Wednesday, June 14, 2017
"On Fire": (VIDEOS) Don't Propose to Your Future Husband. DON'T. DO. IT.
"And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
And Adam said: 'This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.'
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. "---Genesis 2:21-25(NKJV)
We haven't watched a video in a while, right?
Let's check out a few.
Starting with setting the standard. There are some women in my life right now that I'm seriously considering going on a fast for because it doesn't take much spiritual discernment at all to know that they are doing ALL KINDS OF SETTLING in their relationships. Just being with a man who does not display *the spiritual fruit* (Matthew 12:33, Colossians 3:12-17) of being a man of God is a form of settling. Real talk.
That said, let's start this video series off with some by the late and still so great Dr. Myles Munroe:
The Qualities We Need in a Man ("Don't marry a man who decreases your value but INCREASES your value"):
The Character a Man Needs in a Woman BEFORE Marrying Her (HELPER,INCUBATOR,PROPHETESS,RECEIVER :
There are ALL KINDS OF GEMS up in those videos! If you want to finish right...START RIGHT.
And then the proposal...
I just read an article this morning about the trend of women proposing to men being on the rise. Yeah, well...whatever. If even a tiny part of you is considering it, DON'T DO IT!
The Garden of Eden shows us the blueprint for how GOD DESIGNED marriage to be (courtship too!).
HE DECIDES WHEN A MAN NEEDS A WIFE.
HE CUSTOMIZES HER FOR THE MAN.
HE BRINGS HE TO THE MAN.
ADAM TELLS HER WHO SHE IS IN HIS LIFE.
And so, since a man is to be the head of the home (if you want a biblcally-grounded and spiritually-stable home, that is!---Ephesians 5), then allow "your Adam" to *tell you* that he's ready to receive the gift that God brought him!
I like these two proposals because they are intentional, thoughtful and very thorough.
When A MAN IS READY, he tends to show it!
First groom-to-be said this:
"In life, we encounter many people. Sometimes it's by chance. Sometimes it's by destiny. What we have to do is when you meet someone who is placed in your life by destiny, try and see what the Lord is, purposely put them in your life for. Once we realize his purpose, we have to take this thing head on and really see exactly what he is saying to us. You're not on this journey alone. The Bible says 'I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.' I would say when you have someone who is destined for your life, and you realize what the Lord is saying, then it may be time to make an investment."
And then followed that up with:
"I always told you when I do it, I was gonna do it right."
IMPATIENCE CAN CAUSE US TO MISS OUT ON SO MUCH! LOVE. IS. PATIENT.
This next one is just...precious. I like how the groom-to-be told his fiancee's BROTHER that he would be in his life FOREVER:
AND THEN...after things are in decent order...the wedding!
These are all Christ-centered (as every wedding *should* be) and so there was something that especially stood out to me in each one:
In the first one, I especially like how the officiant said,"This is not heaven yet....there is always hope for those that are in Christ Jesus. KEEP ON PRAYING." Indeed, marriage is not a *fairy tale*; it's a MINISTRY. And since we've been focusing so much on the heart lately, I also like how the bride said, "I will invite you AND ONLY YOU into my heart." I also appreciate that the groom said, "I promise to honor and respect you, when we're together and when we're not." Selah. And amen!
In the second! Oh, just goosebumps all the way around!Purity ALWAYS pays off because purity prior to marriage is ALWAYS God's will! This couple started off kissing and then stopped for three years. They also did not say "I love you" until their wedding day (there's some wisdom in that in the "guarding the heart" area). One thing that the groom said was "Physical intimacy is really special when you are man and wife" and something that the bride said was "When we took that leap of faith, God responded hugely." Amen! I also like the part when the groom says, "I honestly don't remember how it feels...it's going to feel right. You are one with Diane." I believe he's also the one who said, "You do everything with YOUR WHOLE HEART." Beautiful.
This next one starts off with a very valid point: CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY. I say that because the officiant shares this: "Nate was in a bible study with some of Jenna's friends...and they were compelled that Nate should meet Jenna. They told her, 'We found your soul mate.'" They spent 40 hours together their first week of meeting each other.
Beautiful. ALL OF IT.
And what these videos are a reminder of is:
1) God needs your obedience, not your suggestions, on how to bring you to your husband.
2) We are designed to help while men are created to lead.
3) Holiness is ALWAYS rewarded.
Don't rush things...
Trust the process.
When a man is ready and when he knows that God has brought you to him...
He'll blow your mind! With his character and heart most of all!
His Purpose, His Presence, His Peace...