ATTENTION MEN: Sexual Healing Is My FOUR-WEEK LONG Prayer for You

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”---Psalm 147:3 (NKJV)

"If you have a destiny...you have to have determination to heal, you have to have effort to heal, you have to be tenacious."---Frank Chase, Jr.



For the impatient ones: Bottom line, for the next four weeks, I am going to be praying for MIRACULOUS and ACCELERATED healing of your emotional wounds, especially as it relates to your sexuality. I want you to get ALL that God has for you. Oh, and I think you should make the investment in the book, “False Roads to Manhood: What Women Need to Know and Men Need to Understand”. (
http://frankchasejr.vox.com/)


Now for the more (reading) diligent: OK, I know that a lot of men don't like to read long recitations, so I am going to TRY to make this as brief as I can. Several months ago, I did a radio interview about how brutal a lot of music seems to be and how angry a lot of men seem to sound in it (why you gotta “beat it down”...”tear me out the frame”???...you get my point). When I was asked, by a black radio show host, why I thought that was the case, I heard myself say, “I mean, it's not like we had therapy for slavery. When someone is molested, there are counseling options. When someone is raped, there are counseling options. But, when our ancestors were freed...after being beat, starved, separated from family members, dismembered...husbands forced to watch their wives being raped and wives forced to watch their husbands being emasculated for years and years...and then simply let go? Let me tell it, a lot of us are suffering from generational post-traumatic stress disorder. We're still angry because we're still wounded.”


Now, that's not a justification, but it is an explanation that provides another perspective on the pain of the black community...and really the emotional sufferings of souls worldwide (because to come from a blood line that did those things to people has to have a subconscious effect on one's self-worth as well). But, this isn't about the socialism of the after effects of slavery. That is by no means my gifted realm of knowledge. I just prefaced it with that because I wanted to say something to the men, especially the black men, and I was hoping that intro would encourage a “non-walled” perspective. A couple of days ago, someone asked me why I was so “extreme” on my physical boundaries in dating these days. My reply? “I've read the stats on boys and sexual abuse (approximately 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused by 16)...how can I help heal a man of sexual abuse by sexually abusing him?” Abuse, in the simplest of terms, is the ABNORMAL USE OF SOMETHING. You have to be mine before I can treat you as such...even, and in some ways, especially, physically. Otherwise, abusing you is EXACTLY what I am doing.


If there were EVER a piece of truth to set a person free! Men, we can't help you heal by taking advantage of you. We can't revere you as providers and protectors when we seduce you into uncovering your dignity and coerce you into relinquishing your power. And, no matter how the world has tried to manipulate you into believing otherwise, your sexual status (and all that comes with it) is POWERFUL; too powerful to be shared with a mass of concubines or used like some communal bathroom in a college dorm...at the end of the day (gross!).


Oh Kings. Did you know that scientists are currently conducting a study to see if the tails of sperm can be used as nanobots for the purpose of traveling around the body in search of microscopic health issues? Did you know that semen has been proven to be an antidepressant and that it can lower blood pressure due to its unique combination of citric acid, free amino acids, fructose, enzymes, phosphorylcholine, prostaglandin, potassium, and zinc? THAT'S A LOT OF POWER. However, did you also know that while approximately 95% of Americans have or are engaging in premarital sex, according to PsycCentral.com, “There seem to be some unique health benefits from marriage,” said Holt-Lunstad, whose findings will be published March 20 in the Annals of Behavioral Medicine. “It’s not just being married that benefits health - what’s really the most protective of health is having a happy marriage.”


A study conducted in Sweden (www.Swedish.org) stated, “Some researchers suggest that the health benefits of marriage are stronger for men than women. A study published in the American Journal of Sociology found that married men live longer compared to never-married men, divorced men, and widowed men. The marriage benefit, though, was not as substantial for women in this study. The reason for this discrepancy isn’t entirely clear, but some researchers think it’s partly because single men are more likely than single women to engage in risky behavior—fast driving and binge drinking, for example. Also, women are more likely than men to have a strong social network, whether or not they are married, and social support is associated with better health and a longer life.”


And, the Center for the Study of Aging shared in the article, “Health, Marriage, and Longer Life for Men” stated that, “Numerous studies covering 140 years have shown that married persons tend to live longer than their unmarried counterparts...The self-reported health status of men shows that, by itself, becoming married for the first time does not lead to any noticeable benefits. Comparisons of older married and divorced men, however, show that the relative health levels of the latter drop significantly as they age. By the time divorced men reach age 50, they can expect their health to deteriorate much faster than the health of those who are married. For this group of older divorced men, remarriage offers a direct health benefit, bringing their health up to the level of men who have remained married.


The health benefits obtained by men who stay married or remarry stem from a variety of related factors, including care in times of illness, improved nutrition, and a home atmosphere that reduces stress and stress-related illnesses, encourages healthy behaviors, and discourages unhealthy ones such as smoking and excessive drinking. Influences of this type tend to enhance a man's immediate health status and may often improve his chances for a longer life.”


You don't have to give me the side-eye. This is not a PSA for marriage, but it is a PSA to remind you of the purpose of sex and how, by abusing it,you are engaging in a form of self-abuse. If you are a Bible-believer, it wouldn't hurt you to revisit I Kings 11 and see how ALL OF THOSE WOMEN (and I'm sure most of them were FINE women) caused King Solomon---a king just as you are in your own right—-pure hell. They pulled him away from God and the generations to follow suffered greatly because of it. Don't exchange God's truth for the lie (Romans 1) by settling for the mindset that you are “a man” by “getting lots of women”. When author Dennis Rainey was once asked, “What makes a good lover?”, he replied, “Two things. First of all, it is a man who can satisfy one woman over a lifetime. And it is a man who can be satisfied with one woman for a lifetime.”


(Link:
http://www.awomansviews.com/special/208_romance.htm)

Just a few minutes ago, after replying to my call for prayer requests for today, a married girlfriend of mine wrote, “I was talking to another young married woman this weekend and it seems that there is a lack of sexual relations in marriages. And the crazy part about is these are young men. Pray for husbands to have a desire for their wives sexually. Pray that husbands show affection towards their wives; a simple touch, a kiss, a rub, etc.” THAT CAME on the heels of me penning this and so I know that was a confirmation that God wants me interceding on you all's behalf because sexual brokenness among MEN and WOMEN has become a spiritual and social epidemic of gigantic proportions. Your sexuality---and all that comes with it; not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually---is a gift to the right ONE woman at the right GOD-APPOINTED time. God truly does not withhold anything good from those who walk upright. (Psalm 84:11) The world's facade of foolishness is counterfeit, yes, even when it comes to sex. (I Corinthians 3:19) It's meant to rob you not bless you (John 10:10). God is all for you having sex, GREAT SEX, in the way that he created and intended for it to be. (I Corinthians 7)


And so, again, after checking out some of the black, male, self-published author, Frank Chase, Jr.'s book, “False Roads to Manhood: What Women Need to Know and Men Need to Understand”, I am recommending that you pick up a copy...especially if you are a single man OR a married man who is currently in a state of sexual nonfulfillment/disillusion
ment. Two, because I am going to God specifically on this issue, if you have a specific request, feel free to inbox me. This is God-ordained...please don't miss out. And thirdly, if you are married, I encourage you to share the revelations of your brokenness with your wife. James 5:16 tells us that it is in confessing that WE ARE HEALED and it's in the righteous prayers, that there is MUCH POWER. She's your helper. She's a good thing. (Proverbs 18:22) You need her.

Thanks for making the time to read this. I am thanking God, even now, for freeing some of you from the chains that have had you bound so that you can get to the gifts that he has in store AND that you can enjoy them as he intended for you to: til death parts you from the princess he has in mind (or the one that he has already given)!


Amazon link to the book:
http://www.amazon.com/False-Roads-Manhood-Women-Understand/dp/0975521780/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1241441934&sr=1-1

Much love AND respect,


Shellie