Sunday, June 25, 2017

"On Fire" Allow God to 'CUSTOMIZE' You for Your (Future) Husband

You can't be a godly wife if you're not living a godly life- Lauren DeMoss

“Set up signposts to mark your trip home. Get a good map. Study the road conditions. The road out is the road back. Come back, dear virgin Israel, come back to your hometowns. How long will you flit here and there, indecisive? How long before you make up your fickle mind? God will create a new thing in this land: A transformed woman will embrace the transforming God!”---Jeremiah 31:21-22(Message)


As I was praying for the "On Fire" women last week and on Sabbath (yesterday), one word kept coming to my spirit.


Customize: to modify or build according to individual or personal specifications or preference

And, as I gave it some thought, something that a couple---two people who were virgins when they got married---said to me came to mind.

The husband: "I didn't really care what the size of my wife's breasts were. I had never seen any before so I was excited no matter what."

The wife: "I don't know if my husband is what the world considers to be 'good in bed''. I've never been with anyone else, so he's the best I've ever had, literally and regardless. I'm doing just fine and even better than that!"


Satisfy: to fulfill the desires, expectations, needs, or demands of (a person, the mind, etc.); give full contentment to; to put an end to (a desire, want, need, etc.) by sufficient or ample provision; to give assurance to; to answer sufficiently; to solve or dispel, as a doubt

"The eyes of all look expectantly to You, and You give them their food in due season. You open Your hand and satisfy the desire of every living thing. The Lord is righteous in all His ways, gracious in all His works."---Psalm 145:15-17(NKJV)

Unfortunately (and double sigh), a lot of us were *super disobedient* (I Corinthians 6, Hebrews 13:4) by violating others and allowing them to do the same to us by having sex without God's blessing or permission. And real talk, that's a part of the reason why some of us are still single now; God needs to renew our minds (Romans 12:2), cleanse our hearts (Psalm 51:10) and make us new creations (2 Corinthians 5:17). And, for every time that we disobey God's boundaries and "return to our own vomit" (Proverbs 26:11) via biblical compromise, sexual sin and/or not guarding our hearts properly (Proverbs 4:23) simply extends the time for us to get BACK to where he wants us to be. First, as it directly relates to living out our purpose in life, but also as it relates to being *just the kind of woman* our future husband really and truly needs.


We must *never* forget that the Garden of Eden was the blueprint for humanity, and as one of my favorite in verses (which is so fitting for the name of this blog) in Scripture says, "A fire devours before them, and behind them a flame burns; the land is like the Garden of Eden before them, and behind them a desolate wilderness; surely nothing shall escape them" (Joel 2:3--NKJV).

Not only that but...

But blessed is the man who trusts me, God, the woman who sticks with God. They’re like trees replanted in Eden, putting down roots near the rivers---never a worry through the hottest of summers, never dropping a leaf, serene and calm through droughts, bearing fresh fruit every season."---Jeremiah 17:7-8(Message)

"[Wisdom] is a tree of life to those who take hold of her, and happy are all who retain her."---Proverbs 3:18(NKJV)

"The fruit of the righteous is a tree of life, and he who wins souls is wise."---Proverbs 11:30(NKJV)

Verses like these remind us that even in this fallen world, we can still have our own "little pieces of Eden" if we're just willing to be obedient. After all, as the late Dr. Myles Munroe once said, only many levels, Eden wasn't so much a place as it was an atmosphere.

And so, if you want the state of bliss that Adam and the Woman once had (Genesis 1-2)...
Doesn't it make sense to do all that you can to follow their model? *Even now*?

Check it:

"Now the Lord God said, 'It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.'

And out of the ground the Lord God formed every [wild] beast and living creature of the field and every bird of the air and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them; and whatever Adam called every living creature, that was its name. 

And Adam gave names to all the livestock and to the birds of the air and to every [wild] beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.

And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and while he slept, He took one of his ribs or a part of his side and closed up the [place with] flesh.

And the rib or part of his side which the Lord God had taken from the man He built up and made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.

Then Adam said, 'This [creature] is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of a man.'

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

And the man and his wife were both naked and were not embarrassed or ashamed in each other’s presence."---Genesis 2:18-25(Message)

Timing is the Father's Business. What we'll get is the Holy Spirit to lead us..(Acts 1:7-Message)...

Adam didn't decide it was time for him to have a wife.
The Woman didn't either.

As for the kind of woman/wife that God had in mind for Adam? She was one that God was going to make to be "suitable, adapted, complementary" to Adam. She would be the very best sort of help for Adam, as it related to supporting/assisting him in his relationship with the Creator *and* supporting/assisting him in taking his purpose to the next level most of all. That said, it's SUPER-ARROGANT (and a bit self-delusional) for *any* of us to think that we know that we're best for someone else. ONLY GOD KNOWS THAT.

That said...

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When you look at the following parts of God's first matchmaking project...
Doesn't "customize" make perfect sense?

"Now the Lord God said, 'It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.' "---Genesis 2:18(AMPC)

"And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and while he slept, He took one of his ribs or a part of his side and closed up the [place with] flesh."---Genesis 2:21(AMPC)

"And the rib or part of his side which the Lord God had taken from the man He built up and made into a woman, and He brought her to the man."---Genesis 2:22(AMPC)
Then Adam said, 'This [creature] is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of a man.'"---Genesis 2:23(AMPC)

If God had wanted Adam to have a plethora of women to choose from, he would've provided that. No, what God did was declare that it was time for Adam to have a wife and then he *customized her* to be just what Adam needed. He designed a woman for Adam who would be suitable, adapted and complementary to him...*in every way*. So much in fact that when GOD BROUGHT the Woman to Adam (not when Adam pursued her but God brought/presented her), Adam confirmed that she indeed had been customized by praising her for being a part of him. Even though he was asleep through the customizing process, he awakened to a woman/wife who was "built according to his personal specifications and preferences".

Now, remember this was before sin and so Adam's specifications and preferences were right in line with God (Amos 3:3); it wasn't about his carnality or flesh (James 1:14-15) more than his spirit man (although I'm pretty sure that the Woman was a WCW for sure!--I Corinthians 2:14). This is reason one billion why we are not supposed to settle for *anyone less* than a man who has a relationship with the Most High (2 Corinthians 6:11-18, Genesis 14:19). They need to "see us" through the eyes of the spirit more than anything else!

The reason why it's *so important* to keep all of this in mind is because you need to stay focused. Since you're designed for ONE MAN ONLY, be careful about how you interact with men during your season of singleness (Ecclesiastes 3).

That said...

It's graphic, but God's Word is graphic about sex (Proverbs 5 and the entire book of Song of Solomon, for example), so I have no shame in my game.

Our vaginas? They are remarkable!

As a doula, I've seen my fair share of babies come out of them. *Entire heads!* And yet (for the most part), we as women have the capability to get our vaginas back down to size.

Yet when it comes to the act of sex? We're not supposed to be caught up in a man's, umm, "size" prior to marriage. We're not supposed to have any knowledge in order to make any comparisons.

At the same time, God made us to be receivers in every way, *including sexually* (check out "This Study Will Make You Think Twice About Who You Are Getting into Bed With", "Semen Secrets: How a previous Sexual Partner Can Influence Another Male's Offspring", "The Problem With Ex-es: How Previous Partners Affect Your Offspring" and "Women Absorb and Retain DNA from Every Man They Have Sex With"). We are to be *customized*, even vaginally, *for one man*---from the moment we say "I do" until we are parted from our spouse by death. Things are supposed to fit perfectly. Our husbands are to feel like they were customized for us and we were customized for them. Like a key and a lock that fit together...perfectly.

Where am I going with this?

As I'm heading into (?!?) 10 1/2 years of abstinence, while I had *absolutely no clue* that it would take *this* long to heal and be restored (James 1:4) from the men of my past (among a few other things), I get now that God is *customizing me*. Not just when it comes to "down there" but even my health. I'm out of the HIV/AIDS testing window. My uterus is healthy. It's been so long since I've had sex that now my memories are more about having a general idea than detailed recollections. Spiritually I honor sex on a supernatural level. I am sooooooooo much healthier for my future beloved.

And the running joke as of late? I'm not small-chested by any stretch. On my father's side, generationally so, women are known to jump up a few cups in their 30s. My breasts jumped several cups at 32---once I *stopped* having sex. When people who knew me back in the day are like "What's...up?!" (LOL), I simply say, "My husband must be praying for a woman with full breasts." I mean: "As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love." (Proverbs 5:19--NKJV) God is CUSTOMIZING me.

And *please* don't get out of this that if you don't have big breasts, something's...not right. The husband I referenced at the beginning? His wife is on the smaller side of average in that area, but she has two things he really likes: gorgeous skin and a great backside. For him, she was customized.

When you're out here comparing yourself to other women...
When you're out here altering your appearance...
When you're out here letting people inside of you who don't belong there...

And, *of course*, this doesn't only apply to the physical...
God is not not that shallow.

Your purpose, your personality, your talents and gifts---the core and essence of who you are?
GOD CUSTOMIZED YOU TO BE THAT WAY---for his glory, your benefit and your husband's well-being!

When you're out here "taste-testing" dudes and acting married when you're not?
Again, you are interfering with the customizing process!

Your concern is not to keep "trying on guys"---physically or emotionally---until you get it right...
Your focus is to be embracing your individuality and refining it.


"And the rib or part of his side which the Lord God had taken from the man He built up and made into a woman, and He brought her to the man."---Genesis 2:22(AMPC)

In the Garden of Eden, first God BUILT UP Adam...
Then he MADE the Woman...
And only after that was she BROUGHT to Adam.

Build: to construct (especially something complex) by assembling and joining parts or materials; to establish, increase, or strengthen (often followed by up); to mold, form, or create

Make: to bring into existence by shaping or changing material, combining parts, etc.

Bring: to cause to come to or toward oneself; attract; to cause to occur or exist; to cause to come into a particular position, state, or effect; to cause to appear or occur in the mind; to persuade, convince, compel, or induce

Even now, right at this very moment, you are being shaped and changed---transformed, if you will---into the kind of woman who, once your combined with her husband, you will only *further* establish, increase and strengthen him!

Once GOD DETERMINES that the transformation process is done?
THEN he will cause your husband to be to you attracted as he brings you into his "wife position".

Why would/should you allow ANYONE or ANYTHING to interfere with that?!

That should be the goal!

If you know you're struggling with allowing God to customize you, hit me up ( so that I can pray for/with you.

Satan doesn't want you to be your husband's perfect fit...
He'd rather have you be distracted and used by random men who aren't a part of your future.

Embrace this season of really and truly being CUSTOMIZED instead!

His Purpose, His Presence, His Peace...


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