Sunday, September 18, 2016

"On Fire": (VIDEO) When's the Last Time You've Prayed for Your Future Husband?

An Open Letter to My Future Husband...I'm Not Waiting for You | Reckless Abandonment:

"...pray without ceasing..."---I Thessalonians 5:17(NKJV)


When's the last time you prayed for your future husband? Not prayed *about* him or that God would bring you to him (Genesis 2:22) but actually prayed FOR him?

With the days and times that we're living in, I don't know about you, but personally, I'm seeing people get further and further away from prayer---across the board. At least when it comes to one of the true purposes of it:

Prayer is not a normal part of the life of the natural man. We hear it said that a person’s life will suffer if he doesn’t pray, but I question that. What will suffer is the life of the Son of God in him, which is nourished not by food, but by prayer. When a person is born again from above, the life of the Son of God is born in him, and he can either starve or nourish that life. Prayer is the way that the life of God in us is nourished. Our common ideas regarding prayer are not found in the New Testament. We look upon prayer simply as a means of getting things for ourselves, but the biblical purpose of prayer is that we may get to know God Himself.

“Ask, and you will receive…” (John 16:24). We complain before God, and sometimes we are apologetic or indifferent to Him, but we actually ask Him for very few things. Yet a child exhibits a magnificent boldness to ask! Our Lord said, “…unless you…become as little children…” (Matthew 18:3). Ask and God will do. Give Jesus Christ the opportunity and the room to work. The problem is that no one will ever do this until he is at his wits’ end. When a person is at his wits’ end, it no longer seems to be a cowardly thing to pray; in fact, it is the only way he can get in touch with the truth and the reality of God Himself. Be yourself before God and present Him with your problems— the very things that have brought you to your wits’ end. But as long as you think you are self-sufficient, you do not need to ask God for anything.

To say that “prayer changes things” is not as close to the truth as saying, “Prayer changes me and then I change things.” God has established things so that prayer, on the basis of redemption, changes the way a person looks at things. Prayer is not a matter of changing things externally, but one of working miracles in a person’s inner nature.


Women who spend a lot of time asking (or is it demanding?!) about a husband is not really *praying for him*. A part of the reason why, even when it comes to our future life partner, it's important to "pray without ceasing" is because not only does it prepare your mind/body/spirit for your beloved who is to come but it also prepares him. A part of the reason why coming to God about him in a state of spiritual (Psalm 51:10) and sexual purity (I Corinthians 6:16-20--Message) is because the Bible is God-inspired (2 Timothy 3:16-17), God cannot lie (Titus 1:2) and James 5:16(AMPC) tells us this: "The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working]." I know believing this to be true is a part of what's held me on all this time!


1) Pray about if being married is a part of God's will for your life.
(Matthew 19:11-12--Message)

2) If it is, pray that God prepares you to be a BIBLICAL wife.
(Proverbs 31:10-30, I Peter 3:1-4, Ephesians 5:22-24, Proverbs 14:1, I Corinthians 7:1-5)

3) Pray that your husband strives to become a BIBLICAL husband.
(Ephesians 5:25-33, I Peter 3:7, I Corinthians 7:1-5)

4) Pray that you will guard your heart (mind/body) from the men who *aren't* your husband.
(Proverbs 4:23)

5) Pray that you will trust more in GOD'S TIMING more than your own (or the pressure of others).
(Acts 1:7--Message, Ecclesiastes 3:1& 11, James 1:17)

If you've never really thought about doing it, you're not sure how or you're discouraged right now, here's a cool video to inspire you:

Once you're in the groove of praying, maybe you'll be ready to do some writing...or some *more* writing...

Dear Future Husband, I want to learn everything about you even if it takes me the rest of my life. Especially if it takes me the rest of my life. Love, Your Future Wife:

An "On Fire" sistah (thanks Christina!) sent me a cool write-up last week entitled "Dear Future Husband..."

It starts off like this:

We kissed on the couch while watching a movie in his parents basement. He asked if I wanted to go further and I froze at the question.

How much further? Should I be cool and roll with it? Should I say no?

Questions raced through my mind and in a panic, I excused myself to the bathroom before I could answer. After an awkward conversation, I drove home feeling like a super uncool loser who just lost the cool guy's interest. I felt like the only girl in high school who couldn't keep a guy's interest long.

I encountered a similar situation early on in college. With slumped shoulders, I shuffled back to my dorm room after a disappointing evening, and mumbled under my breath,  DANG IT. THIS IS SO HARD!

When I got home, I knew exactly what to do though. I went to my room, opened my closet door, and searched for that secret little box I kept tucked in the back shelf for days like these. I tore out a piece of notebook paper and began writing another letter to him.

It started just like all the others:

Dear Future Husband... 

The author has been writing them for YEARS. What I'm going to share is her final one; for the reason she expressed in the piece:

Dear Future Husband,

It’s hard to believe that this is the last time I’ll ever write a Dear Future Husband letter to you because in just a few short hours you will no longer be my future husband but instead will become my forever husband. It’s hard to believe that the day we’ve dreamed of since we met is finally here. It’s hard to believe that our forever starts today. It’s hard to believe that I have the privilege of marrying a man like you – a man who loves like Jesus does, a man who serves with His whole heart, a man who is strong and brave, and a man who lets God lead His life no matter the cost.

 But on the other hand, it’s not that hard to believe because that’s just the kind of the God we serve – a God who is faithful to work all things together for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28).

When I was 13, my dad gave me a purity ring. Engraved inside of the band are the words: true love waits. In that moment, I promised to wait for my future husband and even signed a purity pact without hesitation (although I had no idea just how difficult that road could be). Nonetheless, I’ve worn that ring since the day it was given to me and done my best to be true to the promise my little middle school heart made to my earthly father, my Heavenly Father, and you, my Future Husband.

It wasn’t always easy waiting for you. It wasn’t always easy when boys would lose interest when I said no. It wasn’t always easy to explain to people all the reasons why I believed you were worth waiting for without even knowing your name yet. All I knew was that God’s design is more beautiful than anything this world could dream up – and that was worth waiting for even when it was hard.

When I felt like giving up, I’d think of you and then I would write to you. I dreamed of one day giving all those letters to the man I married so that he would see how truly important he was long before I ever met him. Today, you are that man. And although some have since been misplaced, I pray you treasure these letters I’ve written to you over the years. 

As I step out of my single life and into the mystery of marriage with you in Jesus name, I’m giving to you the purity ring my daddy placed on my hand when I was a young 13 year-old girl. In it’s place, I’ll wear the wedding band that you’ll place on my finger today as your bride.

Because you are and always have been the future husband that God designed for me, the one I’ve prayed for, hoped for, and waited for all these years.

Although it’s been a long road of waiting, God has walked with me through the steps of lonely seasons, heartbreaks, loss, frustration, and so much more to prepare me to become a wife worthy of your love. Looking back, every single one of those steps that brought us here were so beyond worth it. And I know without a doubt that you are worth it and I’d do it all over again if I had to.

So as I walk down that aisle toward you today, I want you to know that I believe that walk is so much more than a ceremonial motion or formality. Each step represents the steps that God has walked with me through to bring me to this moment as I take this big step in becoming your wife.

Today we give Him everything. Today, we give each other everything.

I can’t express to you how overwhelmed I am by the faithfulness and goodness of God in His blessing of me with you as my husband and I joyfully give you my hand, my heart, and my life from now until the end of time.


Your Forever Bride

Christian relationships. Dear future husband....:


Beautiful that she calls him her "forever husband".
Beautiful that she maintained her purity.
Beautiful that she expressed that her faith walk was not *easy* but oh so *worth it*.

I really do like, and appreciate, this line:

Because you are and always have been the future husband that God designed for me, the one I’ve prayed for, hoped for, and waited for all these years.

I'm 42.
Last time I had a boyfriend was around 32.
I get that the wait can be hard.

Yet the more that you pray, the more that you "write the vision", the more that you "walk by faith and not by sight" (2 Corinthians 5:7), the more that you don't settle and trust that God will make your way perfect (Psalm 18:30-32) because his work and way is (Deuteronomy 32:4, 2 Samuel 22:31), the stronger you'll be come. And trust me, I do enough marriage counseling to know that *good help* (Genesis 2:18) requires a *spiritually strong* woman/wife!

So don't be discouraged.

Take out some time this week to pray for and write to your future husband!
It's not time wasted---present and future!

Proverbs 12:4,


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