Monday, February 20, 2017
"On Fire": Prepare for LOVE. Then a MAN.
"Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end]."---I Corinthians 13:4-8(AMPC)
It's been a minute. There's a lot happening this season. Gonna post a few things today, though.
As I was praying for the "On Fire" women this morning, the title of this post is what came to my spirit. Some of you will probably get why off the rip. For those who aren't clear, here's what I discern the Father wants us to keep in mind.
Since last week was Valentine's Day and I do quite a bit of writing on relationships, I saw a few people talk about being single and also being ready for love. Something that hit me about that, though, is what people are usually saying, perhaps without even knowing it, is they believe they are ready for a RELATIONSHIP. If they literally meant that they were ready for LOVE, they could be in that now. Right now.
For one thing, God is love (I John 4:8&16) and he's *always* available and ready to teach us what we need to know about the love experience (Mark 12:30-31, Proverbs 3:5&6). Yet it goes even deeper than that.
As a marriage life coach, something that I see far too often are couples who didn't prepare themselves for love---they just wanted to get married. What I mean by that is they were so consumed with being with someone or having a spouse (or is it just "having biblically-legal sex"?!) that they didn't stop and think "Wait. Am I growing in the areas of love?"
How patient are you? With God, yourself and others?
How kind are you? Towards God, yourself and others?
Do you have jealousy issues or an ego problem?
Are you a control freak?
Do you surrender your path to God or are you always trying to steer him in your direction?
Are you selfish?
Do you have issues with forgiveness (resentful people tend to)?
Do you pursue truth or have a tendency to live in lies?
Do you quit things easily? *Love never fails*
If you really and truly believe that you're ready for love, that has very little to do with a man...
Being in a relationship is *evidence* and a *manifestation* of being ready for love, yet it is not love itself. Love is God. The Word tells us what his bar for love is. So, if you're really and truly "ready for love", then you spend consistent time in the Love Chapter so that God can teach you what love is about. 'Cause listen: Most of the couples who come at me talking about doing what God hates (which is divorce--Malachi 2:16), they do it because they know every little about the "first ingredient" in love. Patience. PATIENCE.
As singles, they didn't know how to be patient with themselves...
So, as spouses, they don't know how to be patient with one another.
God loves us *far too much* to put us in the position where we say "I love you" and "I'll stick with you until death parts us" when we don't even have a clue what we're really talking about. Patience alone is a doozy: "the quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like".
If you can't wait *for* a man, how can you wait *on* a man? "On" in the sense of helping him (Genesis 2:18)? You don't think a man who needs your help is not a man who requires your patience?
Soul singer India.Arie sang about being ready for love many years ago...
If this is where you're at in your journey, I encourage you to alter your way of thinking....
Instead of saying "I'm ready for love. Where's my husband at?"
Instead say "I'm ready for love. Father, teach me what I need to learn about love today."
You'll be flat-out amazed by how much you'll learn (James 1:5)...
And your future husband will be THRILLED by how prepared you were for him. BEFOREHAND.
His Purpose, His Presence, His Peace...