Saturday, July 15, 2017
"On Fire": (Another) Follow-Up to God Telling You Who Your Husband Is...
"Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts will be established."---Proverbs 16:3(NKJV)
I honestly did not think that when I penned the piece on whether or not God would tell you someone is your husband that it would get *so many* responses. Although I do make it a point to personally reply, there are some patterns I'm seeing that led me to discern that this will probably be more like a series than just a couple of posts on the issue.
For starters, I want to encourage everyone who has questions in this area to read (or reread) a post from November of 2015 entitled "So, About Hearing from God About Your Husband..." It's got some foundational points to keep in mind because if you don't know God's Word (John 1:1-3, 2 Timothy 3:16-17) on various topics, there's no way you can be sure that God is saying something or not. Because one thing he NEVER does is contradict his commandments, standards or instructions. NOT. EVER.
Next up. There is a collection of married couple stories that I penned several years ago. I turned it into a blog and it's called "So, How Did You Know?" Husbands and wives share stories of how they got together, what they love about each other (mind, body and spirit) and they also provide advice for single men and women. Take out some time to check it out. You might get some of the clarity that you seek there. Indeed, confirmations come in all forms...and during some of the most unexpected times too.
Third is this:
Something that really concerns me is how some of the emails I'm getting come with a tone of desperation and anxiety. The Word tells us to be ANXIOUS FOR NOTHING (Philippians 4:6-7). Not only that but if basically your entire focus is on when you'll be joined to your husband, whether you realize it or not, you're setting him up to be an idol in your world (Exodus 20:3).
LIFE DOES NOT BEGIN WHEN WE GET A HUSBAND...
MARRIAGE SIMPLY MAGNIFIES WHO AND WHAT WE ARE ONCE WE DO.
As a single woman, the BIGGEST FOCUSES we should have right now is pleasing God and fulfilling our purpose (Psalm 20:4)---not wondering the who/what/where/why/how of our husband.
That's why I like verses in Scripture like what Boaz said to Ruth right here:
"And he said, 'Blessed be you of the Lord, my daughter. For you have made this last loving-kindness greater than the former, for you have not gone after young men, whether poor or rich. And now, my daughter, fear not. I will do for you all you require, for all my people in the city know that you are a woman of strength (worth, bravery, capability)."---Ruth 3:10-11(AMPC)
Ruth was focused.
Boaz was watching.
She wasn't out here hopping from guy to guy (or bed to bed).
She was handling her business. Period.
We should follow her example.
You never know who's watching YOU.
Then there's this:
"For God is not the author of confusion but of peace, as in all the churches of the saints."---I Corinthians 14:33(NKJV)
"Therefore do not let your good be spoken of as evil; for the kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. For he who serves Christ in these things is acceptable to God and approved by men."---Romans 14:16-18(NKJV)
We're all flesh and the Word tells us that we can struggle sometimes because of it (Galatians 5:16-17). Yet what you've got to remember is that *marriage is a gift* and so is a *godly husband* (James 1:17). What God is involved in? It's not going to come with confusion:
Confusion: disorder; upheaval; tumult; chaos; lack of clearness or distinctness;
His Purpose, His Presence, His Peace...