefits of this painful perseverance won’t be reaped until the time is fully ripe.
Vineyard tending is a long, patient process of waiting and watching in which one failure doesn’t bring the whole endeavor to nothing. The farmer who fails doesn’t have to give up the vineyard as damaged goods. He can repent and rebuild the broken wall and start again to watch and wait. Equally, while keeping the walls is important in vineyard tending, it is not the only thing. It’s about taking care of tender blossoms. Tending your sexual vineyard is therefore not simply about actual physical sexual intercourse; it is about protecting your mind from habitual lust, romantic fantasy, and pornography, all of which can have long-term damaging effects. You can have a vineyard whose walls are still intact but whose blossoms have been trampled into the muddy dirt in other ways.
Nor is watching over the vineyard an end in itself. Rather, its wonderful purpose is to be able at the end of the process to present your vineyard to your lover in full bloom, so that you can both enjoy its fruit without regret or remorse. The intensity of the waiting makes the final consummation all the more glorious. Failure should not lead us simply to guilt but to repentance, while God enabled purity should not result in pride but profound thankfulness to God for his grace that protected us against ourselves.
*The intensity of the waiting makes the final consummation all the more glorious.*
I'm a marriage life coach.
People try to get me to date/meet someone all of the time.
Life has taught me to say similar to what the Shulamite woman did...
Abstinence doesn't make sexuality dead. Just dormant.
A season of waiting to receive *God's definition* of satisfaction and pleasure. Not man's.
(Psalm 16:11 & 145:16)
And God can do exceedingly abundantly above our estimation of ALL THINGS!
Patience leads us to perfection with no sense of lack (James 1:4)...
Don't pressure yourself or allow others to pressure you to move ahead of God's timing.
Allow God to awaken love...
Are really and truly READY!
AND ONLY GOD KNOWS WHEN THAT IS.