Tuesday, March 29, 2016


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My rule of life: #1 "If you want something you never had, you have to do something you've never done.":

Stop agreeing with the lies of the enemy and start fighting by believing the promises of God.:

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"For I desire mercy, not sacrifice, and acknowledgement of God rather than burnt offerings."

Love says I've seen the ugly parts of you, and I'm staying.:

I need to quit trying to please others and focus on pleasing my creator.:

God invites us to to come as we are, not to stay as we are. ~Tim Keller:

We know you're a dreamer, a doer and a thinker. The possibility is endless and you know that.... Don't you just love being the amazing entrepreneur that you truly are...<3:

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it ... Ephesians 5:25:

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No one ever said love was easy - but it shouldn't ever bee too hard. If it's too complicated let it go, but if two people love easily and happily, they must be truly meant to be.:

I've actually heard that psychologically this makes a huge difference in how things turn out for us. So I'm trying it by writing down the things I want most and specifically praying for the *enabling power* to do my part. It turns vague desires into concrete plans and goals.:

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"On Fire": Would God Say You're Making the Most Out of Your Singleness?

#single #quotes: Stay single until someone actually compliments your life in a way that it makes it better to not be single. If not, it's not worth ist.:

"But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband. And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction."---I Corinthians 7:32-34(NKJV)

A couple of days ago...

I read "Why Single Women Are Quicker to Jump Into Entrepreneurship". Check it out when you get a chance but basically it's citing points similar to what the Apostle Paul said---only from a business angle.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of wives I know who are not...living up to their true potential---or biblical definition---of what it means to be a wife. A big part of the reason is because they're trying to "act single" while *being marriage*.

No, I don't mean they are not being faithful to their husband. I'm saying that under God, they are not making their spouse their top priority. Genesis 2:18 is clear about what a woman's first, main and top role is and no matter how the world fights this point (I John 2:16), it's to help man. That's why it's IMPERATIVE that you allow God to bring you (Genesis 2:22) to the one whose purpose you believe in, you are passionate about and you know you have the character, spiritual gifts, talents *and temperament* to get behind and support.

In other words...

Don't marry a doctor if you want a man with a set daily work schedule.
Don't marry a missionary or someone in the military if you hate to travel.
Don't marry someone in the entertainment industry if you have a jealousy streak.
Don't marry a pastor if you don't like going to church on a consistent basis.
Don't marry a writer if you're not prepared to provide chunks of time for his solitude.

I think you get where I'm going with that...

Case in point. A friend of mine sent me an article over the weekend entitled "Stop Idolizing Family, Put Christ's Mission First". It might sound odd at first, but he brings up some pretty great points:

In a video message recently shared by ChurchLeaders.com, Chan says that after many Christians get married they place Christ's mission on the back burner, spending their days in the bubble of relationships, children and the comfort of security. The preacher challenges married Christians to stoke the flames of their passion for Christ and his work, and to step out of their comfort zones to take more risks to further His Kingdom.

Chan, who's been married to his wife, Lisa, for over 20 years and has seven children, asks, "Could I be an example of someone who's married and has kids and is still thinking 'Kingdom first?'" He adds, "Your mission with the Lord doesn't end when you get married," giving examples of how when people date, or get married, or have children their focus tends to shift from standing on the front lines for Christ to pouring the majority of their time and energy into nurturing and protecting their relationship, family and security.

"... It's not about going out in the harvest and being a worker [anymore]. It's about 'let's protect our family now ... let's keep us safe. Let's find some gated community and keep them all in our house — away from all the bad people.' There's no excuse for that."

The preacher says that the mentality of only worrying about oneself and one's family causes believers, and even their children, to miss out on life.

"That's why so many of the kids, when they turn 18, they just ditch God altogether," says Chan. "Because they didn't see anything real in your life. They didn't see that [sense of] adventure, and you didn't put yourself in positions where God had to come through — and then [when] He comes through and your whole family is going, 'Wow, that was amazing! I am never going to leave that God.' No, you just create a little bubble for yourself ... how is God even going to operate in that?"

Chan wants Christians to "surrender our lives" to take risks for Christ and to be examples of living by faith.

The foundation of marriage is not about two people imitating some romantic movie. It's about two beings coming together to serve God better and stronger than they were able to alone. It's about a man and a woman balancing each other in the roles of husband and wife. It's about two people being an example of how covenant works on this earth.

The Godhead agree as one (I John 5:8)...
A husband and wife become one (Genesis 2:24-25).

A spiritually mature couple knows this...

They are as passionate about purpose as they are about one another...
More about purpose, in fact (Psalm 20:4).

And in order to be this focused as a married person...
You have to first be this driven and devoted as a single individual.

This is where the video "Do You See Singleness as a gift?" comes in:

1) God gives us different seasons
2) Singleness helps us to secure an undistracted devotion to the Lord
3) 1+1=4 financially (marriage causes costs to go up)
4) There are added details and responsibilities that you don't have when you're single
5) Singleness affords you the opportunity to just...GO
6) Don't use your whole single experience to pin away about marriage
7) See it for what it is: ORDAINED BY GOD

This brings us to another powerful speaker. She's a former lesbian who speaks quite boldly. In fact, if you know someone who battles with same-sex attraction, shoot them this video:

However, check out this one too:

I really liked it when she said "I've seen where a healthy desire, turns into idolatry very easy. You'll pursue this idea of marriage and man where because your pursuit has not even been out of wisdom, in some senses, you'll settle for anything."

I'm not sure if a lot of women realize how much they want a man over their purpose or God himself. But if in your prayer time, having a man, wanting to be in a relationship or being upset that you're not in one comes up more than pretty much anything else, that's a clue and cue that something is severely out of balance.

I Corinthians 14:40 tells us that God does things in a decent order. And you know what? Not one human being enters this world with a married status. This means that for all of us, for a season (Ecclesiastes 3), singleness is a part of God's plan. His will. His desire for our lives. It's our responsibility to seek him (Matthew 7:7-8) about what that is.

So yeah. Sometime this week, in your prayer and devotion time, ask the Father:

"Am I truly making the most out of my singleness?"
"Am I devoting myself to you and my purpose in a way that makes you proud?"
"Do I realize that I am to embrace this time to become a whole woman before being anyone's wife?"

"Well done, thy good and faithful servant" is an affirmation that can be applied even to our singleness...here's hoping (Romans 5:5) and praying that more of us will want to hear that from God concerning our singleness way before hearing "Will you marry me?" from our future husband.

Amen? Amen!

Proverbs 12:4,


Wednesday, March 23, 2016

An Ounce of Prevention: (VIDEO) Proverbs 31 Woman (from a Man's Point of View)

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A Wife of Noble Character

Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.
Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
She finds wool and flax and busily spins it.
She is like a merchant’s ship, bringing her food from afar.
She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.
She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.
She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night.
Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting fiber.
She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy.
She has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm clothes.
She makes her own bedspreads. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
Her husband is well known at the city gates, where he sits with the other civic leaders.
She makes belted linen garments and sashes to sell to the merchants.
She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.
When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.
She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.
Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her:
'There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!'
Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.
Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise."---Proverbs 31:10-31(NLT)


He had me with the beard and accent (Usher's "You Got It Bad" playing in the background tickled me too). There really is something *so wonderful* about a man speaking the Word, especially about God and women. Even though a man should not lead a woman until he takes marriage vows (submission is a gift reserved for marriage--Colossians 3:17), a man who is ready for marriage is going to take special and certain spiritual initiative before then. This video is an example of that.

Check it out and share it with single and married women alike...
He's saying a word. And then some!

Proverbs 12:4,


"On Fire": (VIDEOS) Are You Sure You Have GOD'S PERMISSION?



First up. What's up with the project from March 11's post?! I get a lot of emails from women talking about all of the things that are "wrong" with themselves. It seems like some of y'all are struggling with saying what is *right*!

Yep. I'm still looking for some more entries about what you believe already makes you a good wife! Remember that I'll be doing some rewarding to those who participate (and thanks to those who already have made the time!).

Anyway, last week I penned a devo entitled "5 Signs and Benefits of Having God's Permission" (hit me up at missnosipho@gmail.com if you're not on the list and would like a copy). Something that helped to inspire it is an article I recently read: "Satan’s Strategy to Destroy Your Marriage Before It Begins". It's from a newlywed couple and they're talking about reasons why abstinence (shoot, even better than that *virginity*) is so important prior to marriage. Click on the link to read all of it. I'm going to include the main points for now:

Satan wants us to make a pattern of obeying our desires instead of God’s direction.

If we learn to do what we want to do when we want to do it before we get married, we’ll carry that pattern into the days that follow our wedding. This is deadly because service and sacrifice is essential to a healthy, Christ-honoring marriage. Love in marriage is shown by a thousand daily decisions to do the dishes when you don’t want to or change a diaper when you don’t want to or watch a movie instead of a basketball game. If your relationship before marriage is characterized by giving into urges of the immediate desire, you’ll most certainly struggle when you get into the nitty-gritty of married life.

Satan wants us to underestimate how susceptible we are to temptation.

Satan wants us to think that we won’t take our sin to the next level. He wants us to think that we’re stronger than we really are. He wants to make us think that we’ll never go “that far.” This is a powerful trick because it plays upon our well-intended desire to honor God and our pride at the same time. Trust me, you’re weaker than you think you are. You can go where you think you won’t go. Sin is like an undercurrent in the ocean, if you play in it, you will be overpowered and carried away into certain destruction...Purity is much more about the posture of our heart than about the position of our body.

Satan wants couples to weaken their trust for each other.

When we compromise sexually we’re showing the other person that we’re willing to use and abuse them to get what makes you happy. Every time we push the boundaries with our fiancée or lead each other into sin we are communicating, even though we don’t mean to, “you can’t trust me because I’m willing to use you and disregard you to get what I want.”

And even worse than that, we show that we care more about our desires than about what God wants from us. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 [Open in Logos Bible Software (if available)] says “this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality” and that v8 “whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.” So when you sin sexually against each other before marriage you are saying, “You can’t trust me because I’m willing to sacrifice both of our relationships with God to do what I want.”

Satan wants to deceive you with the forbidden fruit of lust.

There is a world of difference between pre-marital sex and sex within marriage. One of the reasons for this is that in pre-marital sex the forbidden fruit of lust portrays sex as something that it isn’t always in marriage. Most normally, pre-marital sexual activity is like gas on fire. The passion is high, the feelings are intense, and the drive to go further is fueled by the fact that you know you shouldn’t (Rom. 7:8 [Open in Logos Bible Software (if available)] ).

Sex in marriage is different. There’s still passion and there’s still intense feelings and emotions—but sex in marriage is based primarily on the hot coals of trust, devotion, and sacrifice (1 Cor. 7:1-5 [Open in Logos Bible Software (if available)] ). Couples who built their sexual expectations on the passion that the forbidden fruit provided are often disappointed and confused about why sex is so different in marriage.

Now, to be candid, my wife and I laughed at this idea when our pre-marital counselor told us. We were sure that we were gonna be the exception to the rule. But the reality is, that almost 6 years and 3 children later, he was right. Couples like us can have a strong sex life, but it is fueled by deeper characteristics than fleeting passion. Satan wants couples to get used to running on the caffeine and sugar of lust rather than mature love of service and sacrifice.

This reminds me of a YouTube series that caught my attention this morning because the wife had one entitled "Christian Wedding Night: Wedding Night Survival Guide". Yep. It's literally what it sounds like---and good for her! I know some wives who waited until marriage and frankly had a pretty...rough (physical) experience the first few months of sex because they were ill-prepared and (?!?) no one told them what to expect...and not expect.

She also has this video:

Only four percent of folks are abstinent?!? That means only four percent of folks are being biblically obedient (Hebrews 13:4, I Corinthians 6)... Which means only four percent of folks are *waiting on God* to have his *permission* to have sex!

Permission: authorization granted to do something; formal consent

Synonyms: agreement, approval, endorsement, recognition, freedom, liberty, stamp of approval, sanctification

Sanctification: to make holy; set apart as sacred; consecrate; to purify or free from sin

One of the biggest mistakes that people make is not seeking GOD'S PERMISSION to date someone. They figure so long as they want to be with them that it's all good. Yet let's not overlook what the Word says here:

"But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death."---James 1:14-15(NKJV)

Sometimes, the very thing---or one---you desire is the very thing---or one---that can lead you *into sin* and further away from the Father, his will and his best for your life! So yes, we need God's permission, *including his sanctification*, when it comes to who we date and how. In preparation for marriage!

So, if you're currently in a relationship...
Based on all of the definitions and synonyms of permission...
Ask yourself "Do I *really* have God's permission to do what I'm doing?"

I also watched a couple of marriage proposal videos last night and this morning. There were some lines that each groom-to-be said that really caught my attention as far as the standard that we as women should set.

First video:

In it, the guy said "You've shown me how to RESPONSIBLY love a woman."#awesome

Second video:

In it, the guy shares "Turns out my purpose in life is to love Jenna...You are the best part about being me...our love is my legacy."#nice

Only these couples know if they waited for God's permission to engage in sex. Yet what I do like about these videos is the men praised the women they loved for making them better people. Romans 13:8-10 says that "love does no harm". You can't help someone to sin and really love them. Shoot, you can't be in their life without God's blessing and really be helping them either!

So as you're going through the rest of the week...
Think about if you have God's permission and if you even want it.

Marriage is of God...
It's always best when you approach it his way...
And have *his blessing*!

Proverbs 12:4,


Monday, March 14, 2016

"On Fire": Be Careful. The World Can't Tell You How to Be a Wife Because...

Spirit-Guided Relationships: Wives and Husbands

"And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body.

As the Scriptures say, 'A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.' This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."---Ephesians 5:21-33(NLT)


So, there's a verse in the Bible that I am settling into more and more these days:

"See to it that no one carries you off as spoil or makes you yourselves captive by his so-called philosophy and intellectualism and vain deceit (idle fancies and plain nonsense), following human tradition (men’s ideas of the material rather than the spiritual world), just crude notions following the rudimentary and elemental teachings of the universe and disregarding [the teachings of] Christ (the Messiah)."---Colossians 2:8(AMPC)

It reminds me to be a student of the Word, to teach what the Word says...but to not, as my mother and I call it, "talk to the tree" (Genesis 3). Basically that means to avoid doing what the Woman did with the serpent by getting into long debates with people who try to *excuse what the bible is saying* in order to make a point. (Or condone a behavior.)

Oh, it's amazing how much I'm actually having to do that with believers more than non-believers these days. As some of you have probably noticed, I've been speaking up more and more about what *the biblical covenant of marriage* really and truly is. It's one husband and one wife who are married until death parts them. Nowhere in the Word does it permit any believer and especially any disciple (Matthew 16:24) to "edit" these instructions. If marriage ends in divorce between a husband and his wife, they are to remain unmarried and be reconciled to their covenant partner (I Corinthians 7:10-11). Christ himself said in Matthew 19 that to marry a divorced person is committing the act of adultery. (You can read more about this here, here and here.)

Just because it is not taught as often or responsibly as it should be...
Just because many people decide to ignore these instructions...
Just because it's an uncomfortable thing to hear...
That doesn't make these realities any less true.

Marriage is something that is a blessing to us...
But it is not something that God owes anyone...
Nor is it something that he has permitted us to do our own way.

It's a hard reality.
That, I know.

That's a huge part of the reason why this blog exists, though. It's to prepare women to enter into *covenant*---to understand and embrace all of what that means.

So, if you're a single-never-been-married-before woman, it's important to do as much biblical research as possible about what GOD'S WORD not THE WORLD says marriage is about.

If you're a woman who is on her second (or more) marriage and you didn't know all of what the Word expects, you're welcome too. We all make mistakes and fall short (Romans 3:23). I must say that I am careful to call *first marriages* "marital covenant" and others "marriage". Covenants are serious and the Word is clear about what a first marriage is. However, because the success rate of second, third and so on marriages decreases with every one, I do want to do whatever I can to make sure your current marriage is your last.

At the same time, if you're a woman dating a divorced guy or you're divorced and looking for encouragement to marry someone other than your covenant partner, I honestly am not at peace condoning either situation. Simply put, it's just not biblical. I can pray God's best for you and that you make peace with what that is. God has used me to even help to bring divorced couples back together, so I know, firsthand that it is possible. Yet now, more than ever, at a time when people are becoming more and more deceived (Matthew 24:4) by their own desires (James 1:14-15) and the world and its lust-filled and prideful way of thinking (I John 2:16), being that the Word says "woe to those who call good 'evil' and evil 'good'" (Isaiah 5:20), I have to take a firm stand on what God has already taken a firm stand on.

Not just when it comes to the topic of divorce (Malachi 2:16) either...


Last week, I caught two articles that basically had me be like "Oh brother." One was "Beyoncé Incites Internet Ire For Saying Motherhood Is Her Proudest Accomplishment". The other was "Here’s Why Iyanla Vanzant Says She’ll Never Marry Again After 3 Divorces".

As far as the first piece, the world's a trip ain't it? So you're mad that Beyonce' feels like becoming a mother is the best thing that she's ever done? WHY? Please believe I have my theories. Let's not forget that motherhood is a gift from God just like marriage is (Psalm 127:3, Malachi 2:15-NCV). Satan is the prince of the air (Ephesians 2:2). He hates anything that God has done---and given us the ability to do.

The second? Here's what Iyanla said from her own mouth:

You know what's interesting? When I told a godly wife of over 25 years what she said, the wife said "Sounds to me like she doesn't want to change. Marriage requires a lot of self-adjustment." Hmm...

Now, after all that I said about divorce, I'm all for Iyanla remaining single (wonder if she knows that the Bible says that means being abstinent too--Hebrews 13:4, I Corinthians 6). This was the part that caused me for pause (per the article):

"I would never, ever, ever," she said again, just in case Tyrese or his co-host, Rev. Run, didn't hear her right the first time. Vanzant, a life coach who guides other people through life's most pressing crises, said that she realized she's not willing to do things required of wives.

She'd much rather be someone's partner.

“You know what? I would not be a great wife based on the definitions and the standards of today. I'm a great partner because I see my partner as my equal," she said.

It sounds as if she's suggesting that in order to be someone's wife, you have to be submissive in some way. There's the idea that men like to have dominion over their wives, and it's a role that Vanzant is not interested in or supports. If so, it's nice that she realizes that's not an arrangement she wants to partake of.

To be fair, Iyanla didn't say that she didn't want to get married again because she didn't want to submit, but it does seem to convey that "in between the lines". Good for her for knowing that because the Word says that's *exactly* what a wife should do. She shouldn't be a wife if she doesn't wan to do *what the Bible* says comes with the position:

Here: "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." (Ephesians 5:22-NKJV)
And here: "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord." (Colossians 3:18-NKJV)

For the record, that doesn't mean you and your husband are not "equal", though...

Equal means "as great as" (men and women were made in the image of God--Genesis 1:26-28).
Equal means "uniform in operation or effect" (walking in agreement--Amos 3:3).
Equal means " like or alike in quantity, degree, value, etc." (suitable--Genesis 2:18-AMPC).

What it does not mean is we serve the same purpose in marriage...
Men are the leaders of the home...
Wives are the helpers...
*It's biblical*.

A lot of people, both in and out of the Church unfortunately, do not want to acknowledge/honor/follow the Word. You can tell by the amount of people who clapped when Iyanla said she didn't want to get married again. Note, she didn't say "I'm happy in my singleness" (that's applause-worthy). She said "I would never, ever, ever" get married (again). And that's something to be celebrated...because...what exactly?

Again, Satan hates what God does.
Satan works overtime to get us to do things so off-script that we find ourselves detesting God's own gifts and blessings.

But while the world is condemning women who relish in motherhood and celebrating those who declare they don't want to be married, the standard of godliness still exists. I saw it in a very moving testimony from a wife last week as well:

I'm not going to give it away. Check it out when you get a chance. For now, I'll just say that she speaks on what it's like to be a wife who doesn't keep the Word and what it can do to a marriage and then to be a wife who does honor the Bible and how it can transform a marriage. It's pretty powerful and *very different* from what the world says and does.

This brings me to one more article...

One that I just saw today:

"Ciara and Russell Wilson’s Engagement Proves Waiting to 'Put Out' Isn’t a Crazy Idea".

Two points first.

One, If you know anything about this story, you know that Russell is a divorced man. People have asked me before if I believe God forgives divorce. Of course I do (I John 1:9-10). However, check it: I'm very open about my abortions. How would I sound if I said "I'm so glad God has forgiven me" on the way to the clinic to abort another child? A part of what comes with *true repentance* (2 Corinthians 7:9-10) is renewing your mind (Romans 12:2) so that you *get the gravity of what you did* and you *then strive to keep the Word---just as it's stated*. Asking for forgiveness and then ignoring the Bible and doing whatever you want anyway is...dangerous. Remember, when Christ forgave the woman caught in adultery, he told her to "Go and sin no more" (John 8:1-12) not "I forgave you, now do whatever your heart wants." I'm pretty sure you see where I'm going with that. Maybe Russell doesn't know what the Word says. Maybe no one is bold enough to tell him. I'll say a prayer about all of that. Marriage is not just about "happiness". It's about surrender and sanctification. Marriage must be done God's way. To a "t".

Second point, yes. It *is* nice to see where abstinence will bring a person. Here are some excerpts from the article:

“What would you say if we took all that extra stuff off the table? And just did it Jesus’ way?” Wilson told the audience he suggested to Ciara.

“God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin,” according to the Biblical Book of Thessalonians 4:3.

Doing it Jesus’ way. What a novel idea in a time when the hyper-sexualization of women is apparently no longer shocking. In fact, it has become the norm. It’s well known that “sex sells” and has been absolutely true at least since Biblical mentions of Jezebel...

Ciara and Wilson’s apparently unusual decision to enter into a relationship premised on mutual affection, respect and emotional intimacy, shouldn’t be shocking, and is happily having its moment in the sun right now. It was also a choice made by Hollywood actress Megan Good and her film executive husband, DeVon Franklin, and inspired the Christian couple to write their recently-released book The Wait. It’s heartening to see that public figures are championing the celibate lifestyle, especially as they’re a whisper in a cacophony of sexual hedonism.

Any naysayers out there are of course entitled to their critiques about the value of waiting to have sex. There is no doubt that when sex is good it’s amazingly good, and who doesn’t want to feel amazing? However, sex can also come with heartache and confusion for those who are looking for intimacy and mistake sex for affection, commitment, love and other warm, fuzzy feelings. It also comes with the real risk of sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancy. Whether or not you believe in God, or are Christian, that’s a thought worth considering...

To be clear, making the decision to wait has nothing to do with one’s sensuality or sexiness, which is why criticisms leveled at women like Ciara and Good, who has been judged for being a scantily clad siren, miss the point. I am, as each of those women is, a sexual being who has every right to look and feel good about my physical assets and attributes.
I’m certainly an advocate of taking time to put effort into my hair and make-up, and enjoy rocking hot heels, form-fitting dresses and pretty lingerie. But, as far as I’m concerned, if God says I should only give up my goodies once Mr. Right has put a (wedding) ring on it, they stay in the jar.

It's a wise person who once said "In order to be unlike the world, you have to do things differently than they do." Looking to the anyone or anything that tells you, in this case, how to be a wife? If what they are saying is in direct conflict with the Word, no matter what the intentions may be (because they say the road to hell is paved with those, right?), it is rooted in some form of deception.

Only the One who created/designed/invented marriage...
Can tell you how to really and truly be married.

And his Word is clear...
Crystal clear.

On sexual purity prior to marriage...
On vow-keeping in marriage (Ecclesiastes 5:1-7)...
On roles that husbands and wives have in marriage...
About the responsibilities that come with marriage (I Corinthians 7 & I Peter 3:1-7)...

About what the title of the leader Scripture says...
That a marriage is a SPIRIT-LED not SELF-LED kind of union.

So, whether you're praying for your future husband...
Or you're praying about if who you're currently with should be your husband...
Don't look to the world to tell you how to be a wife.

The only way the people of the world can offer you any sound advice...
Is by submitting, fully, to the Lord and becoming his disciples (Matthew 28:19)...
So that they can embrace the *biblical truth* (John 8:31-32).

Please don't look to anyone or thing who makes light or less of the Word...

For marriage to work correctly...
You're going to need to follow the instructions...

In walks "The Character Traits of a Godly Wife":

Proverbs is most specific with regard to the qualities of the godly wife. These are highlighted by contrasting the moral flaws of a woman who is far from virtuous.

1. A GODLY WIFE IS GODLY. Godliness begins with a proper relationship to God. A godly wife is, first and foremost, a woman who fears God.

Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised (31:30).

In contrast, the woman to avoid is the one who does not know or fear God. She is sometimes referred to as a “strange woman,” that is a foreigner, one who has no knowledge of the God of Israel (cf. 2:25; 5:3,20; 7:5). She is actively evil and has no grasp of the way of the Lord.

She does not ponder the path of life; Her ways are unstable, she does not know it (5:6).

To keep you from the evil woman, From the smooth tongue of the adulteress (6:24).

While perhaps not synonymous with a fear of God, the godly wife is referred to as virtuous or excellent (12:4; 31:10). This seems to describe the moral excellence of the godly wife, a result of her godliness.

2. A GODLY WIFE IS WISE. You will recall that wisdom is personified as a woman in the Book of Proverbs (cf. 1:20-33; 8:1-36; 9:1-6). So also the ideal wife is characterized as a woman of wisdom.

The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands (14:1).

She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue (31:26).

The opposite of the godly woman is the woman of folly.

The woman of folly is boisterous, She is naive, and knows nothing (9:13).

As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout, So is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion (11:22).

3. A GODLY WIFE HONORS HER HUSBAND. A man who has married a godly wife has a wife who will bring honor to him. She is truly a helper to her husband.

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is as rottenness in his bones (12:4).

The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack, of gain. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life (31:11-12).

An ungodly wife humiliates and harasses her husband. She is not a helper but a hindrance to her mate. She is “as rottenness in his bones” (12:4). By her haranguing, she makes him miserable:

A foolish son is destruction to his father, And the contentions of a wife are a constant dripping (19:13).

4. A GODLY WIFE IS GRACIOUS. One reason honor is given the godly woman is that she is known for her graciousness.

A gracious woman attains honor, And violent men attain riches (11:16).

The ungodly woman is spoken of in very unbecoming terms. She is vexing, due to her contentious nature:

It is better to live in a corner of a roof, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman (21:9; cf. 25:24).

It is better to live in a desert land, Than with a contentious and vexing woman (21:19).

5. A GODLY WIFE IS FAITHFUL TO HER HUSBAND. This is most clearly shown by contrast with the woman of folly who is an adulteress.

To deliver you from the strange woman, From the adulteress who flatters with her words; That leaves the companion of her youth, And forgets the covenant of her God (2:16-17).

To keep you from the evil woman, From the smooth tongue of the adulteress (6:24).

“Come, let us drink our fill of love until morning; Let us delight ourselves with caresses For the man is not at home. . . ” (7:18-19).

While it is not stated explicitly, it is implied and assumed that a godly wife is one who maintains sexual purity. She is a woman who is virtuous or excellent (31:10), in whom her husband has complete trust (31:11). She does her husband only good and not evil (31:12). She teaches her son the virtues of sexual purity (31:3). Certainly she is a woman of sexual purity.

The world can't tell you how to be a wife...
Because the world does not submit to the Word.

Please don't allow it to *infect* your views on marriage or wifedom...
Follow the Word, *as it is written*...
And watch God honor you for it!

On both sides of heaven (that's key!)...

"But this thing I did command them: Listen to and obey My voice, and I will be your God and you will be My people; and walk in the whole way that I command you, that it may be well with you."---Jeremiah 7:23(AMPC)

Proverbs 12:4,




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