I'm a quotes girl...
A "movement" that goes by the name Godly Dating recently shared this:
"They're interested, but did God say they were eligible?
We have to pray before we make decisions."
I can't tell you how many counseling sessions I have sat in with couples who are currently bearing the fruit of the reality that they did not make building a spiritual relationship, following biblical instruction and making sexual purity as much of priorities as they should have. When you don't and you decide to get married anyway, this is what tends to happen; the "sand" part:
Building on a Solid Foundation
“'Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock. Though the rain comes in torrents and the floodwaters rise and the winds beat against that house, it won’t collapse because it is built on bedrock. But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn’t obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. When the rains and floods come and the winds beat against that house, it will collapse with a mighty crash.'
When Jesus had finished saying these things, the crowds were amazed at his teaching, for he taught with real authority---quite unlike their teachers of religious law."---Matthew 7:24-29(NLT)
Matthew 19:6(NKJV) says "Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” This means that God is involved with and a part of biblically-defined marriage (Genesis 2:18-25). This means that when two people who are courting each other honor God and build on *his foundation*, they are able to withstand...*anything*.
That's what's so cool about that quote...
Entertaining the notion of dating a guy just because he's interested in you is a *very low bar*.
A woman who knows her worth (I Corinthians 6:18, I Corinthians 7:23, Proverbs 31:10) really does ask GOD "Is he eligible?"
And here's the deal. Words have life (Proverbs 18:21) and a truly eligible bachelor isn't just a single man (and ANYONE who is NOT MARRIED is "single" by the way---act married when you *are* married). Look at all of what the word "eligible" means:
Eligible: fit or proper to be chosen; worthy of choice; desirable; meeting the stipulated requirements, as to participate, compete, or work; qualified; legally qualified to be elected or appointed to office
Have you asked God if the guy is the one GOD has chosen for you?
Have you asked God if he's worthy of the position?
Have you asked God if he meets all of the requirements to court and then marry you?
Have you asked God if he's legally qualified (if he's married or even divorced, he's not)?
*This is what it means to be with someone who is eligible.*
Just something to think about....