Tuesday, September 6, 2016

"On Fire": (VIDEOS) How Would You UPGRADE His Life?

I want to be this good to you baby..:

"An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones."---Proverbs 12:4(NKJV)


It's not the norm for me to reference Jay Z and Beyonce' (or many celebrities at all) when it comes to these posts. However, as I was doing some praying for the "On Fire" women, a particular throwback from Beyonce' came to mind. Over and over:

I'm posting "Upgrade U" for one main reason. I actually like the part where she mimics her husband's mannerisms.It reminds me that when two people are married, they take on the "become one" (Genesis 2:24-25) process, even physically.

Anyway, many of you are probably familiar with the song. Here are some of the lyrics:

I can do for you what Martin did for the people
Ran by the men but the women keep the tempo
It's very seldom that you're blessed to find your equal
Still play my part and let you take the lead role
Believe me
I'll follow this could be easy
I'll be the help whenever you need me
I see you hustle wit my hustle 

I can keep you
Focused on your focus I can feed you

You need a real woman in your life
That's a good look
Taking care
Home is still fly
That's a good look
I'm gonna help you build up your account
That's a good look
Better yet a hood look
Ladies that's a good look

When you're in the big meetings for the mills
That's a good look
It take me just to compliment the deal
That's a good look
Anything you cop I'll split the bill
That's a good look
Better yet a hood look
Ladies that's a good look

Partner let me upgrade you

Genesis 2:18(AMPC) says "Now the Lord God said, 'It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.'"

God brought Adam a woman in the form of a wife who was suitable for him.
God brought Adam a woman in the form of a wife who was adapted to him.
God brought Adam a woman in the form of a wife who was complementary to him.

And all of these qualities put together?
It made the Woman, Adam's wife, good help.

Another way to look at that?
It made her an UPGRADE for him and his world.

Upgrade: an incline going up in the direction of movement; an increase or improvement; a new version, improved model, etc.; an increase or improvement in one's service, accommodations, privileges, or the like; something, as a piece of equipment, that serves to improve or enhance

It's kinda amazing that Adam was in the state of perfection, both personally and as the result of his environment, and still God, in his infinite understanding (Psalm 147:5), determined that it was not good for Adam to be alone; that he would need some help.


She's to provide assistance is to help him to go higher.
She's to increase and improve his way of life.
Her presence should also increase and improve his service and privileges.
She should enhance him.

Enhance: to raise to a higher degree; intensify; magnify; to raise the value or price of

LDS thought-and-great-quotes 

One of the huge problems with sex before marriage is a woman is not *upgrading* a man by sleeping with him. Spiritually (especially), she's actually *downgrading* him (Romans 13:8-10). Hebrews 13:4 says that fornication brings judgment. I Corinthians 6:16-20 refers to sex outside of marriage of an individual "one-ing themselves" to a prostitute. I Corinthians 6:9-10 states that fornicators are not able to inherit the kingdom of heaven (check out "Satan Uses Sexual Desire"). No good things come from sexual sin. Not long-term anyway.

Yet even beyond that, I talk to a lot of single women who are wondering where their husband is because of what *they* want *him* to do and bring into their lives. However, I'm not so sure a lot of time is spent seeking God (James 1:5) about how they will upgrade a man's world. What *fruit* (Matthew 12:33) they have even now that will indicate that they will improve, increase and enhance another human being's livelihood.

This is why it's important to be *friends* with a guy first...

In a friendship, there is transparency.
In a friendship, the platonic foundation makes emotional intimacy more important than sex.
In a friendship, the pressure is off the table. 
In a friendship, you can freely discuss one another's goals, ambitions and dreams.
In a friendship, something genuine can truly develop.

In the meantime, you can RELAX and allow things to happen naturally (Jude 1:2--Messsage)...
You can pray about if "his" life is the one you are called to help as a friend or more-than-a-friend.

Unfortunately, far too many people are out here wishing they could "fall in love" while something essential is overlooked, especially where women are concerned. They need to be praying about the person God has determined they would be a GOOD HELP to. The Word does not say that God gave Adam someone to be *in love with*. It says God gave him a woman would would *help him*.

And when you think of marriage from this perspective, when you watch some of the videos like the ones below, you can be excited for these men. They have their UPGRADE! These women are going to improve their lives in ways they would NEVER be able to on their own! (In fact, they are praised for being "upgrades" in the videos!)

Until God reveals that we can, not only love a man *until death* (biblically-based marriages are UNTIL DEATH), but upgrade his life in a way that truly makes it evident that he needs us in every way, let's commit to God and embrace this time, not as being one of *loneliness* but *preparation*.

This blog is not only committed to helping us all become a wife...
But an EXCELLENT one.

A crown---the ultimate upgrade---for our future husbands!

Proverbs 12:4,


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